How did everyone discover the ddlg lifestyle??? <3

[MrJohnny]

I answered a Craigslist ad posted by a woman who also included a DD/lg meme (which is in my Gallery). Nothing ever came from my reply, but I had a feeling that there was something significant to me in the DaddyDom concept. I began doing research and found a different forum than this one. I explored there and began to understand who I am and why past relationships had not worked out. Then I came here and fit in as I still continue researching the dynamic. I no longer frequent the other forum as all I need I have found here.

 

I have since found my own Princess. We are continuing to develop our relationship and communicating together. I finally feel like I am in the right relational place.

[Enterman]

This is still new to me. Just learning all. But how i discover it that i'm daddy.

I have been all time care taker. Ally relationship it take care my love one. If she had problems even minor one, it'sy duty to solve it. I take big deal to be best husband/daddy that i can be. All those relationship broke down, because i want to take care everythin. Last girl was wery dominat too, so when to people like that is together it's not end happy. But i learn what i'm, and now after 40years of life i know what i am. I take long time to come this far, and now i don't lie to me.

And then in one chat room somebody say me that she likes ddlg and then i found name to me. Now i'm here to stay friends.

[MadelynVictoria]

Honestly, I had been listening to these random boyfriend asmr videos, and I came across some labeled as ddlg. I had no idea what it was, so I listened to them, and it clicked. I finally found the kind of relationship and dynamic I wanted, and needed from a partner.

[Cr33pyHollow]

I've always been submissive, sexually and in every day life. For the longest time I had a "daddy kink" which was simply calling my partner daddy. I really noticed this part of myself when I saw a spongebob (lmfao) gif set on tumblr, where he was saying he wanted generally childish things, and I was just like "man all that cabloowey sounds so good whats wrong with me lmfao." I would look at "daddy kink" tumblr posts on google images, and I started noticing a suggestion for an abbreviation i've never heard of: DD/lg. I looked into it and it just felt right and exciting. This was a year ago or so, and I haven't looked back since.  

[kittyboo]

I've always had times where I've felt little but never really connected it to anything but then I got into bdsm and when I started thinking about what I wanted as a submissive it all pointed to here.

[Texan Little Girl]

My ex boyfriend introduced it to me, the gentleness and roughness makes me knees go weak. Like they’ll use the sweetest voice and nicknames while doing such dirty things. I just love it🥹

[Guest little hanako]

a few years ago i was dating an older guy and he told me he was really into BDSM, and even though i didn't really know what BDSM was at that time i decided to take a BDSM test thingy just cause i got curios. at first i was pretty surprised at the results but i looked into it more and here i am now xP 

[Cebakes]

About seven years ago, I met a younger college woman who kind of turned me on to it and got me interested in it. With everything being on the Internet and my natural daddy traits, it wasn’t very hard to master. Then I met S in 2019 and the rest is history. It’s is pretty f’n spectacular.

[Cebakes]

3 hours ago, NadSat said:

Well my story is pretty sad and hurtful and I can’t say I was really into ddlg stuff but I do really wanna share my experiences of knowing it. 
My ex once met a devil (yeah I’m not kidding, can’t call her any other way) right in the street. And that’s where it began from. That girl, she was into all this stuff and I was slowly loosing the love of my life. She turned him into submissive “Daddy”. But we were still in a relationship with him cause she never let him anything except being friends so that’s how I could track everything what was happening to him. She then disappeared from our lives but sometimes it feels like she never actually did. 
(I even had to undergo a course of treatment in a psychiatric hospital after all that). 
 

It was a long time ago, now I’m all fine but still can’t let it go… I guess I’ll never be able to let it go. I’m learning about the ddlg stuff because I want him back. 
I'm so hurt ….

That’s just horrible.  So sorry you experienced that. This is a great site and I would encourage you to visit and post. There are some tremendous people here that could probably give you guidance and support. 

[Little kaiya]

I've known I'm a little for almost 40 years now. Realized it when I was pretty young, explored a lot in my teens and early twenties. Explored further with my Wife while we were engaged and first 10 years or so of our marriage. Found my Daddy at 39 and never looked back.

[lilpincess]

Reading, lol. I first discovered it years ago, but it was presented as just a sex kink, not really a good representation, and it didn’t resonate with fe. A few months ago, I stumbled upon some books and authors that show the entire world of it, and that’s when the light bulb went off and I realized I’ve always been a little. It explains so much about myself lol. 

[Guest Sweet_Peach]

I knew little about ddlg and I previously identified as a sub. With a previous partner I explored more and found I’m more of a little. I’m continuing to explore more about myself everyday. 

[Littlebabyxo]

I had dabbled in it (usually came out through sexual intercourse) with previous partner. However after meeting my daddy through BDSM he asked if I had heard of Ddlg as I was ticking some boxes. After endless researching I realised that I could relate!

I feel so happy to finally be able to show this side of me properly, with someone who understands! 
 

💕💕

[CodeName: Trouble]

I didn’t find CG/L, it kind of found me.

I’ve always been a little, thou I didn’t ‘know’ it or how that was going to play into my future relationships until after a much-needed breakup during college – about when I joined this site 😊

I had a friend growing up that was a natural caregiver, she was a year older and when we were young, she took a shy little trouble under her wing and helped me explore the world at my pace and we kept each other company and helped each other cope with toxic/abusive family environments with so much kindness and the absolute best hugs. I am so so thankful for her. When we got older she always called me “Little”, I always thought she was talking about my height and I’d get upset and she would laugh and give me sweets and little toys – she always held my hand, would go shopping with me and was the one who helped me get ready for prom and pick out my dress and she put up with all my me-isms and I was loyal to her completely.

We are still friends, but we don’t talk much now that we have our own lives and live across the country from one another.

When I was dating a boy in late HS/College I think she had a talk with him (not me, lol) about DDLG and that I was a little, trying to give him pointers on how to handle me. He started asking things like if I wanted to call him daddy and stuff and I had never thought about that before so didn’t know how to answer, and he was relieved about that. He wasn’t a ‘daddy’ or a ‘dom’, turning toxic later because we just weren’t compatible. He was trying to force something that wasn’t working and getting very mean and controlling because of it. One of the worst things he did was try to separate me and my friend because he was intimidated by how fond I was of her company. 

 

That was years ago now, but it was after that breakup that I started doing research. I knew I was into BDSM, but things felt different. I wanted things to be different, and the love and support and soft acceptance and encouragement my old friend had given me lead me here and to realize that vanilla relationships just weren’t my thing... and that 'little' wasn't a reference to my height, lol

TLTR:

Long time 'mom friend' set the bar too high and mean ex boyfriend couldn't reach it,

decided vanilla wasn't my flavor (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧

[LittleNyx]

After I discovered that I'm submissive, I got fixated on figuring out which categories I belong to. My best friend is a Dom, who after observing my behaviors said "In many ways, I see an alpha sub in you, but your sub side is clinging to your inner child." I've always known that my inner child is very strong but I didn't make the connection. Then everything clicked immediately. Ever since, I have been on the journey of a little  

[BaByDino23]

I was meeting up with a hook up one night and they introduced me to bdsm with light play and from there I started to do research about the lifestyle and came across ddlg and as I dug more into that I quickly realized that I have been a little for a long time just never knew it 

[Kaiju]

I have autism and my entire life I couldn't let "childish" things go, everyone thought I was weird or had a serious problem so I looked into it on google. I found out that age regression is a type of therapy your brain goes to when you have severe childhood trauma and/or you didn't get to have a childhood like some other people. I couldn't find a name for who/what I was until I searched into it and now I understand why a lot of my life went the way it did. I also had a therapist when I was 17 who explained age regression and told me that it's nothing to be ashamed of, since then I have become more comfortable with this lifestyle and I'm glad there is a whole community that can relate no matter what background they come from. 

[Guest SoftDaddyPDX]

I met a woman who identified as a little; we instantly hit it off and I felt big paternal, protective feelings for her. I discovered that being called daddy by a consenting adult is a deeply satisfying and prideful thing for me. 

[samar_]

Years ago I watched a clip on YouTube and was very curious, then I understood this lifestyle through research and the stories I was reading during my research. And now I love this lifestyle very much. 

[Renegade91]

For me, I was introduced through a girlfriend. I was dating a girl as a freshman in college. She was struggling academically and asked me to tutor her in her classes. I always found myself very much as a caregiver who loves to spoil my partner and also am willing to do whatever they want/need to help them. So I agreed and we began working together. While she improved, she was a bad procrastinator (aren't we all sometimes. lol.) and would let some assignments just go by without doing them. She asked me to give her rewards when she did well, like cooking dinner for her or taking her for a treat. And then she suggested discipline when she did poorly, which I finally agreed to. Her grades shot up and she was so much happier in that dynamic. I also began loving the dynamic because the open communication and trust required really builds a strong bond. She then made a friend online who was a pretty well-known author who does DDLG stories online and she had her message me and talk to me about DDLG. I went for it, and that's all she wrote.  I've tried vanilla dating as well, but this fits me like a glove.

[AdorableNancyDrew]

When I was 29, someone that I had been seeing on and off for seven years sat me down and ask if I knew what DDlg stood for. I didn’t.

Long story short, I do now and they were right about me 🤣

[Alonetogth3r]

I met a man who made me feel so comfortable and cared for that for the first time I was ok telling him I considered him like my daddy and wanted to call him that. He completely humored me, asked about my needs, and wanted to know about my fantasies. We played really well together and were borderline obsessed with each other because we kept discovering these traits that maybe we had buried around other people. I consider it my most fulfilling relationship to date, by far.

[DaddyRaven]

a long ago ex-girlfriend actually began calling me "daddy" and I had no idea why.  Once I got her to tell me, I looked into it and I realized it made a lot of sense in our relationship; being a caregiver is pretty much as natural as can be for me.  

[Tech85nyc]

When I was around 12-13.

I noticed that I like to take charge while making one-minute decisions with my gang. 

[sophieR]

On 5/2/2017 at 11:15 PM, Empyrean18 said:

Sounds silly but I came about a book on Wattpad and it sounded like me so I did lots of research and then here I was

It's not silly. Me too. Well kindle but same! 😁 There is no wrong way is what I'm going with. 

This comes up and I am like there were signs of me being a little... Like I drank from a bottle at age 15... Only have it up as I got with my partner then was mocked... Missed it. That and I keep saying oh id like a diaper.

Subtle signs.