Maybe I can't be a Little..

[Glitter_Princess]

I have never been comfortable in my own body. I've never felt like I could be accepted or loved.

 

When I was first introduced to this lifestyle, I felt so welcomed because I had finally found somewhere I belonged. Naturally, I've always acted like a Little, but I never put two and two together.

 

I got really involved in things, even made a separate tumblr account to post all the things I enjoy but as I scroll through the DdLg tags on tumblr, I find that pretty much every female little is skinny, with perky breasts and cute butts. I'm overweight. My boobs, which are a 50G, sag and hold no resemblance of perkiness. My butt is large and lumpy. My thighs are thick, lumpy and rub together, and my belly is large.

 

I just don't feel like I can be a Little if I'm so...big. And it makes me feel like I'm a failure to my Daddy. He deserves someone beautiful, like the girls I've seen. And I know that it's all cosmetic and I can change, but by the time I change, he might not be around anymore. I just don't know what to think.

 

[Guest]

You are little. You are beautiful the way you are. Your daddy knows it. I know self love is hard. I say fuck the "cookie cutter" little stamp and be yourself.

 

Littles come in every shape , size and shape and each is beautiful and amazing!

 

Society has brain washed many of us to a standard of beauty which is photo shopped and fake.

[Guest JoeKarr]

Here's the thing.  If your Daddy truly cares for you, he doesn't see the flaws that you scrutinize.  He sees you as his Little.  Little isn't about body size or figure, it's about mid set.  Don't let the pictures dictate how you feel a little should be.  Be the best little you can be and don't use pictures of other littles as a yard stick to measure up to.

 

I'm a daddy (well, switch if I'm going to be honest).  I'm a 5' 7" Asian male that's 250lbs.  I have the build of a discount Vin Diesel and look like an extra from Tokyo Drift.  I definitely don't look like the daddies on the DDlg memes on ifunny, but whatevers.  I can't change that.  But, I can try to be the best daddy I can be.

 

So, you just be Little if that what you feel you are.  Bump what pictures say, and try not to listen to the self sabotaging voice inside your head. 

[PlumpNekoPrincess]

There are quite a few not-so-little littles.

Including myself!

I can understand not feeling as accepted in the way you may see some people portray littles in their own warped misguided definitions.

But here's the thing.

Being a little has NOTHING to do with your size. It's how you think, and how you feel. It's a state of mind.

 

As for your daddy, if he is not assuring you that you are perfect as is, then he is not the one for you. I have met many daddies that are happy with and happy to accept a larger little. And just because you aren't tiny, does NOT mean you aren't beautiful. Sure, there are things us bigger littles cannot do physically, but there is nothing wrong with being daddy's chubby baby. 

[Guest jjangyi]

Like others had said, little is not about body size, it's about mindset. If you want to lose weight because of health concern then sure do it, but if you want to change yourself because of daddy then that's a wrong mindset. Daddy should love you the way you are. I'm sure for your daddy you are the cutest thing ever.

[Guest x77]

I just don't feel like I can be a Little if I'm so...big. And it makes me feel like I'm a failure to my Daddy. He deserves someone beautiful, like the girls I've seen. And I know that it's all cosmetic and I can change, but by the time I change, he might not be around anymore. I just don't know what to think.

 

You CAN change if you WANT to. It's not impossible to reach a weight loss goal if you have one - and if you do, don't do it for vanity, do it for your health. And you don't have to be a size 2 to be beautiful or healthy.

There are also plenty of bigger Littles, cute comes in a variety sizes ~

 

http://technabob.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/tb-hach2.jpg

 

[submissiveboyjimmy]

I'm a chubby little , I'm not literally little, I'm 5'10 and weigh 250 but I still like to cuddle, color, and watch cartoons, it's a mental state or things that make you happy.

[Himedere-Chan]

I don't know why people ask if their body is okay for whatever kink they're into, it's not a roller coaster ride where you have to be this tall. Pansexuality exists and it states that one is not sexually attracted to another's gender or physical appearance, rather their personality. I should know I read the LGBTQ+ Wikipedia enough times. And even if YOU yourself aren't pansexual you can date someone who is, they will love you for you and not for that so called "perfect" body that doesn't exist.

P.S. There is a "search" up at the top right of this site, you can use that to search for topics that might already been posted by countless others and see how many people don't care for male height or length and don't care about female height, looks, weight etc.

Sorry if I seemed mad, I'm not. I just naturally give off the impression that I'm a jerk.

[LittleBlackRose]

I completely empathize with your struggle because I feel the same way. Personally, I feel physically abnormal just in general because I'm not the size and style on magazine covers or even the average in my area. Realistically the people that love us shouldn't be in it for looks because those change whether we want them to or not. Wrinkles appear, hair turns grey, and bodies change as time goes on so looks will never be a good basis for a relationship or being comfortable with your interests. Would I want to be one of the cute little things I see around? I don't know because at the end of the day I take my insecurities with me wherever I go.

 

The real challenge isn't about making yourself fit an ideal of what a little looks or acts like; it's being comfortable with what you look and act like as a little. You are exactly the little you are meant to be and the Big that is meant to be with you is out there, too.

 

Now I just need to remember this myself.

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

I don't know why people ask if their body is okay for whatever kink they're into, it's not a roller coaster ride where you have to be this tall. 

 

this.

 

basically, just because you're into a kink doesn't mean you have to magically

change and suddenly become this whole new person. if you're fine in a normal

a relationship, you're fine in any other dynamic.

 

generally, i'd advise against using tumblr as a cg/l education tool. they're terrible,

usually misinformed, and it's usually disgustingly overdone with just sex. so. i 

wouldn't suggest basing what you are, who you are, or anything else off of what

you see there. 

 

by thinking you're not good enough for your daddy, that you aren't beautiful, that

you aren't just what your daddy wants and needs -- does that mean every other

little like you don't deserve theirs? i'm sure you don't think so but i'd suggest

attempting to improve your self-esteem and if your weight truly bothers you there

are ways to change that. if your health is in jeopardy, it might be time

to make a change. there are even fitness based threads/groups around here

to join if you're having issues. ( also if your daddy leaves you because you're no

longer attractive to him, you just weren't meant to be. you should always work on

bettering yourself for you and not anyone else. relying on someone else's standards

to feel good about yourself is terribly dangerous because sometimes relationships

just don't last and you'll end up left in an emotional/mental pit. )

Edited April 15, 2017 by ☄ Stardust Kitten ☆

[Daddy's AR_Princess]

I am guessing this is why my daddy added this as one of my rules...No negative thinking about myself, I am perfect, I am his.

 

I doubt your daddy cares that you are not some overrated skinny bitch, he loves you for you.