Jealousy

[Dxddyslittleprincess]

I'm such a jealous little and I hate it. Whenever daddy talks to a girl or even anyone it makes me mad and jelly.. It's really annoying but I can't stop it ahh! I love my daddy so much, I would die if someone took him from me. I know I should just trust him, and I do, but just the thought of a female communicating with him irks me a lot. Are there any other little's or possibly daddies that are like this too? or is it just me? 

 

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I don't think this is an uncommon phenomenon; jealousy is a very natural, very normal human emotions. I'm going to link some popular, and recent, jealousy posts here to help you see what I'm talking about. I hope they help. 

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/19539-jealousy-how-to-deal-and-whats-too-jealous/?hl=jealousy

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/18632-dealing-with-jealousy/?hl=jealousy

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17259-jealous-little-girl/?hl=jealousy

[alotalittle]

You are definitely not alone on feeling jealous. Most people feel at least a little bit of jealousy throughout their lives, and some people have it worse than others. MissJellybean is usually the queen of answering questions about jealousy issues (and most issues), so I'd definitely read those links.

 

The one thing you said that struck me though is "I would die if someone took him from me". That concerns me a lot. Nobody is capable of taking anyone else (except by force, but I'm guessing that's not what you're referencing). Even if you and your partner were to ever split up, nobody took him and it wouldn't be the fault of his next relationship. The only person that you can give or take is yourself. Your partner is currently giving parts of himself to you and you are currently giving parts of yourself to him. You both have the option to stop giving yourselves at any moment, but nobody else can take either of you and nobody else can make that decision for either of you. 

 

I struggle with jealousy too (some of it more rational than others). Whenever I feel most jealous, I start off asking myself: "Do I want to keep giving parts of myself to my partner? Do I believe they want to keep giving parts of themselves to me?". If the answer to both of those questions is yes, then I try to work to the root of why I'm feeling jealous. I ask myself another set of questions: Do I know the person that I'm jealous of? If yes, how do I know them, how well do I know them, do I know they would never try to betray me like that? If no, how does my partner know them, how well does he know them, have I heard many stories about them, can I ask to hear more about them so that I feel less scared? Do I believe that my partner is sexually/romantically interested in them? If yes, why do I believe that, what concrete evidence/feelings do I have of that? If no, then why would my partner do anything with them? And so on and so forth. I keep asking myself questions until I come to the root of what's bothering me and then I try to work on that issue. Sometimes it's an issue within my relationship, sometimes it's an issue with myself, and sometimes it's an issue I have with the person that I'm jealous of (i.e. someone I know and happen to dislike). But asking myself questions helps me get to the real problem instead of just hanging out in a haze of jealousy. 

[Guest x77]

I don't mind if my Daddy talks to women ... but if another Little tries to call him Daddy (which they have) I get shaking jealous! lol.

And I know it's silly but even in this online game we play a lot, it's very common for people to build role-play families, I always get all moody when someone tries to claim him as their Daddy or just call him that without even asking.

[DoveM_EllyLpolypetbirose83]

I can saying even being poly I still feel like I would get jealous of if daddy was talk to someone new I would get over it I am sure...lol to be fair daddy get jelly when I spend time with my other partners that are closer by but we know since we travel and all that we get our turns too

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

If I'm somewhere with my little (if I had one XD) and somebody tries to talk to her I would walk up behind her and put my hand on her lower back and tug her shirt pulling her closer to me XD I make it obvious when someone is mine

[Dxddyslittleprincess]

ahh thank you for your replies! also what I meant by "i would die if someone took him from me" is if someone was trying to be his gf or his little and they succeed and and yea /).(\ 

[PrincessVirgo]

Maybe this is just semantics,  I'm not the jealous-type... but I am quite possessive!!!  Allow me to explain.  My DDom knows, in writing, deceit is a hard limit.  My trust is given upon submission to be His and I expect the same from Him... this is the cost of belonging to each other.  It won't bother me with if he has friends, but I expect Him to tell me about his "friends",  don't blindside me... If He allows someone to "play with what's mine", I don't want him back... It's easier to replace than try to clean up the mess. He had the power to avoid it and he chose not to...trust will never be there again.  EX: he could be running late for legit reasons, but in the back of mind.... I know this sounds harsh...but I'm the one being treated harshly. I understand people's feelings change, so man up and tell the truth.  I have told my partner, "I don't trust that bitch", He's always had my back.  Btw, I follow the same guidelines...Trust is a hard limit!  I'm sorry if I insulted anyone...haters need not respond, hahah jk.

[Guest daddysbunnygirl]

I'm like this too only when I get really attached to someone. my daddy knows this. i told him "sorry i get jealous and possessive sometimes , i try not to show it" and he said it's kinda cute but that i have nothing to worry about bc he's my daddy and i'm his little girl only. he'll reassure me when he suspects i'm jealous. i really do try not to show it but he always knows what i'm feeling or thinking! or he'll say things like "why are you the cutest thing in the world, why are you the prettiest girl in the world' i'll hug him really tight and say 'mine' and he'll say "yes of course". all these things really help me but of course i also have to do my best not to feel like this in the first place. i TRUST him completely and so does he, i just remind myself that daddy loves me too much to do anything to hurt me and he's constantly proving this. we're also both open about our insecurities and we help each other through it ! and i think that's very important you just have to be open about it and tell him how you feel, i'm sure he'll understand and say something nice tht'll make your heart melt