Help

[Daddy 4]

Can anyone maybe help me me and I my one friend are having a ddlg relationship but she isn't going into her little space like before and I am getting worried that I might not have been a good enough daddy to her.

[Psychée]

I think that you should speak with her and ask her if she feels good in the relationship and that you have notice that she goes not in her little space like before. Maybe is she just worried about other issues or she isn't in the mood.

If you are not enough confident for asking her face to face you can write a letter to her where you say your worries.

 

Do you have any reason for asking yourself if you are not a good daddy ? this is also a question that you have to ask to yourself.

 

Voilà I hope that i have help you and take breath ! everything is going to be good after a good talk and a big cuddle.

 

(sorry if my English is bad this is not my mother language)

[Daddy 4]

Thanks for the help but I have asked her if is comfortable and she says yes but it still feels like she isn't. This is also my first ddlg relationship and I still trying to learn the ropes and it was going good for while then she just started not going into her little space when like before

[alotalittle]

It sounds like you both are very new to this dynamic (congrats on finding out about it and feeling like you fit into it), and along with newness comes the need for patience and openness to learning.

 

For me personally, my little side is not comfortable around most people and I have a VERY strong desire to protect my little side from any possible harm. Perhaps she isn't going into little space as easily as before, because she's never had to trust someone else with her little space. Her not going into little space as easily might have absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with her. Have you talked to her about how much she likes being in little space? Does she go in and out of it? Is it more of a constant state of being for her? What things make her feel littler? Is she used to being little on her own and not around others? There's probably a million questions that can be asked and she may know the answers to some, and not to others. That's all perfectly normal. Additionally, she may not feel little all the time or even want to feel little all the time. Some littles may go weeks/months without needing to do anything little, some can't go a moment without feeling little. We're all different and our wants and needs aren't always consistent. 

 

Your "daddy space" and her "little space" will most likely continue evolving over time no matter what. The best thing to do is continue open communication and asking each other lots of questions. Read more about DDlg (and have her read about it too!) and share what you find. Discuss each other's boundaries, likes, dislikes, comfort zones, wants, needs, etc. And remember, your wants/needs as a daddy are important too!

[Daddy 4]

[plumflower]

Woah.. hold your horses please. I mean I'm not a season veteran at all and that's why I think I can shed some light on this being a fairly new little. I've only had 2 daddy's and one left me because he found someone closer to him. My new and current Daddy knows that I am new and he tries very hard to be patient with me. See the things is, if she's anything like me than she might not completely understand what it means to go into the "little" spave or that she is even a little to begin with. 

 

Some times a person doesn't fit into just one category. See, I'm foremost a little and I had to figure this out that I am one and when I do the things I do like pout and cling to Daddy or make cute noises, that's me being a little. But I'm also a brat, a very defiant one! I constantly challenge my Daddy and he has to pull me back and put me in my place. I have had to learn to read him. I'm  pet too and I love being his kitten and purring and mewing for his attention. Does she know what she is and how much of each she is?  Do you know if you are a Daddy only or are you a mix of others too?

 

I suggest that the two of you talk and take the BDSM test to find a base to start at. My Daddy is a Sadist Master, but with me he found that he can embrace his Daddy side. I have also embraced my slave side too. Before you break things off. I really think you two should find a time to be together and really talk. I don't think it's your being a bad Daddy, just not knowing what she needs and maybe she doesn't know what she needs.

 

So discover them together.

 

It takes a while for us littles to know ourselves. I discovered I am clingy af but as long as my Daddy reassures me and we have a set schedule I don't freak out and think Daddy doesn't care or doesn't want to talk to me.