Daddy break-up

[MandyCheeks]

Im 26 and my 30 year old DD broke it off with me after only 4ish months. The time frame isn't important, because it was strongly filled with trust, honesty, loyalty, admiration, and we were exclusive to one another (which is the ONLY away id have it). We didn't know about our mutual interest on DDLG until we tread the sexual waters a little deeper. It was shortly lived due to a recent epihipany that he has been having regarding finding himself, needed space, yada yada. Which is cool, however he also hasn't gotten over his ex fiancé who left him several months prior to us meeting each other, and he has recently brought that up. Anywho, I absolutely adored being able to open up to him on a physical and emotional level, but the break up just forces all of that to become a dishovled puzzle on the ground. Imaging having another Daddy or being someone else's Sub seems just too painful. But, it's what I'm into. Any advice?

[Guest ASerpent]

I sent you a friend request. We can talk about it if you want to. Edited April 8, 2017 by ASerpent

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

It will take time before you start feeling like yourself again and after awhile you will know when you are ready for another relationship

[MountainWillow]

Iam in the same boat. After six months my daddy up and ghosted me, disappeared, found out he had angf. Its an awful feeling, being a lonely little. I got

some great advice from the folks here. Stay and make friends here, self nurture however you need, and dont give up!

[Lil' Poundcake]

You say it's cool that he broke up with you to deal with his issues, but obviously you're not cool with the break up. 

 

Seeing that he was still troubled by his past break-up, which is quite understandable as he was planning to marry her, he was likely never in the place to fully give you what you needed from the get go. I think he did the right thing for both of you by walking away, he has some healing and self-work of his own to do before he can be in a relationship again. While he could possibly come back at some future point, I wouldn't hold onto anything, it would be best to remember it for what it was and grow from the experience. Try not to get attached too quickly in the future, otherwise you may have a rocky road ahead of you, romantically speaking. Littles can have fragile hearts, so be careful.

 

Like others have said above, stick around the community, make some friends, and focus on healing yourself so that you can be available for a relationship the next time it comes knocking, and it will come knocking.

[MandyCheeks]

Thank you so much. And Poundcake, you just said everything that my rationale mind thinks, without adding all the sadness, and anger, etc.

[Antoinette]

Hola! Just a thought here, regardless of what you're into everybody has relationships that end and everybody needs time to grieve those relationships. Being into BDSM doesn't (or at least, shouldn't, imo) be the center of your universe - it shouldn't be the main thing about you. Just because you're a sub or a little it doesn't mean that you need a daddy constantly in order to be complete as a human being. You don't. You need time to grieve this relationship - you need to allow yourself to be sad, angry, happy and any other emotion you may come across. But don't let the bad emotions consume you. Do things you enjoy, as much as you just wanna curl up into a ball and cry - don't. Hang out with friends, focus on hobbies, take on a new hobby - distract yourself.

Time heals all.

[Guest]

As he said, you should probably wait until you feel comfortable treading back into the deep end so to speak. All and all, it just depends on how attached you were be it Physically or emotionally. That process can take days or years. Ya never know