disappointment/reprimands, the aftermath, and selfceare

[Guest lunarmoth]

hi hi

 

so how do some of you all deal with getting a talking to/disappointment/reprimanding? 

 

Especially from an authority figure you look up to (doesn't have to be daddy/mommy)?

 

I am very empathetic and so when I get a dressing down I semi-shut down. Like I go all sad and upset and try to make it up, but sometimes its not even directed at me so there is nothing I can do. 

 

Any ideas on techniques to get me out of the funk esp if it's not my fault and not directed at me?

 

I don't currently have a daddy or a caregiver to turn to, so its generally up to myself.

 

Any thoughts/comments/discussions would be great!

 

thanks thanks,

lunarmoth

 

[Foxcatcher]

Since you describe yourself as an empath, you have a difficult journey ahead. You feel pain in a profound way. Building protective mental walls, like I have, would take a lot of time for you to develop. Instead, you should use your empathic ability to use happiness and joy to counter the negative feelings. You can PM me, if you would like to.

[DaddyMs]

as a fellow empath, this will help you a lot :

Why empaths freeze around certain people:
https://theknowing1.wordpress.com/2015/09/01/why-empaths-freeze-around-inauthentic-people/
50 Rules of Life for The Empath
Posted in Alternative, Ascension Related, Grounding for Empaths, Help for Empaths, Mind, Body and Spirit    by Diane Kathrine    
1. Let Go of Expectations

Our expectations can cause us untold pain and frustration. When we let them go,  it will free us from disappointment.
2. Learn to Accept

We cannot and should not control everything in life. Acceptance of self, others and life situations is essential if we want to live a happy, healthy life.
3. Release Dependency on Others

When we depend on another to make us feel happy or to give our life meaning, we miss out on our own unique journey.
4. Control your Thoughts

Most of our stress is born, not from our life situations but the way we think about them. Choose your thoughts wisely.
5. Judge Not

Judging another will only serve in making you fearful of others judgements towards you; which in turn will make you afraid of doing, saying or being your true-self.
6. Stop Procrastinating

Don’t put off today what you can do tomorrow. Time goes by too quickly. Don’t waste life thinking about what you could be doing and just do it.
7. Be at Peace with Criticism

Trying to go through life avoiding criticism will only stop you from doing what you are meant to do and becoming who you are meant to be.
8. Change not Another nor let Another Change You

Allow yourself or others to be who they truly are. Trying to mould another into being the person you want them to be, or changing oneself to please another takes away life’s opportunities.
9. Don’t Take it Personally

If another judges, criticises or treats you badly, it is not a reflection on you but on them.
10. Stay Unique

With everyone trying to fit in originality is rare. Give yourself the gift of being a one-off original.
11. Never Give Up

Good things aren’t meant to arrive overnight and we have little appreciation of that which comes easy. If you want something and believe in it keep striving towards it, no matter what your age.
12. Leave the Crowd Behind

We are each here to enjoy our own exclusive life experience; following the crowd stops you from having it.
13. Collect Experiences not Treasures

The only thing we get to take with us when we leave this body is our knowledge and experience. Our possessions stay behind.
14. Abandon the Fear of Failure

A failure is simply a learning experience to teach us how not to do something in the future. When we learn something, through failure, it is a valuable gift that only we can give ourselves.
15. Believe in Yourself

Believe in what you want to do, not what family or society expects you to do. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will.
16. Embrace Success

Have confidence in the fact you are successful and you always will be!
17. Love What You Do and Do What You love

When you are happy in your work, success will follow.
18. Don’t Place Your Worth on Your Appearance

Youthful looks will fade in time but the beauty within continues to grow. Embrace who you are and not how you look.
19. Take Responsibility For Your Actions

Live life believing karma exists.
20. Create The Change You Want To See

Don’t wait for someone else to do it first. Be the answer you’ve been waiting for.
21. Treat Everyone as an Equal

No one is better than another, no matter what their wealth or status. Believing we are better or lesser than another leads to grandiosity or lack of self-worth.
22. Listen to Others

Most are not listening, they are simply waiting for their chance to speak. When we allow ourselves to really hear what others are saying, we expand our own consciousness.
23. Take Not Revenge

It is not up to us to punish others for what we consider bad behaviour. When we treat others badly, or push them away, to teach them a lesson, it will always backfire!
24. Remember You Have Freewill

It is your life, you do not have to do anything you do not want or choose.
25. Allow Yourself to Give and Receive Love

Opening your heart is not a sign of weakness, it’s a show of strength.
26. Let Go of Pain

We wouldn’t hold on to a burning coal, so why allow painful emotions to burn within our body.
27. Don’t Allow Rules to Stifle Creativity

Rules should be seen as guidelines, be a rebel and break a few.
28. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone Daily

If you want to see life changes do something each day that makes you uncomfortable.
29. Stop Waiting for Another to Complete You

The only person who can make you complete is you.
30. Learn to Be on Your Own

Learning to like one’s own company makes the journey of life into an extraordinary expedition.
31. Love Yourself

If you don’t like yourself, you won’t respect yourself and if you don’t respect yourself, no one else will!
32. Keep Your Self-Talk Positive

It is the key to a happy, productive life.
33. Eat What Nature Intended

Genetically modified and chemically laden foods have no right being inside the human body. For lasting health and happiness keep your diet clean.
34. Nurture Body Mind and Spirit

They are connected and only when all three are balanced can we find harmony in life.
35. Free Your Voice and Learn to Say No

If others do not want to respect your right to choose, that is their problem. No matter what you do, you will never please others most of the time, so you may as well please yourself all of the time.
36. Remember Your Friends

One of the biggest regret of those on their deathbed is losing touch with old friends. You cannot make new ‘old friends’. You will rarely make friends like the ones who have been in your life for the long hall, don’t forget them.
37. Free Yourself from Childhood Issues

The child in you lived and got through those difficult times; don’t let the adult now be punished by them.
38. Let Go of Resentment

Why let another’s actions blight your life? Being filled with resentment towards others makes you bitter. Let it go.
39. Control Anger

Our anger only serves in punishing us, not the ones we are angry with.
40. Help Others to Help Themselves

Instead of telling others how to do it, show them by example.
41. Lose The Need to be Right

Wanting to be right, just makes others wrong. Value others opinions.
42. Question Everything

Don’t believe everything you read, hear or see. If it doesn’t feel right, chances are it isn’t.
43. Give Without Expect of Return

Doing nice things for others without expecting anything back, sets the spirit soaring.
44. Stop Throwing Pity Parties

Talk and think like a victim and be a victim.
45. Strive for Many Life Experiences

Keep your life energised with new experiences every day.
46. Why Wait? Go and Get It

If you want something, find a way to get it. Don’t die with your dreams still inside. Step out there and create them.
47. Respect the Elderly

We will all be old one day.
48. Find Your Passions

How will you know what they are if you don’t seek them out?
49. Select Acquaintances Wisely

You become who you spend most time around.
50. Choose Happiness

We have a choice how to feel. For a joyful  life make the decision to feel happy each and everyday!

©Diane Kathrine Just Be
source: https://theknowing1.wordpress.com/2014/04/29/50-ways-to-a-happy-life-by-just-be/