Dom or dom capitalizing

[CurlyBear]

This might be something that others may or may not agree with.

 

So I've been corrected before for not capitalizing the d in both daddy and dom. While I understand fully that a dom is a respectable role and title, to me a dom with a capital d is earned and given to the one I give myself to or a true Dom. Not only that but when talking about BDSM, I want there to be a difference when I'm talking about doms in general or talking about my Dom. Not only that but there are many doms who don't deserve it, who are fake, and are nothing but pathetic, as harsh as I sound.

 

I do have an exception of this view. I will capitalize the d to doms that don't own me, but ones in which I respect as good Doms that do deserve it, those in which have become my friend or are just a very highly respectable person.

 

This applies the same with master, mistress, or sir, which ever is preferred.

 

I know many people are different in this regard and so this is just me.

But I would love to know your opinions and thoughts, if it's agreement of disagreement C:

[Guest syther]

I believe this is a great idea! I think your way of doing things is a great idea, it is also a great way to spot the fakes, in my opinion, a good Daddy or Dom will accept that and will in fact respect you more for only offering respect once it's been earned. If people don't understand that respect is earned then I think they're worth getting rid of

[Johnny Hammersticks]

If they arent your Dom, or Daddy, why refer to them in those terms at all?

 

It used to be a huge pet peeve of mine, when in group chats, or talking to people, when they didnt capitalize. Like, a little referring to her dom or daddy. Id be like "how does he allow her to type it like that?" Or when a guy would refer to himself as a daddy. Id be like "man, this dude just dont get it"

 

Not capitalized its meaningless. Like calling him "buddy"

[Mikaitaku]

Unless they so happen to be your daddy/dom they really don't have any say in the matter and you are under no obligation to obey them.

[Guest MeneerM]

Daddy's of Doms who don't deserve the capital D, don't deserve the title at all, so in the meanwhile I think that real Doms, should be written with a D. Fakers are just dudes trying hard to fake their way in!

[CurlyBear]

I believe this is a great idea! I think your way of doing things is a great idea, it is also a great way to spot the fakes, in my opinion, a good Daddy or Dom will accept that and will in fact respect you more for only offering respect once it's been earned. If people don't understand that respect is earned then I think they're worth getting rid of

Hahah thank you!

 

If they arent your Dom, or Daddy, why refer to them in those terms at all?

It used to be a huge pet peeve of mine, when in group chats, or talking to people, when they didnt capitalize. Like, a little referring to her dom or daddy. Id be like "how does he allow her to type it like that?" Or when a guy would refer to himself as a daddy. Id be like "man, this dude just dont get it"

Not capitalized its meaningless. Like calling him "buddy"

Well when speaking about them in general is what I mean. Like just saying doms is what I got correct on when I was referring to them in a group. But yeah I totally agree with you that not capitalizing is like a buddy kind of thing and to me if they are taking about a dom they are with, it's disrespectful to say dom and not Dom

And it's down powering when a dom says they are a dom without the capitalize.

 

Unless they so happen to be your daddy/dom they really don't have any say in the matter and you are under no obligation to obey them.

Right! Agreed!

 

Daddy's of Doms who don't deserve the capital D, don't deserve the title at all, so in the meanwhile I think that real Doms, should be written with a D. Fakers are just dudes trying hard to fake their way in!

Hahaha yes! If they are fake they don't deserve either having the capitalized or the title itself!

And for true real Doms, even if I'm not theirs or whatever and I'm taking about them or whichever, I'm happy to call them a true Dom

[LittleBlackRose]

While my approach to the concept of earned respect is different, I can appreciate your take. I learned to capitalize Dom/me, Daddy, or Mommy in general conversation as a denotation of which role is the top, so to speak. This make sense to me and I would read it as such if someone were to write Sub instead of sub (excluding the beginning of a sentence, of course). That said, I will not refer to an individual with an honorific if they are not attached to me or haven't earned it. Even in chat when someone calls themselves, for example, "DaddyWhateverMyNameIs" I will address them with an acronym or a specific part of their name. My example would be an acronym but something like "RacerDaddy" would be just "Racer."

 

I thoroughly agree that, like submission in general, the respect implied with an honorific must be earned in the eyes of the person using it and the community as a whole.

[Guest mlkykit]

While my approach to the concept of earned respect is different, I can appreciate your take. I learned to capitalize Dom/me, Daddy, or Mommy in general conversation as a denotation of which role is the top, so to speak. This make sense to me and I would read it as such if someone were to write Sub instead of sub (excluding the beginning of a sentence, of course). That said, I will not refer to an individual with an honorific if they are not attached to me or haven't earned it. Even in chat when someone calls themselves, for example, "DaddyWhateverMyNameIs" I will address them with an acronym or a specific part of their name. My example would be an acronym but something like "RacerDaddy" would be just "Racer."

 

I thoroughly agree that, like submission in general, the respect implied with an honorific must be earned in the eyes of the person using it and the community as a whole.

 

This is exactly how I see and do things. I don't see how or why capitalizing a letter would translate to "I am your Sub now and you are akin to my Dom", that happens when you verbally recognize them as such. Further, as someone above said, why would you be addressing someone who isn't your Dominant as "Daddy" or "Sir" anyhow? Capitalizing the first letter is usually how the BDSM meanings of  "daddy" or "dominant" are distinguished from the common meanings.

[Guest MeneerM]

While my approach to the concept of earned respect is different, I can appreciate your take. I learned to capitalize Dom/me, Daddy, or Mommy in general conversation as a denotation of which role is the top, so to speak. This make sense to me and I would read it as such if someone were to write Sub instead of sub (excluding the beginning of a sentence, of course). That said, I will not refer to an individual with an honorific if they are not attached to me or haven't earned it. Even in chat when someone calls themselves, for example, "DaddyWhateverMyNameIs" I will address them with an acronym or a specific part of their name. My example would be an acronym but something like "RacerDaddy" would be just "Racer."

 

I thoroughly agree that, like submission in general, the respect implied with an honorific must be earned in the eyes of the person using it and the community as a whole.

 

I don't think I get your point here... Do you mean with top.. the dominant role? So a submissive daddy would be written without a capital?

[Guest mlkykit]

I believe she meant "top" as in the dominant role, since topping is often synonymous with being the dominant. And to me, even if the Dominant had a submissive streak, he'd still be playing the dominant role in the relationship.

[LittleBlackRose]

I don't think I get your point here... Do you mean with top.. the dominant role? So a submissive daddy would be written without a capital?

 

Yes, I meant top as the dominant role, and a Daddy regardless of any submissiveness is still the lead role of the dynamic. While I was apparently unsuccessful, I was trying to indicate that the capitalization illustrated which role was the lead, at least to me. Therefore submissive Daddy and Dominant little reads to me that in terms of Caregiver/little, the Daddy is the lead and in general D/s activities the roles are reversed.