Is having a daddy and a boyfriend at the same time okay?

[Dxddyslittleprincess]

Hi, I was wondering if it's okay to have one guy your daddy while you have another guy as your boyfriend? Is it still cheating?

 

My boyfriend is okay with ddlg but doesn't really know what to do and he barely does anything when I go into little space besides call me princess, baby girl, etc.

 

I met the other guy a couple days ago and he said he's into ddlg but he doesnt have a little. He's more into it than my boyfriend and I like him (but ofc I love my boyfriend). I don't really want to do dirty things with the guy I'd like as my daddy (besides spankings).

 

So yeah,is it okay to have a daddy and a boyfriend? (Two different guys) or is it cheating?

[Guest PrincessKittyx]

as long as everyone involved is informed and consenting, its fine IMO.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Does your boyfriend know about the Daddy? Does your Daddy know about the boyfriend? Are they both aware and consenting of each other's relationships with you? If all parties involved are comfortable and aware, then it's absolutely okay. It's not cheating, and you should check out my polyamorous resource.

 

However, if you answered 'no' to any of these questions, it's absolutely cheating. In my opinion.  

[Guest x77]

If everyone is okay with it it's swinging. Cheating is when you're being disloyal and nobody knows.

There are a few people here who have multiple Daddys and husbands/ boyfriends (open relationship option as well)

[SkunkPrincess]

If your boyfriend knows about your daddy and they both agree to it, then its not considered cheating. But if one of the two doesn't know it or they disagree with it, then its considered cheating.

[Daddybears PLB]

I agree with all of the above comments but i would like to give my opinion that perhaps you should give your boyfriend some more time to become more comfortable with his role as your Daddy and boyfriend... as you said he has already shown some signs of taking care of you in your little space, it could be that he just is unsure of what you need or want from a Daddy so he might benefit from you lookin through information with him or chattin through what you really enjoy or suggest activities to do together while you're in your littlespace . Obviously i don't know all the facts so i am just giving my opinion based on limited information....only you know how things are in reality.

I would also like to say that if u think there is a chance your boyfriend can overtime fulfill your needs personally i feel it would be so rewarding and worth the effort and patience. My Daddy/Partner is experienced and very good at taking care of a little in many ways but we both still needed a few months to learn each others ways and chat about various aspects of ddlg to get to where we are now where we just do things automatically and with ease... he knows when i need something and vice versa but we still engage in learning more together about the lifestyle in an ongoing basis. For me It is a wonderful feeling to be everything to one person and for one person to be everything to you.... its just what i believe but obviously everyone is different and thats totally ok.... just do what makes you feel happy and at peace ☺

I wish you all the best with whatever path you choose to take xx

[Dxddyslittleprincess]

Thank u for all your replies! They both know about each other and what they're roles are, I just didn't know if it's okay to have two different people and stuff. But thank you for your help!

[Guest Wolfsbabylove]

its not cheating if all parties involved know exactly whats going on and consent to everything.

[Simon.dd4lg]

It's your life live it your way

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Any man thats willing to share his girl, aint much of a man.

 

If one, or both are willing to share, they dont really care about you.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Any man thats willing to share his girl, aint much of a man.

 

If one, or both are willing to share, they dont really care about you.

This is rude and highly uncalled for considering you know absolutely nothing about this situation.

 

I am monogamous with my husband who is my Daddy, but polyamory is a perfectly legit relationship. Truthfully in my opinion if they both know they can't offer her something she needs and are willing to allow her to seek those needs elsewhere they must care about her an awful lot.

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you're doing and I feel both of these men care about you a great deal.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

This is rude and highly uncalled for considering you know absolutely nothing about this situation.

 

I am monogamous with my husband who is my Daddy, but polyamory is a perfectly legit relationship. Truthfully in my opinion if they both know they can't offer her something she needs and are willing to allow her to seek those needs elsewhere they must care about her an awful lot.

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you're doing and I feel both of these men care about you a great deal.

So im not allowed to express a differing opinion on a public message board? Should i just sit in on the love in and validate something i think is wrong, like everyone else is doing in this thread? Is this forum only for people who all agree with each other?

 

If you love the person youre with, why seek others to fullfil a separate need. Seems irresponsibly selfish, as its unsustainable and bound to hurt someones heart. My take may not be politically correct but its my take. Take it or leave it.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

So im not allowed to express a differing opinion on a public message board? Should i just sit in on the love in and validate something i think is wrong, like everyone else is doing in this thread? Is this forum only for people who all agree with each other?

 

If you love the person youre with, why seek others to fullfil a separate need. Seems irresponsibly selfish, as its unsustainable and bound to hurt someones heart. My take may not be politically correct but its my take. Take it or leave it.

It's not your differing opinions it's your way of expressing it.

I don't think it bound to hurt someone. JellyBean up above is poly and her relationships seems quiet good, actually better than quiet a few monogamous ones I've seen. I don't think being a little is a "separate need" for everyone, it's something they truly do need and some need a Daddy to fulfill that caregiver role.

 

While this is absolutely not for me, I think saying neither of these men care for her was not the best way to word it. You don't know these men, you can't speak to weather or not they care for her.

 

Just like you, this is my opinion. And opinions are like buttholes, everyone's got one and most of them stink.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

It's not your differing opinions it's your way of expressing it.

I don't think it bound to hurt someone. JellyBean up above is poly and her relationships seems quiet good, actually better than quiet a few monogamous ones I've seen. I don't think being a little is a "separate need" for everyone, it's something they truly do need and some need a Daddy to fulfill that caregiver role.

 

While this is absolutely not for me, I think saying neither of these men care for her was not the best way to word it. You don't know these men, you can't speak to weather or not they care for her.

 

Just like you, this is my opinion. And opinions are like buttholes, everyone's got one and most of them stink.

Meh, ive tried it and seen numerous friends try it, and it really over complicates things. I didnt really feel like sugarcoating it on this one. Theres enough "oh thats great" posts in this thread, someone needed to say it...

[neko]

What does it matter if strangers think it's okay? If you're comfortable with it that's all that matters.

[Sneaky Pink Baby]

I actually have a relationship going on like this at the moment also. I was with my boyfriend for a few months first and then met a Daddy to take care of my baby self. My Daddy is fine with it because it is more of just a kink thing to him as it is to me... but I guess what throws me off a bit is why my boyfriend is even okay with it? He has not asked to do anything else with anyone else and he doesn't want an open relationship. He says it is only okay with my Daddy or else he would view it as cheating. I mean I am happy... Just a tad confused >.<

[Dxddyslittleprincess]

Just a little comment for this, I broke up with my boyfriend because of personal reasons and now I'm just with my daddy. Thank you again for the replies!

[Rantanplan]

Any man thats willing to share his girl, aint much of a man.

If one, or both are willing to share, they dont really care about you.

Spot on!

[Guest Akerbeltz]

Not to disparage your view of how relationships 'should' go, but it seems very presumptive to come into a kink forum and relate your ideas in such absolute terms.

For starters this is all being discussed in the context of all the parties being aware and consenting. The idea that some one does or does not care about some one because they choose to be open in their relationship smacks of viewing the other person as property or chatle. Some people express the depths of their devotion for each other by sharing or even allowing themselves to be shared.

It's not something to be done lightly and it's not for all people in all circumstances. However, there is a much deeper respect for the other it seems to me that must be granted for this type of relationship to work. It's defiantly simpler treat your partner as a possession and explain it as you care to much not to see them this way.