is your ddlg life kept secret ?

[plastic ✩ nymphet]

i'm super curious about this, because few people are openly into this lifestyle, especially when it comes to telling the family.

do you live in your parents' house, or live alone ? do you hide your "little stuff" ? http://blog-imgs-38.fc2.com/p/e/t/petikochan/20111123175531c17.gif
i live in my parents' house and i do not talk about ddlg with anyone, absolutely nobody ( besides my owner, of course ). sometimes i talk about it with my friends, but i never said i'm really into, you know http://blog-imgs-38.fc2.com/p/e/t/petikochan/201111231801579da.gif
i've never had problems with pacifiers or blankies, tho. i always collected baby dolls and stuffies and bought baby stuff for them from time to time, so my parents think it's normal, just like a random cute hobby!

i've always been little in my heart, so i think they're used to my tastes and personality http://blog-imgs-38.fc2.com/p/e/t/petikochan/201111231756430f6.gif

 

[Frog]

Mine is definitely hidden. I've only discussed it with my brother and a friend of mine that has moved away. My brother gets it, and my friend says she understands it from how I mentioned it. But other than that, I don't discuss it with anyone at all. 

[Guest Wolfsbabylove]

It depends on who is around.lol Family doesnt know at all, I guess they just think I am child-like and adorable lmbo. My best friend and little sister both know and support my lifestyle.

[littlebylittle]

I have a little side but nearly no one knows. It's also more conspicuous if a man has childlike things... I have a very close friend who knows. As for the daddy side, having not tried a ddlg relationship yet, I don't know (I guess it's possible to be little alone, without caregiver... but can one be a daddy...alone?).

[Guest Ginger]

I wouldn't say I hide it? I just don't openly say, "I'm into ddlg!" I mean, all of my friends consider me a little childish (stuffies, Disney movies, cartoons, etc.) so they don't think much of it. Of course my best friend and my fiancé know, so that's no big deal personally. I get the feeling my Mom wouldn't care, as I'm fairly certain she knows I'm into BDSM xD

[~Lost_Little_Searching~]

It's a tightly sealed secret. I come from a religious household and anything close to "abnormal" is an absolute no. I don't have many friends, so none of them know much about my little side anyway.

[aschmizzy]

Hi! this always interests me tooo!

 

i dont hide anything, personally. I lived with my family when i first felt that i was little, and still stay with them a lot. I never hide my little stuff from them because it would just cause added stress to myself, yanno? My family is really relaxed about things. i know that most arent, and im lucky that i dont have to hide stuffs. I didn't realize its such an issue until i met so many little friends who keep it super secret! and have even gotten in trouble over it! that makes me sad.

 

As far as friends, they know but i dont specifically bring it up around them. But we are fine talking about it. 

 

And my family, i know that they'd always love me. 

 

That being said, i really dont bring them around it too much. They dont necessarily see it (especially since we're usually 3000 miles apart lol), but they know it happens.

 

I feel like (in my family) if you act like theres something wrong with it, theyll pick up that vibe and run with it. But if youre just like i think its cute and i like it, theyll go along with it. and thats with most things.

[Kara]

My little life is private to me, my youngest daughter knows and has been my best support with everything, one of my friends is also very aware and helping me.  Most of the people around me I think know but don't know if that makes sense.  There is so much of my life that I keep private though, it is easier for me to keep my anxieties to a minimum that way.

[Harley_Quinn]

When I lived at home all I had was a whole lotta stuffies. When I moved in with daddy and his father I started getting pacis (which became hidden because his father was stealing from us and found them and threw them away multiple times ) now that me and daddy are alone (and having a baby) we keep my pacis out and stuffies everywhere

[Frog]

I guess it's possible to be little alone, without caregiver... but can one be a daddy...alone?

I've never had a ddlg relationship, but I think we can still exercise our daddy role. I have a friend who I act that way around (with her consent), and I've never brought up ddlg around her. I've had many friends who I've been daddy-ish around.

[DaddyCj86]

anyone who is around us knows... she doesn't really call me anything other than Daddy so yeah....

[Himedere-Chan]

Well I talked about it to this couple and they said anyone who is into that is a freak. They split up a month later so I don't know if I should trust what they say is normal in a relationship. xD
Sorry that was grim, but when people treat you like a lesser you kind of don't care if something like a break up happens.

[Guest x77]

I keep it a secret. I don't do pacifiers and diapers but when I lived at home I bought coloring books all the time and my parents ignored it, my mother referred to me as "simple" when we talked about them.

It's also disheartening to hear people say "maybe you should be doing something easier - like go find a coloring book" I couldn't explain to anyone how relaxing it is, they won't get it.

But I see "adult coloring books" everywhere now, it's a growing trend at grocery stores in the magazine section at checkout, at Walmart and Dollar stores.. I just want to enjoy them without being judged. As well as my stuffed animals, toys and certain video games (Disney Magical World for DS.. The Sesame Street games for Kinect ect.. Which is an amazing workout by the way)

[cuppycakes]

I made a topic similar to this one because I was curious, too! You can read the responses here if you want.

 

No one knows about me being into ddlg, but everybody knows that I like childish things. I still live with my parents, but I have stuffies all over my bed, I always talk about cartoons, sometimes I speak in a voice, I can call my stuffies by name, all kinds of stuff. I don't necessarily have a littlespace that I go into. Sometimes I feel more childish than other times, but I don't think there's a little me and a big me, there's just me.

 

I wish I had a pacifier and some bottles/sippy cups, but right now It's not possible for me. (・へ・; I couldn't hide my stuff, my mom helps me clean my room sometimes (and besides, I'm basically never alone anyway so there's no point in having things if I can't use them).

 

I thought about telling a close friend of mine, but I didn't end up doing that. If it ever came up in conversation I think I would. She's a very trustworthy person, but as it is I don't think I'll be telling her myself.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Pshhhhh it's a total secret here. My best friend knows Daddy and I are D/s but nothing more. As for anyone else... they're clueless! It'll most likely always stay that way. It's easier for us, what with our children and all.

[BabySiren]

I don't hide it at home cuz I live with my daddy but if someone is coming over I'm not gonna be in my little clothes. I don't really understand why I would tell my family and friends about this? Like what I do sexually is only between me and my bf/daddy. Like why would anyone in an "normal" relationship tell their mom or friends that they enjoy anal?!

[SkunkPrincess]

I don't really keep it as a 'secret' but I just don't randomly tell everyone I'm into DDLG. My dad (actual dad) for an example doesn't know anything about it. He did notice I'm wearing a collar, but he's used to it because he knows I love to dress up as a dog/cat/wolf. I also act little, walk around with stuffies etc, at home. He just thinks its normal girl behavior. I'm also little at school, but people don't really care about it. Only my best friend knows it and ofcourse, my sir. 

[Guest MeneerM]

I don't make a big secret out of my BDSM lifestyle. I don't bother them with the subgenre, because they even cannot get their hands around the main subject (BDSM). As a Sir, I can just be myself. Everyone knows I am a suit-kinds-man, so no problem there. I always wear a white shirt with BDSM cufflinks: a heartlock with a key attached. Besides that I always wear the key to my Kittens lock around my neck. But really no-one notices.

My friends all know, but a few understand the impact it has on my life. My family doesn't know, because they are not so open to sexually linked conversations.

[Artifact]

I'm not really open about it to my family for the reason that they really dont care what I'm in to. I do, however, talk about it at school and am very open about being in to the dd/lg lifestyle. Most people I tell don't really seem to care but I feel like littles get shamed more than Doms, just for the fact people cant seem to understand how being little is attractive to doms. I think that it shouldn't matter to people, people like what they like and if it isn't hurting anyone around you then they can take their opinions about it elsewhere.

[babybatwitchcat]

Nope everyone know... even my mom, they found out by accident and they tease me about it all the time...

[Guest lunarmoth]

It is mixed for me. My family doesn't know, and I don't really feel like there is any good way or reason to inform them - especially since ddlg is so intertwined with kink and is under BDSM (and who knows how they would react to that! *giggles*).

 

I have several good friends that do know - some found out because they guessed (they are part of the BDSM community or outskirts), some found out because of slip of tongue, and some found out because it told them. But all that I have told have reacted positively so that is very good (It also helps that a good chunk/most of my friends lead alternative lifestyles and/or are in the BDSM/Poly communities).

 

And, obviously, my Sir knows about it.

 

[Princess Puppers]

Well I'm still living at home with my parents so it's kept hidden from them. 

 

And most people irl don't know either, I've only told a really good friend that I've known since grade seven and he said that even though he's not into it himself he totally understands where I'm coming from.

 

And of course my boyfriend/Daddy knows

 

But yeah - other than the DDlg community online nobody knows, which I'm honestly fine with. I live in a really small town and it'd be kinda dangerous for me to be 'out' about it. Like I'd be at risk for losing my job and people would start nasty rumours. I'm hoping once I move in with my Daddy I can start being more open about it - maybe even having playdates with other littles in real life, but until then it's our own sweet little thing! ^^

[Leo_Ascendent]

Only a few friends know about my DDlg lifestyle, and those are fellow kinksters. My friends are pretty close minded and I can only imagine how they would see it.

[Sparklefrosting]

I've never had a ddlg relationship, but I think we can still exercise our daddy role. I have a friend who I act that way around (with her consent), and I've never brought up ddlg around her. I've had many friends who I've been daddy-ish around.

My husband and I had a ddlg sort of relationship when we were just friends but neither of us knew what that was at the time it was just something that developed naturally since it's just a part of our personalities. My bff also slips into a mommy role around me. When I came out to her about being a little and explained it her response was "maybe that's why I mother you sometimes OMG! is that weird for you, do you want me to stop?! I just laughed and told her it was helpful and I didn't mind.

[IchigoHime]

Mine is hidden to an extent. My dad lives with us, so I keep it from him. Certain friends know and a few are into it too. My mother and sister are aware of my BDSM involvement, but not this specifically. I do keep most of my little stuff put away though.