I'm really lonely :(

[TinyStarryBuns]

I've been feeling very lonely lately, because of so many factors. I can't seem to open up about it to this guy that I talk to because I get dismissed or he tells me I'm being silly, and we never really get to talk about what I'm feeling I guess it doesn't help that he's pretty busy and he doesn't seem to want to talk to me over the phone. I don't want to burden him by adding to all the things he's thinking about. But I honestly feel a little lost and unloved. 

 

I try my hardest to just smile through it but it's really getting to me and sometimes I have trouble sleeping or eating, and it's making me really anxious. Nobody really notices because I'm really good at hiding my feelings. 

 

What do you guys do when you feel lonely? Because I'm really tired of crying, and drawing is not fun anymore, and I just really want to talk to someone who might understand.  

[DaddyMs]

Hugs to you; went through this same thing recently.  Try to put yourself into things you love - movies, music, do some exercising to help get rid of some of the anxiety and listlessness.  You're welcome to chat with me if u need to vent; I'm happy to listen (this isn't a pick up line)

[Whispering-oak]

Hello TinyStaryBuns,

      first let me say that your not alone... even DD's get lonely and their littles are so busy in their little mode that they forget what this relationship is about... i would suggest that you have to put on the big girl pants and  tell your DD that you two need to sit down and talk... before the talk sit down and make a list of your concerns/needs so you can be focused and direct with the least amount of talking so as not to loose his attention/focus on you... If he is not willing to sit and talk or says he does not have time for you then you may have to reevaluate your relationship...if it is a question of you being a burden then i would suggest that he does not have the time to commit to this relationship...YOU ARE PERFECT JUST THE WAY YOU ARE,,, YOU DO NOT NEED TO CHANGE... if he is not willing to accept your terms or at least work out a compromise that is acceptable/beneficial to the both of you then this relationship is not going to last.. Both parties have to give 100% of themselves to the relationship to make it work.. if your giving it your all and the DD is only applying himself when it suits his need then please for your mental and physical health reevaluate the relationship and make a choice that will keep you happy, little, and healthy.. you can chat with anyone in the room and there are many littles and DD's that will help answer your questions and guide and support you through the rough spots... good luck and stay beautiful..

WO aka: John

[TinyStarryBuns]

Thank you :') and for everyone who reached out to me with personal messages, I'm really touched. Your messages make me feel better.

[AsleepAndDreaming]

Loneliness appears to be one of the greatest taboos doesn't it? In the big bad world we seem happy to talk about almost anything but put the "L" word out there and people just do not seem to understand - even less so if you're young. As for the guy you talk to sometimes? Well is he the right person to speak to if he's not prepared to consider your feelings? If he dismisses you, that hardly shows great care and love for you does it? The role of a Caregiver or Daddy is not to be there when convenient, or listen to you and then shrug you off, it's to be there for you at all times, almost irrelevant of what is going on in his own life. 

 

My advice on your loneliness is to keep busy. I have had a previous relationship with a little who suffered from severe anxiety and she was made worse when she had time to think. You need to focus on something that you enjoy and then throw yourself into that 100%. And remember that there are loads of people on this website who understand 

[TinyStarryBuns]

Thank you I've just been working out more and trying to keep myself busy as you say. 

[Pumpkinpie81]

Me too. I always seem to be ignored and put off to the side. Even by those who say they care about me

[Guest KiltedDaddy]

Its in our nature to connect. When lam feeling a little lost l have noticed my defences go up and l back away from my nearest and dearest. Lately l have been going against the grain.. Really pushing myself to do things that l might shy away from. There is a saying... Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. Dont be afraid to reach out and grab the life You want... Be well

[Guest bfegadaddy]

To the OP, I might suggest finding a therapist to talk to occasionally. Sounds to me like your loneliness is leading you towards depression. While I see where you are working out more and trying to stay busy, all of which are great for fighting those feelings, depression has a bad tendency to creep back in over time. Just a precautionary suggestion from someone who has fought depression their entire life.

 

Best of luck and stay safe out there.