Lost

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

So, to try keep this short I met my Daddy over a year ago and we just clicked completely. At the time we met I was caring for my sick parents and although things were hard, I was hopeful for the future. Both my parents have just passed and Daddy decided that he doesn't love me anymore at least not romantically. So now, I've lost three people out of my life. He still wants to be friends but that's too hard to handle. I feel lost right now. I don't know what to do?

[DaddyMs]

Big hugs to u for your loss of your parents; that's very difficult; I'm sorry your Daddy has ended your relationship and I know it can seem extremely confusing on so many emotional levels.  What I'd suggest is to give it time; firstly, you need to grieve for the loss of your parents and on top of that the ending of your relationship; that's going to take time to do.  Let yourself grieve, try to do things that make u happy - whether that's volunteering time at an animal shelter, homeless shelter or whatever or going for a walk, exercising and so forth.  Give your mind, your heart and your soul a chance to process all of this; I know it seems like it'll not get better but it really will.  I can't speak for everyone here obviously but I'm sure many will agree that we are all here for you in the mean time ok? 

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

Thank you DaddyMs. I just wasn't expecting to lose my Daddy at the same time. I was only thinking to myself when my parents died that I was lucky to have him and that I was glad to have him during this hard time. Sure, he says he wants to be friends, but it's hard when you want cuddles and other forms of comfort in the rough moments. Right now I'm still grieving big time but this whole relationship ending is making me feel so alone. Though it's nice to know I have the community here for support.

[Guest Sephi]

Oh, honey!! I am so sorry! I can't imagine the amount of pain you must be feeling right now. I agree with DaddyMS- you need to allow yourself to grieve. And you really do have a supportive community to help you. When one is very sad, it can be hard to remember to care for oneself. Don't forget to eat, drink lots of water, take your meds, etc. Make a schedule if you have to and give yourself rewards. When you feel up to it, read up on the stages of grief. Knowing what to expect as you work through this process may be comforting.

 

When it gets so overwhelming that you feel like you well break apart- just breathe. Listen to your breath. Accept the thoughts and emotions that arise, then let them go. You've got this. One day at a time. One hour. One minute.

 

You are welcome to message me anytime, to vent or chat or celebrate surviving another day.

Xo

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

Thank you so much Sephi! I will definitely do my best to stay strong and get through this grief period best I can. Thank you for all your suggestions and support.

[Nymph]

I am so sorry *hugs* it was indeed awful timing for him to make that decision, that wasn't thoughtful of him but you should be thankful for his honesty, it would be worse if he stuck around just because he felt guilty.

 

Perhaps some distance from him will do you well until you can figure out if you would want to stay friends or not.

 

For all is worth, we are here for you emotionally at least, so hopefully you won't feel too lonely on top of feeling lost

[DeepSpaceDaddy]

DT, that's truly heart-wrenching and I feel much sadness for you. I feel like that is more that one should have to endure all at once. Other's have given some very good advice, which I won't repeat. I do not like to judge other's as he may have a very good reason that we are not aware of, maybe he lost of his parents and this hit way too close to home or something,  but I really can't fathom a scenario that would let him off the hook in my eyes. On the off chance that he comes back to you later, after most of this is behind you, be careful with that. In the mean time, as soon as you possibly can, plan yourself a trip, either solo or with a good friend or two. Go someplace you've always wanted, and get AWAY from everything that is your life right now. Doesn't have to be expensive or exotic. If funds are tight, as they probably are after two funerals, a day trip some place nice, peaceful, and quite, where you can think and reflect before returning to reality - or, if with friends, something fun and entertaining that will distract you from your life. Either way, you likely NEED a break, some distance, and a distraction. I have found both helpful, depending on the circumstance. I am continually surprised just how much better I feel when I spend some serious time communing with nature... sitting on the beach, watching the waves rolls in.... sitting on a cliff overlooking the ocean and watching the sunset - the whole sunset, from before it touches the horizon, to after it's completely disappeared, without looking at anything else. Watching the Moon rise over some local mountains.... sitting in a forest and listening to Nature. It's powerful in the most subtle of ways. It's good for the soul. 

 

May your future always be be happier than today. ~hugs~

Edited April 4, 2017 by DeepSpaceDaddy

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

Thank you DeepSpaceDaddy. I plan to take some me time and try sort things out. You're right nature is good for that and I love sitting and watching the water and just thinking through things. Thank you for the support!