fake daddy doms

[Guest trouble_nz]

Do you think alot of older daddys fake it just to get a young woman?

[Guest]

I think daddies and littles of all ages "fake it". Or don't really have the same wants as everyone else.

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

They probably do.  I expect a lot of people here aren't really genuine, but the people who are more active in the community are.  If the only post they've made is a personal, they're most likely in it for the wrong reasons.

 

Outside of this website, I guess you'll have to use your own judgement.

[Princess-P]

I don't think its older men who fake it. The CG/l community is a pretty small target and if older men were looking for young women they would have much better luck elsewhere.

 

I also feel like the majority of older men don't want young women. Especially in this dynamic. it's hard to connect with someone who is considerably younger than you. Most older men/women have established themselves in their personal and professional lives. If your still in your needy, immature, party all the time, cant fend for yourself stage than someone who's already been there and done that won't really be interested in you for the long run. Which is what most older people are looking for. Commitment.

 

Now of course some older men/women want younger partners for sex. But the same goes for any age group. You will always find people posing as Dom's, littles, sub's, or any other kind of fake you can think of just to get lucky. And it works. Because there's always someone who's immature enough to believe that sex means caring and they give them what they want. Easy prey.

 

So no. Most older Daddy's are probably not faking it. most people on this site or others are not faking it. But if you come across someone who's pushy, overly agreeable, sexual very quickly, or quick to assume any roll... Regardless of gender or age they are probably playing you.

[Antoinette]

This question I feel is one that's brought up way too often and the opposite is never asked.

Do you think younger women are only 'little' in order to be taken care of and swept up by an older man? Are they 'fake littles'? It's a common thing, whether people like to believe it or not but yet the term fake little is hardly, if ever, used. In my opinion, I don't care about policing who's a real little or who's a real daddy. I just care about people - whether they're happy or not, if they're being abused or not. If two people are into the dynamic for purely material reasons or purely because they want to 'play a role', who am I to say if they're real or fake as long as they're not hurting anybody? This community will praise the diversity and the many different interpretations of the dynamic but yet somehow every other little that doesn't get a daddy that lives up to their standard is screaming 'fake daddy!' I'm sorry if I'm the only one who notices this.

 

Yes, in every community there are selfish people that play a role maliciously, but I feel as though at times the whole 'fake daddy' thing is not only ridiculously exaggerated but grossly one-sided.

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

i'd like to mention that one person's fake vs another also has to come into play

at one point or another. i've seen people call others fakes for not living it as a 

24/7 lifestyle, people called fake who use cg/l sexually ( i've seen bedroom

daddies and people shitting on them which is kinda judgey n shitty on their own

part ) i don't think there's really a fake anything, it's just people in it for different

reasons from your own and that can't be categorized as fake. like you literally

cannot tell someone that they're not a daddy/mommy/little by YOUR standards

or someone elses because this dynamic is so.. take what you want to from it,

cherry picking, you can mold it into something you want and no two relationships

are the same. 

 

i mean you really can't tell a person they're not a daddy/mo

mmy/little/middle no matter what anyone says. 

 

people get all happy and excited over the thought of so many different types of

relationships and it seems as if this community is proud of the diversity

but a lot of the younger ones are quick to shut down anything they don't like

and pin it as fake. don't feel nearly as accepting as their older counterparts.

Edited April 2, 2017 by ☄ Stardust Kitten ☆

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

I'm sorry if I'm the only one who notices this.

 

i promise you're not! lol. i'm right there with you and so is my cg. 

[Himedere-Chan]

I say yes, there are fake caregivers and littles on here and out there right now, but to me they're easy to spot. So no worries.

[PrincessLiv]

Omg fake daddies are the worst... experience them all the time. They immediately start calling me nicknames and try sext or whatever. It's not necessarily the older ones I've found. It's people of alllllll ages. Makes it hard to spot them though.

 

As xAntionette said, its not just fake daddies though. There are fake littles who also are in it for selfish reasons.

 

All members of the community should be weary of things moving ultra fast and stuff

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

This question I feel is one that's brought up way too often and the opposite is never asked.

 

Do you think younger women are only 'little' in order to be taken care of and swept up by an older man? Are they 'fake littles'? It's a common thing, whether people like to believe it or not but yet the term fake little is hardly, if ever, used. In my opinion, I don't care about policing who's a real little or who's a real daddy. I just care about people - whether they're happy or not, if they're being abused or not. If two people are into the dynamic for purely material reasons or purely because they want to 'play a role', who am I to say if they're real or fake as long as they're not hurting anybody? This community will praise the diversity and the many different interpretations of the dynamic but yet somehow every other little that doesn't get a daddy that lives up to their standard is screaming 'fake daddy!' I'm sorry if I'm the only one who notices this.

 

Yes, in every community there are selfish people that play a role maliciously, but I feel as though at times the whole 'fake daddy' thing is not only ridiculously exaggerated but grossly one-sided.

 

That's a very nice post, it's good to see more objective stuff when it's easy to fall into defending your gender.  Happens both ways.

 

I think a lot of the reason that it's more one-sided is that littles are generally a lot more vocal here than CGs.  A little that has a bad experience is more likely to post about it, whereas a CG in the same position is more likely to just cut their losses and move on.  I do think there's a lot of fake littles here as you say though, but the usual indicator is that they're 18 years old and seem to be trying a bit too hard.  When acting little seems to be the entirety of their displayed personality, it raises alarm bells, and is frankly off-putting.

 

A daddy in it for the right reasons wants to know the person behind the little.  If they're trying to get to know you, and not just little you, then it's probably a good sign.

Edited April 3, 2017 by countlieberkuhn

[Rantanplan]

Hmmmm. I obviously would be honoured to marry a 20 year old little. But you have to think a bit ahead. See the big picture! Give or take, 27 is when women want children. Such scares me, because I would not be able to retire before 60.

I am 42. Adding at least 18 years would mean that I would have to keep on working and could never be free. And when I could finally relax, then I would be too old to do anything. No kitesurfing, no paragliding, no diving, no river rafting ...

It simply scares me. I see an ideal age between 34 and 45. This age group allows far more flexibility, especially from the financial side and the overall experience. It wouldn't even cross my mind to impress a 20 year old little. They are on financially thin ice. No job, no life experience and sexually not mature or creative.

I definitely don't want to be compared with fake profiles, who hunt for hot and young chicks. My age group evaluates and sees the big picture. It is not all from between the legs.

You might understand the life experience difference when thinking about 10 year old children. Does a 20 year old think they are making smart long term decisions?

Edited April 3, 2017 by Rantanplan

[Guest Wolfsbabylove]

I dont think the older men fake it. I find the younger guys "crowd" has a greater chance of being fake. They think its all about control and sex. Fake Daddies have a greater chance of being abusive.

[LittleBlackRose]

This is an interesting concept to me being new to the dynamic. There have definitely been times where I have wondered if I'm a "fake little" because I have to adult a lot of the time and I'm not necessarily all about cutesy, girly things. Then again, I wasn't all about those things when I was actually little. Add in that I don't necessarily fit perfectly into what I read about since I'm non-sexual while little, don't use a pacifier, and don't have an exact age. Finding out what being a little means to me does mean that I butt up against the stereotype and decide of I want to adopt an element. I think that process can make someone look fake.

 

The bigger thing I look for has to do with age relative to experience. It's something I read about repeatedly in articles about staying safe as a sub meeting or looking for a Dom/me. If you are 18-25 and claim extensive experience in relation to your age (1-10  years, for example) either as a sub or a little, I am more likely to approach with caution. This doesn't mean that the person is fake but it's a precaution as a newbie that makes sense to me. I think of fake as involving being too pushy, invading personal space too early, or even assuming a degree of familiarity just because titles could be involved at some point. As far as I can tell, it's about a connection that works for the Big/little and not about being a perfect example of a particular stereotype.

[Guest The-Professor]

I don't think the problem is with "Fake" daddies but it is with daddies and littles who have completely different expectations.

 

One statement I personally hear from littles on numerous occasions is they're surprised I'm such a nice daddy when so many they've met have been mean daddies. Normally these particular littles are basically looking for an innocent vanilla relationship with a daddy who is looking for the same. But they occasionally (hopefully not always) chat with a daddy who is not looking for the same relationship but is looking for mainly a sexual and often extreme bdsm one. Those daddies view ddlg as a sexual outlet, and quite truthfully there are some littles who are also looking for the same. So what happens is you get a total mismatch of little and daddy and the result is quite startling to a little who views it as frightening. It's too bad there's not some obvious indicator of which extreme a little or a daddy is looking for in the other, perhaps on their profiles. This would help eliminate some negative chats before they took place.

Edited April 4, 2017 by The-Professor

[neko]

Personally I don't think there's such a thing as a "fake daddy." Just because you don't enjoy what the DD is requesting of you doesn't mean he's "fake" it just means you two are incompatible with each other.

[DaddyCj86]

 

i'd like to mention that one person's fake vs another also has to come into play

at one point or another. i've seen people call others fakes for not living it as a 

24/7 lifestyle, people called fake who use cg/l sexually ( i've seen bedroom

daddies and people shitting on them which is kinda judgey n shitty on their own

part ) i don't think there's really a fake anything, it's just people in it for different

reasons from your own and that can't be categorized as fake. like you literally

cannot tell someone that they're not a daddy/mommy/little by YOUR standards

or someone elses because this dynamic is so.. take what you want to from it,

cherry picking, you can mold it into something you want and no two relationships

are the same. 

 

i mean you really can't tell a person they're not a daddy/mo

mmy/little/middle no matter what anyone says. 

 

people get all happy and excited over the thought of so many different types of

relationships and it seems as if this community is proud of the diversity

but a lot of the younger ones are quick to shut down anything they don't like

and pin it as fake. don't feel nearly as accepting as their older counterparts.

 

 

Thank you for this post... I have actually been called a "fake Daddy" because I move fast in my relationships. Tell you what though... I moved fast before I ever got into DD/lg or D/s world. One post on here bothered me but that is their opinion.

 

Is there fakes out there? There are fakes everywhere but as has been said many times on this thread you need to realize that they may not be fake, they may just not be what is right for you.

[Simon.dd4lg]

Some older men some younger girls too. But far from all of either. Met some lovely older and younger daddies and littles here and met one or two that I wouldn't want to see in the street. U will get players on every dynamic in every age group

[Guest SifuTheWolf]

I remember watching a video where a Daddy was talking about this subject and what he stressed wasn't about being a real or fake Daddy, the real issue he said was being a "good Daddy", or being a "bad Daddy". There are plenty of "real" Daddies out there that are totally crap at it, I tend to agree with him. It doesn't necessarily matter how long you've been "in the life", there are great Daddies that don't even know what they are or are just starting out, and there are Daddies that have been doing it badly for years. The key is finding the right fit for you and being the right fit for them equally.

[Guest KiltedDaddy]

I dont think You just accidentally fall into this site. I would say that most people here probably have some form of interest in DD/lg and are trying to find their way.

[Papabear123]

Yeah but some people are only on forums like these to bait cute young women. It wouldn't be the first time I've seen it, and probably not the last. It's not something you can really judge unless you have some kind of experience with that person.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Just to be clear, by fake daddys, are we talking about like catfishes?

[Guest mlkykit]

I don't believe in the "one true wayisms" that usually dictate who's a fake or real Daddy. I will say however, that there are folks who'll use forums such as these to bait naive men or women by depicting some form of romanticized image of what a Dom should be. Further, there are lots of Littles, or just submissives in general, who use the lifestyle as a way to cope with real life, so they're more susceptible to the bait. It's really up to you to feel out whoever you're talking to and have actual conversations before jumping into anything. And like Papabear123 says, you can't really judge unless you've had some sort of experience with persons like that. 

[Guest BeMyBaby]

I also feel like the majority of older men don't want young women. Especially in this dynamic. it's hard to connect with someone who is considerably younger than you. Most older men/women have established themselves in their personal and professional lives. If your still in your needy, immature, party all the time, cant fend for yourself stage than someone who's already been there and done that won't really be interested in you for the long run. Which is what most older people are looking for. Commitment.

 

Can confirm. I'm 40 and my kitten is 39. I have dated as young as 28 and it was not at all engaging on a level that mattered to me.

[Leo_Ascendent]

There's always posers in every field. Fake Doms in general are trash. They think being a jerk is all they need to do, that BDSM is about a display of power, when it's not. They hear about trash like 50SoG and think they are Doms. They aren't. They just want to get there rocks off. Good thing though is they are easy to spot if you spend 15 minutes talking to them.