Can I make my own rules?

[Little Lily Pup]

So I am in a new ddlg relationship (and fairly new to this whole thing in general), and I was wondering if I could make rules that my Papi would enforce. Does that even make any sense, haha?

 

Like instead of Papi making the rules and enforcing them, I would basically give him rules that I want to follow and ... it was just a random idea and I wasn't too sure if it would work. Has anyone else done this or tried this?

[Guest PrincessKittyx]

that is a great idea! I would suggest rules to my Dom a lot and he'd add them in. You're in just as much control as your Dom is! Any power he has over you should be freely and willfully given. It should always be safe, sane and consensual!

[DaddyMs]

yea that's completely acceptable; in my own opinion, the rules should reflect what both people are cool with.

[princess.kaykay]

i think you guys should talk and agree on them.        

[IchigoHime]

That's how I did it for a long time when I had a Daddy. I knew what I wanted at first so I made my own rules, then he added some in as time went on.

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

I'd have to say it's pretty common to work on your rules together or telling your Caregiver what rules you'd be happy or want to follow. Rules are something that need to talked about. Even if he did come of with all the rules, you'd first have to agree that your actually willing to follow them. Because rules for Littles are more about improving ourselves and becoming better, I think it's a wonderful idea for the Little to come up with most the rules, who else knows more about what you want to improve on than yourself?

[cutelilpunkin]

I think that when it comes to rules, you should both discuss rules together that you think he should enforce. Get permission to see if the rules you have written are alright and ask if you should add more, and if he thinks you need more, ask him "like what?" And then discuss them and come to a happy medium. Then when that's all done, go over all the rules you have written together (reading them out loud) and then go over how your daddy should enforce them. Like a system. If you don't follow the rules, maybe you could have warnings before a punishment and depending on how mad you are, let that be the degree of the punishment. But along with rules goes a rewards system for when you're good and set punishments for when you're not being so good!

Have fun and stay safe! ^.^

 

~Cutelilpunkin~

[LittlePupRune]

Thats kinda what happened when I started my relationship. I was very new so had her start by telling me which rules she wanted, and I agreed or modified. After a bit of research I presented her with some rules that I wanted to implement and then she agreed or modified them according to her comfort level. And thats still how it work, if either of us thinks of a rule, we approach the other with it. But its perfectly acceptable for you to make your own rules. The rules are there for both of your fulfillment, so if theres something you want, its definitely ok for you to ask for that.