Calling my husband daddy

[palefairyprincess]

So one of my husbands nicknames for me is chipmunk, and recently he referred to himself as "daddy chipmunk". Having become interested in ddlg before we met I jumped on the opportunity to call him something with the word daddy in it. Mostly I call him daddy chipmunk in private when we're getting touchy feely and during sex, but since I started calling him that I've really wanted to call him just "daddy" even more than before. He doesn't know I'm interested in ddlg though and I'm worried he wouldn't be super into certain aspects because he did complain once that I acted too "baby-ish" during sex sometimes and it wasn't really a turn on. He is dominant during sex and very nurturing like a caregiver should be which is why I have such a strong urge to call him daddy. My question is: do you think I'd be pushing boundaries if I did? I don't feel ready to discuss ddlg, but he does realize and like that I'm a little kinky because I've encouraged him to lightly choke me, etc. I just don't want him to think I'm weird or turn him off.

[LittleGem]

Well you don't know if you're pushing boundaries until you know what his boundaries are right? If you don't feel ready to dump the subject of ddlg on him completely than maybe slowly ease him in without letting him know exactly what it is your doing? That kinda sounds like deception but it isn't really because you'll only be being yourself.

 

Call him just daddy every now and then and observe his reactions. Also try that and being little when you're not in the bedroom, ddlg isn't just a sexual thing after all.

 

Maybe even suggest having a sub/dom relationship first and when he's comfortable with that you can talk about adding some ddlg aspects.

 

When you're ready to do so, communication is key, you both need to know what each other is comfortable with.

Good luck.

[palefairyprincess]

Well you don't know if you're pushing boundaries until you know what his boundaries are right? If you don't feel ready to dump the subject of ddlg on him completely than maybe slowly ease him in without letting him know exactly what it is your doing? That kinda sounds like deception but it isn't really because you'll only be being yourself.

Call him just daddy every now and then and observe his reactions. Also try that and being little when you're not in the bedroom, ddlg isn't just a sexual thing after all.

Maybe even suggest having a sub/dom relationship first and when he's comfortable with that you can talk about adding some ddlg aspects.

When you're ready to do so, communication is key, you both need to know what each other is comfortable with.

Good luck.

He's seen me in what I consider little space outside of the bedroom and seems to really like how excited and happy I get about things, so maybe that's a sign he's receptive Edited March 28, 2017 by palefairyprincess

[LittleGem]

He's seen me in what I consider little space outside of the bedroom and seems to really like how excited and happy I get about things, so maybe that's a sign he's receptive

That seems like a great sign ^^ just continue to be yourself then !

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Well I feel I say it a lot, but communication!

 

You guys are married, clearly there's some love between the two of you. I don't feel bringing up DDlg is probably going to ruin that love. Make sure you bring facts to the table and show him upfront what it really is so he isn't going based off of common perception that it's pedophilia.

 

Tell him what it is to YOU as well. Discuss with him if he would be open to trying it. If he's apprehensive about in the bedroom, try it outside the bedroom for awhile first. I understand your concerns with bringing it up, but I truly don't feel it will be as big of an issue as you fear. Write him a note if you must, sometimes it's easier for me to start conversations that way.

[Guest Wolfsbabylove]

I say just go with what feels right. Daddy spent months trying to hint that he wanted to be called Daddy and for me to be his lg. I had to eventually ask him outright if he liked the lifestyle.

[palefairyprincess]

I say just go with what feels right. Daddy spent months trying to hint that he wanted to be called Daddy and for me to be his lg. I had to eventually ask him outright if he liked the lifestyle.

Do you mind if I ask how he hinted? I'm just so nervous and looking for any signs that he'd be receptive

[Guest Wolfsbabylove]

Do you mind if I ask how he hinted? I'm just so nervous and looking for any signs that he'd be receptive

He started doing things like ordering my food and tying my shoes, calling me baby girl and other childish pet names,etc. Basically subtlely treating me like a child to see my reaction. Then one night I had a nightmare and the first words out of his mouth were "shhh Daddy's here,I'm right here." The next day I just bluntly asked him and 1.5 years later here we are. Lol he said when we first met, He felt like he had to protect me.