High Protocol Training

[cutelilpunkin]

Hello! Iv been on here a lot asking a bunch of questions and answering questions that you have but now I'm curious.

Iv been doing some research on High protocol training. And was wondering what rules you as Masters/ daddy's/ Doms/Mommys/ caregivers etc. had in set for Your high protocol.

It would be helpful if you listed the High protocol rules for put in public and separate rules for your submissive at home.

I am not looking for High protocol training rules for Slaves because I do NOT practice sir/ Master and slave. But I do however, practice, Ddlg, Dom/Submissive and Master/Pet (specifically Kitten play.)

Any examples, your rules, or training advice for High Protocol opposed to low protocol, would be very helpful. Thank you!

~Cutelilpunkin~

[LittlePupRune]

Could you specify what you mean as high vs low?

[Guest Ginger]

Could you specify what you mean as high vs low?

 

High protocol has a lot of rules and rituals, things that are used at formal dinners or even just around the house/etc. Something as simple as how a sub greets their Dom could be a protocol within their relationship. It's very military-like and detailed. Some examples I found,

• Elaborate restrictions on speech (eg silence; speaking only when spoken to; requesting permission to speak; or specific forms of address such as “Sir, yes, sir!”)
• Deferential behavior (eg not turning back to the dominant; keeping head below theirs; kneeling when otherwise unoccupied; requesting permission to leave the room.)
• Immediate response to commands, and concentration on the Dominant and their requirements and desires.
• Serving or waiting without drawing unnecessary attention to the submissive.

[Guest MeneerM]

I have a rule that my little cannot start to eat or drink before I have started to eat or drink. Even when it is candy of fizzy drinks. I serve my submissive a drink and she waits till I start drinking.

Further more I apply the rules stated by Ginger too.

I encourage my little to be clear about her needs as well. The thing is that it is hard for littles to speak up for themselves, but it is important. Therefor asking permission to pose a question or a request (May I ask a question Sir?) is a nice way for a little to postpone her wish or need, and to give me the opportunity to encourage her to tell me what she wants and to speak up. She will feel more comfortable because I explicitly say that I am interested in knowing her request. 

[cutelilpunkin]

Could you specify what you mean as high vs low?

Low meaning simple rules like bedtime at a certain time, obay daddy, make sure daddy knows how you're feeling etc. and High meaning like, only speak when spoken to, and having to ask permission to use the restroom. Things like that. And maybe what the different rules would be, compared between the rules you have set st home and the different rules for what you have set in public.

[cutelilpunkin]

I have a rule that my little cannot start to eat or drink before I have started to eat or drink. Even when it is candy of fizzy drinks. I serve my submissive a drink and she waits till I start drinking.

Further more I apply the rules stated by Ginger too.

I encourage my little to be clear about her needs as well. The thing is that it is hard for littles to speak up for themselves, but it is important. Therefor asking permission to pose a question or a request (May I ask a question Sir?) is a nice way for a little to postpone her wish or need, and to give me the opportunity to encourage her to tell me what she wants and to speak up. She will feel more comfortable because I explicitly say that I am interested in knowing her request.

Thank you! This was very helpful! Do you have any rules that are different, set for at home vs out in public? I know BDSM couples don't necessarily like to display to the world that they are in a BDSM relationship, so are there protocols that you take as a Dom to your submissive a little lighter when you're out in public or have a descreat meaning for certain things vs when you're at home?

Thank you.

~cutelilpunkin~

[Guest MeneerM]

You are welcome Cutelilpunkin. In Public most of the rules are in place! I order diner or drinks and I am addressed as Sir, but not loud and obvious. In situation whenever it is proper to do so. In other cases our names are never used but we come up with pet names that are suitable in social situations. So those high rules apply. At a party she can easily sit in front of me on the floor or a cushion. So All situation have ways to imply the rules on which we agree.

[LittlePupRune]

Low meaning simple rules like bedtime at a certain time, obay daddy, make sure daddy knows how you're feeling etc. and High meaning like, only speak when spoken to, and having to ask permission to use the restroom. Things like that. And maybe what the different rules would be, compared between the rules you have set st home and the different rules for what you have set in public.

Ah ok, thanks for the clarification. For us, we have mostly low protocol rules but I have made a few high ones, namely her protocol for putting on her collar with or without me. There are several others that we are currently discussing but have not yet implemented. In public, we keep it very low-key out of respect for others, but she is not afraid to invoke protocol in a hushed tone or in a more secluded area if she needs it.