New Daddy DOM

[cutelilpunkin]

Hey guys! It's cutelilpunkin here!

 

Sooo I'm trying to introduce what DDLG is to my boyfriend. He's into the whole bondage thing, and he loves it when I call him daddy. I just don't think that he really understands what it means to be a daddy dominant, I think that he thinks , that it's just something that I call him in the bedroom. And I don't want him to think that. I want him to have a better understanding of what BDSM (Little play and pet play) really is.

 

If there are any websites that could help me out with explaining that, please send me links or tips on how to explain it better! Thanks! <3

~cutelilpunkin~

[Guest Ginger]

Roam the Caregiver boards, there's tons of useful threads there for him

[Antoinette]

I've been in this situation before and I think, better than any website you could link him to (although websites are/can be helpful) explain what DD/lg is to you and what you want from it. Linking to websites can be off putting for some people because they see the more ''extreme'' side of DD/lg, verging into ABDL, which of course if you're into that, that's fine - everybody is different BUT if you're not into that then it could give the wrong impression.

 

How I started the conversation off with my partner was really simple, I just said something along the lines of; ''I'm into this thing called DD/lg, basically for me I like to regress into something called 'littlespace' where I act and feel younger than I am.'' then I got into the more materialistic details of things, so stuff like I like onesies, stuffies, pacifiers and maybe even more importantly I explained what I didn't like - so I told him I wasn't into diapers, I wasn't (completely) into acting like a child during sexual activities, I wasn't into poly stuff and everything like that.

 

Luckily enough for me my daddy took the time to learn about all aspects of DD/lg (which I encourage you to ask your partner to do, if he is interested) and become knowledgeable on the topic as well as just generally fitting the role perfectly (even before I introduced him to DD/lg his behaviors were nurturing and caregiver-like, I did not force him to change his personality in any way but rather helped him discover a different side of himself. He doesn't feel as though he's playing a role or pretending, which is important to me - it might not be to you though!) 

 

What I'd like to add is that you can't (and shouldn't) expect a Daddy Dom to be made overnight, it takes time and learning and generally trying the role in small parts to see if you really like it and if it's for you. Diving straight in without a second thought can be overwhelming and turn people off the lifestyle, even if they are into it! So take it slow, be patient and just have fun with it. Communication is key. 

[cutelilpunkin]

I've been in this situation before and I think, better than any website you could link him to (although websites are/can be helpful) explain what DD/lg is to you and what you want from it. Linking to websites can be off putting for some people because they see the more ''extreme'' side of DD/lg, verging into ABDL, which of course if you're into that, that's fine - everybody is different BUT if you're not into that then it could give the wrong impression.

 

How I started the conversation off with my partner was really simple, I just said something along the lines of; ''I'm into this thing called DD/lg, basically for me I like to regress into something called 'littlespace' where I act and feel younger than I am.'' then I got into the more materialistic details of things, so stuff like I like onesies, stuffies, pacifiers and maybe even more importantly I explained what I didn't like - so I told him I wasn't into diapers, I wasn't (completely) into acting like a child during sexual activities, I wasn't into poly stuff and everything like that.

 

Luckily enough for me my daddy took the time to learn about all aspects of DD/lg (which I encourage you to ask your partner to do, if he is interested) and become knowledgeable on the topic as well as just generally fitting the role perfectly (even before I introduced him to DD/lg his behaviors were nurturing and caregiver-like, I did not force him to change his personality in any way but rather helped him discover a different side of himself. He doesn't feel as though he's playing a role or pretending, which is important to me - it might not be to you though!)

 

What I'd like to add is that you can't (and shouldn't) expect a Daddy Dom to be made overnight, it takes time and learning and generally trying the role in small parts to see if you really like it and if it's for you. Diving straight in without a second thought can be overwhelming and turn people off the lifestyle, even if they are into it! So take it slow, be patient and just have fun with it. Communication is key.

[cutelilpunkin]

Oops I meant to put a reply! Thank you so much! That was very helpful!

~cutelilpunkin