Little Little Relationship

[LittleKittyBoo]

My girlfriend and I have recently come out to eachother as littles. I love her and I can say that I don't absolutely need a mommy, but I does any other littles have advice for little/little relationships or are in one?

[plastic ✩ nymphet]

woooaaa this is very interesting and sounds like fun ! it's just like having a super best friend, but with deeper feelings, you know ? 

maybe you can just play together, take care of each other ?

but since neither would be the dominant one, then you would need to help each other equally!

make rules for each other, talk about what you would like to improve, and encourage each other with candy, and games !! 

i don't know if you are monogamous or not, but i have seen in similar cases there are caregivers ( not necessarily involved in the relationship, or sexually ) to help the little ones to feel safe and, well, cared for.

i think experience and conversation are the right words for that 

 

good luck, xoxo 

Edited March 23, 2017 by plastic ✩ nymphet

[Lil' Poundcake]

I was in a relationship with another middle for a number of years. Did we have fun together? Heck yeah. Did it fulfill both our needs? Unfortunately, no. We both have some caregiver tendencies and we attempted to be a switch couple outside the bedroom, but neither of us were a true Mommy or Daddy. Ultimately, he began to feel like my second child (we are parents to one of our own) and he felt the same towards me; seeds of resentment just grew from there as we both wanted a more firm, responsible, and dominate partner. Regardless, it was a good learning experience and I wouldn't take it back for anything.

 

Quite frankly, having to be big when you're needing to be little with your little partner can be very stressful. Someone, if not both of you, will need to guide and direct the relationship for it to reach its full potential. I say keep your communication open and try out a switch dynamic with your partner, maybe with you taking on more of the caregiver role since you don't feel like you need a Mommy as much; you may find out it works for you both, that you may need to tweak the dynamic a bit, or that it just doesn't work at all. Plastic Nymphet gives some some good advice about adding an outside caregiver to the mix if you two are open to it and feel it's necessary to fill in the voids that may exist or develop.

 

I wish you the best.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

As someone who has been happily involved in a Little/Little relationship before that ended for reasons that had nothing to do with our dynamic, I can safely say that is absolutely possible, and can be a wonderful thing. I don't think that a relationship needs a guiding force at all, as someone mentioned above, but to each his/her/their own! My girlfriend and I were very happy just being little babies together. Just because you are Little doesn't mean you can't make decisions for yourself, act like an adult, or be responsible. Keeping communication open is a must, for sure, but I don't necessarily feel that an outside Caregiver (or any Caregiver for that matter) is needed in order to have a happy and healthy relationship. Just like you can be a Little without a Caregiver and still be a Little, I don't see why that principle would change in a relationship. 

 

I hope everything works out for you, regardless of the direction you choose to go! I'm glad you're getting a variety of perspectives, too!

[fairytales]

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Edited December 9, 2017 by fairytales

[BubblePuff]

Hello I am the one that started this topic but I lost the password to my other account (;._.)

Update:

So my girlfriend is very shy about her little side and since we don't live together (we are both still with our parents) I haven't seen her little side. I am not a switch but I don't know if she is. We've talked about it though and I don't want to force her to be something she's not, but I've just been a little on my own as she isn't open about her little side. Additionally lately I've been feeling more that I want a caregiver (note that my little space is strictly non sexual) and I'm not sure what I should do?

Edited April 24, 2017 by BubblePuff

[BubblePuff]

Another Update:

 

We talked about it and we are both going to try being switches for each other does anyone have any advice on that?

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Hi --- I just saw the reply to this now! Haha! 

 

In my situation, my Little/Little relationship was not a switch situation. I am a switch, but she was not. However, I have been in a switch relationship before with another Little! I suggest you communicate often, and make sure you guys figure out some kind of system to talk about switching. Have a contingency place in place. What happens if you both wake up feeling small? What about if you're both feeling Big? What happens if one of you want to be small, but the other one just doesn't have the capacity to be a Caregiver. 

 

My current girlfriend and I (June) both have more small sides, but I'm strictly her Caregiver in our dynamic. That, however, is not my role in any of my other relationships. So we still have to work to find that balance between allowing time for me to be small, and me to be Big! It's a work in progress, but it's totally doable with the appropriate amount of communication. You learn as you go. Don't be afraid to make mistakes, and learn from them.