After Daddy leaves

[babytaloay]

My daddy and I broke up recently. It completely broke my heart. I don't know how I'll ever recover. I feel like we are meant to be, and I have hope that we can be together again, even though I know it's not realistic. We broke up because he's too far away and we won't be able to be together for a few years. He wants to settle down. I don't even know if advice or kind words will help, I just want to curl up into a ball for the next year and never interact with another person again. The thought of someone else touching me or calling me "princess" makes me feel sick. How do I deal with daddy leaving? 

Edited March 19, 2017 by babytaloay

[Guest syther]

Surround yourself with things you enjoy doing, talk to someone, breakups are hard and my heart goes out to you, it'll be hard but you will get through this, that's what you need to remember that you were a person before him, that you are your own person and you will get through this

[lilsnoopy]

Unfortunately there is no post that I, or probably anyone, could write that would make the pain go away. There is a healing process that just takes time. You'll eventually laugh and enjoy little things again. For now the main thing to do is to not let yourself get isolated, remember people care about you, and take care of yourself. Eat and drink enough and stay focused on school, work, other life obligations. Just keep swimming. 

[Antoinette]

Long distance relationships are hard. Really, really hard. The best thing to do is to realise that it's not your fault, this wasn't because of you but rather because he physically couldn't deal with the distance anymore. Many people think they can and then end up not being able to. My daddy and I are extremely far away from each other (he's in the U.S. and I'm in the U.K.) and we definitely won't be able to properly settle down together for at least three years, maybe longer. But, we have decided we will visit each other as often as possible. That's how a lot of LDRs cope, but it's important to remember that a lot of people still just can't emotionally deal with that. 

 

It's not your fault. You don't need to think about finding someone new just yet, when the time is right you won't feel sick by the thought of someone else. Until then focus on you, things you love, try not to be alone - spend time with friends, family, pets even. Make sure you're exerting your energy into positive things, not negative BUT let yourself grieve! You're allowed to be sad, you're allowed to miss him and most of all you're allowed to cry. Just don't let those feelings consume you and don't try to pester him with messages about you missing him or wanting him back - it'll hurt you even more if he gets upset and says some hurtful things/reiterates that he doesn't want the relationship. Trust me, I've been in this situation before

[Dave7]

As much as breaking up sucks and it always does. What I found helped was taking some me time. So take some you time. However long you need. Focus on finding yourself and doing things that you enjoy and are fun. You learn a lot about yourself when you go through a break up and this can help you to grow as a person. What I have come to realise is just because there are two perfect people that doesn't mean they will be perfect together.

[Guest LordEmtheDinosaur!]

Listen to this, it may help http://kaylalords.com/podcast/ds-breakups-lb054/

It will pass but in the meantime surround yourself with other people who care for you

[Lil' Poundcake]

It may take awhile to move on fully, but the seasons are your friend. At 18 you will have plenty of opportunities to love again. Keep your head up