Daddy isn't into the DDLG as much as i am. what do i do?

[DakotasPrincess]

he told me last night when we were laying on the couch that when im in littlespace i can get whiny and he thinks its annoying

 

[Guest]

I don't think that means he is not into ddlg . He is probably just tired and when you whine it probably just makes him more tired (not being mean just saying what's probably going on.)

 

Daddies have feelings too and get down and tired sometimes. Sometimes you gotta put aside your littleness for a bit and be a big girl and help your daddy feel better. I am sure he didn't mean to be so mean to you and say it's annoying. Just talk to him about it when you are both calm

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I second the talking to him about it once you're both more awake, less tired, and less emotional. It also may be an unpopular opinion, but someone doesn't have to have the exact same level of enthusiasm and interest in something as you do in order to participate in it with you. Talk to him about what he meant by that when you're both more collected, and be open to what he has to say. This sounds like something that needs to be worked about between the two of you, but it's a totally doable conversation to have. 

[Daddy's Meg]

I'd take it as constructive criticism. My Daddy doesn't like whining either. I am very comfortable whining and drawing it out, but I choose not to very often. Why annoy him with something minor? I don't need to whine, especially if its going to just bother him and end up negative for me.

 

Being a little doesn't mean you have to whine so I wouldn't really say it means he's not interesting in the dynamic. He's just not interested in dealing with whining. I can understand, as I hate dealing with whiny people. It's exhausting and rather annoying. Just try to lessen that part and I'm sure it'll be fine if that's all he's complaining about.

[babybunny-xx]

I disagree with the above posters (but only on their conclusion from your post being merely about whining, absolutely not disagreeing with the excellent advice given) - I hate to follow cliches but "no smoke without fire" may fit here, we don't know if this is just one of the reasons OP thinks their Daddy isn't into DDLG and there may be more background to it than simply one comment about whining. I'm sure OP knows more about their own relationship and their own Daddy than we do. Maybe the conclusion OP drew about him being disinterested in DDLG was based on other aspects and not just this.

 

 

My advice: Talk to him! Communication communication communication - SO important in any relationship. Approach it with an open mind. As Arya and MissJellyBean said, both of you need to be in the right frame of mind to have a good, honest conversation. Tell him how his comment made you feel. Tell him what being little/DDLG means to you. Ask how he feels about your dynamic. Ask him what DDLG means to him. *Leave nothing unclear.*

 

If the dynamic isn't what you want from your relationship, is there enough flexibility for you in what you both can compromise? If your relationship isn't working for you after *communication and effort*, then unfortunately, hard as it may be, it's time to move on.

 

I hope things work out well for you x