Totally New to This - Have Some Questions

[BrandyWine]

Hi all.  I came across the dd/lg community very recently; in fact, only last night did I realise it is actually a community, with defined names and terms.

 

I've indulged in a lot of "little" behaviour in my relationships, not as a defined role, but more as a way of playing and interacting.  Because it's fun, and it feels good, and I like being taken care of.  So far, it hasn't become a part of my sex-life, though it does appear in my fantasies.  I had trouble finding the distinction between dd/lg and incest, and I didn't feel comfortable explaining it to someone else.

 

I'm currently in a relationship, and I'm not sure how to bring up this new idea, and how to experiment with it.  At this point, I don't know if it's a relationship that will last or not, and right now I feel like I would definitely like to explore this community more at some point.  I'm tempted just to wait until this relationship comes to a natural end and then explore more.  How did you all handle this?  Did you get into the community with a partner, or find one within the community?

 

Another thing that worries me is the boundaries.  I've been in abusive relationships before, and I'm concerned about setting boundaries so that I'm only a little at certain times, and respected as an adult at other times.  How do you manage that?

[bunniesarewonderful]

I found my partner within the community, which so far, has worked out really well. We have a mutual understanding of what the dd/lg lifestyle and relationship dynamic is, and it allows us to be our authentic selves with one another. It's one of the benefits of meeting a partner within the community.

At least with my partner and I, he can gauge when I am in adult space, and treats me accordingly. Communication and conversations about boundaries are important and I recommend at least telling your partner what your boundaries are so your partner knows what's appropriate. I hope this helps?

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

Well I was in a ddlg relationship and after it ended I found this incredible amazing community so I guess you could say I joined alone and like all relationships boundaries must be set for what is acceptable and what is not as for the only being little at certain times it just depends like for me it's how she speaks, touches or teases in certain ways like whenever I hear daddy I speak/act different for me I'm always dominant, protective, and caring but I don't show some of it unless certain conditions arise kind of like how green means go at a stop light I hope this helps and have fun exploring

[Whispering-oak]

hello ,,, I would first like to start off saying that the DD/lg requires a stable relationship, if you are thinking about approaching this with your current partner. If there is any doubt about the relationship lasting I would suggest that you not enter into a DD/lg  relationship with that person...   Being little allows you to define who you are and how long it lasts per day. What I mean by that is if you get up in the morning and have to go to work then you put on your big girl clothes and go to work ... if you want to do the bar scene with your friends then you do your adult time and be an adult... if you come home from work and need time to be little and want that part of a relationship then you do exactly that... be Little... you choose your age and if you want you can have stuffies .. .sippie cups... pacifiers..... the boundaries of the relationship are set by both of you before the relationship gets to involved. If the Daddy Dom or Domme does not allow you to set any boundaries and wants things their way ....RUN  as this person is looking for complete control and most likely has motives that could harm you ..As far as telling people what your relationships in life are, you can say its a Dom submissive relationship or if you are comfortable you can say it is a DD/lg relationship... you might also say that this is not an incest fantasy, it is about someone taking care of you as your real dad did and you like the security it gives you. if there is a sexual side just like in a real grownup relationship ...ITS NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS...IF YOU HAVE QUESTIONS COME TO THE CHAT ROOM AND ASK THERE .. or go to the forum pages and enter the chat for littles ... talk with littles there.... read some of the topics and then read some more and gather all the information you can... most of the regular DD or lg's in the room will answer your questions and if they can't then they will get you to someone who can.... remember  this is not about being abusive... if the DD abuses you in any way  forcing you to do things you don't want to do morally ( in chat or if it becomes real life) then seek help in the chat room as they have extensive resources to help... BDSM play with your DD is by your choice... sex  with the DD is your choice (real time or online). as a little you have the same rights as an adult and just as an adult you can call the shots when setting up the relationship... so get out the glitter and the coloring books... watch Cinderella or Poo bear.. (and it is OK to wear little mermaid panties or the like under your big girl/adult clothes...)..be safe ... and hope you find the love and care you seek.

Whispering-oak...aka. John