My little thinks she can quit being a little

[Drmagister]

My little just told me she wants to quit being little, and just be "normal". I'm trying to tell her thats not quite how it works, but she's being obstinate. She's getting rid of her coloring books, and her giant stuffed toy "beary." I keep telling her she's happiest being little, but to no avail. She says she's doing this for me, but I don't think either of us will be happy. We are also married.... Advice?

[AGentleman]

best advice i can give you is talk to her

[GuyWhoLovesTheSun]

What an awful thought, a little not wanting to be little anymore.. but i agree just talk to her, find out why she wants to quit and maybe help her through it in any way possible, unfortunately even if that means helping her not be a little anymore.

[AGentleman]

 unfortunately even if that means helping her not be a little anymore.

that is actually an important thing i think... you can't force her to be little if she doesn't want that anymore.....

[Guest ~LittleAlice~]

I've gone through phases where I don't want to be little anymore... there has always been some inner turmoil associated with it... I always come back to it though.

 

Maybe ask her if she wants to put her stuff in a box, rather than getting rid of it, just in case? (and maybe hide a few treasures in there and a note assuring her that you love her any way she is for when/if she picks it back up again) It's a tough spot to be in and I hope it all works out for you guys.

[Guest Isabelle]

Find out why she thinks she's doing it for you, if its not what you want. Perhaps something embarrassing happened to make her think she's not 'normal'. Try and ask her why she thinks she'll be happier not being a little, try -not- to tell her she wont be happy without being a little. Let things come from her, if she really wants to stop, she certainly can, but this obviously will have a great impact on your relationship, so with any major thing one person is changing its important to be supportive, and also work out how you feel about it. Make sure you tell her how upsetting it is for you, but please don't put emotions or things on her like "you're happiest being a little", as she might not be and not telling you about it. You could say, "I've seen you acting so happy when you're being little, why do you want to stop?" I'm sorry if that sounds nitpicky but I've endured a lifetime of people telling me I should be happy or this is my favorite when neither is true, and it makes me angry and feel like I should have that as a favorite :/

[tayiie]

I've been through the "i don't want to be little" phase. But that was because I had gone through a very hard breakup and I thought the only way getting rid of my feelings for him was to get rid of all my little stuff and get a normal relationship with a normal person. So it's not the same situation, but I would had loved if someone who's important to me talked to me. Telling me that being in this mindset is what makes me happy. It's who I am and nothing will change that. But I didn't have anyone like that and things ended pretty badly for me. So try talk to her. She might say she's doing it for you because something happened. Or maybe she just tells you that and there's something else underneath that's the problem.

[sthvxo]

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I agree that's now how it works, unless it's not really a part of her. If she was just doing it as a hobby or for fun, maybe she can just stop being little. If it's truly a part of her, though, I think she is going to be very sad later on for getting rid of her things. At the least, I think you should insist to just put the stuff away in a box or something for a few months, so she can make sure she doesn't want it back in the future.

[littlebylittle]

I have no idea about how it works, but I'm quite surprise some of you claim to know how it works, especially for others. Like, people cannot change? People cannot choose who they are or try to change ? You know better than she what is good for her?

Yes maybe it's sad to throw the things away, but sometimes you need to really throw stuffs - maybe she needs to know that these things are being thrown away, not stashed somewhere. Anyway the best advice, already given, is talk to her, because in your description there is no real explanation, just a description of her behavior and your judgment that she is 'obstinate' , that you tell here she is more happy being little - which I find quite surprising, how can you know that, without even mentioning the reason of her behavior...?

[PinkiePie84]

Speaking as a wife with frequent mood changes, give her space to be who she is and if shes little she will gravitate back to it, you can't force her to be little and pushing it on her will have the opposite effect. littles are strong and stubborn, if you push to hard she will push back and get further from what you hope for.

 

Hold on to her being your little with an open hand. 

[Frog]

Is there any way you can hide her teddy bear? I'm concerned that if it's a phase, she might later regret getting rid of it. Coloring books can be replaced, but usually stuffies are sentimental. 

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Support her in whatever decision she makes. Its HER decision, after all. Being a little or being a Daddy isnt like food or water, y'know. You dont NEED it to survive.

[Cold Princess]

I think she has the right to decided if she wants to be little or not. In the end she is an adult and can make her own decision. I understand that you do question this decision she makes, I think it is best to sit down and talk with her about why she wants to stop being little. Definitely bring up why she said "she's doing it for you" because this statement has an obvious underlying concern.

 

I wish you the best of luck that this situation will be resolved soon! Remember she is an adult and is capable of making her own choices and judgment.

Edited March 11, 2017 by Cold Princess

[BabySwe]

 

Is there any way you can hide her teddy bear? I'm concerned that if it's a phase, she might later regret getting rid of it. Coloring books can be replaced, but usually stuffies are sentimental.

 I agree with this... I've had my stuffies since i was a child, and to me, like lots of other littles, they have emotions and feelings. If this temporarily changed for me and i got rid of them and they would disappear.... *shudders* I would probably end up hating myself...

[Drmagister]

I love you all my friends! Daddy switched out coloring books and hid baby's stuffies at Grandma's....The five foot bear, beary, is her most favorite. My little lasted only four days before reverting. She proved she's not pretending. Apparently Daddy worries excessively lol. Thank you all.

[fairytales]

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Edited December 9, 2017 by fairytales