How young is too young to be a daddy?

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[Guest]

18+ and your good to go

[Eraser70]

Under 23. After that, many young men are out of college or the military.

 

Ideally, you need your own living space and the means to support it.

 

Also, if you have experience tending care to another human.

Or took care of your own pets.

 

You need self-mastery, and life experience to begin being a Daddy in a real-life situation.

 

This is, of course, my opinion only.

[TheRatQueen]

I generally agree with Eraser70's reply. Not so much on the specific age, but everything else.

 

My Daddy and I are both 20. What makes our situation work is that he works and supports himself, pays bills, etc. And THEN he can take care of me because he takes care of himself.

 

Being 18+ is a must and so is emotional maturity

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I think this question is going to yield a variety of results, and that's a good thing! Learning about how different people think and act is an important part of continuing to grow. 

 

I firmly feel that a Caregiver is less about age, and much more about your view of the world and yourself in it. Maturity is a factor, of course, but I like my Caregivers to be a bit of a goofball too. My Caregivers are both older than I am, but I've had incredibly successful relationships with Caregivers/Doms who were younger than I am, too! If you are able to think critically and logically about a situation, keep a level head (to a degree) when things get difficult, problem solve, and listen to what your partner says that they want or need or feel, I think you are more than qualified to be a Caregiver. 

 

If we base things off of stability in things like education, career, finances, living situations, etc, you are closing yourself out of a lot of wonderful options just because they don't meet standards that can be somewhat impossible in today's climate. Both of my Caregivers have been without a job for a few months. Both of them have struggled financially while we've been together. Both of them are still working on their education in some way or another. Both of them would like to improve their living situations. But so do most adults.

 

In my humble opinion, your passion, drive, and your thirst to learn and grow and achieve more and improve yourself matters much more. I agree that Caregivers need to take care of themselves, but I don't necessarily think you need to have your life together perfectly to do that. Because I mean, who does! If someone can't support themselves, a job isn't going to magically change that even if they have money --- it's a mindset, not a situational circumstance. 

 

I also want to add here that my Little is in her 30's, and I'm in my 20's! So remember that age doesn't have as much bearing (as long as you are legal, and not lying about your age!) as you think it does!

[Flink]

I think this question is going to yield a variety of results, and that's a good thing! Learning about how different people think and act is an important part of continuing to grow. 

 

I firmly feel that a Caregiver is less about age, and much more about your view of the world and yourself in it. Maturity is a factor, of course, but I like my Caregivers to be a bit of a goofball too. My Caregivers are both older than I am, but I've had incredibly successful relationships with Caregivers/Doms who were younger than I am, too! If you are able to think critically and logically about a situation, keep a level head (to a degree) when things get difficult, problem solve, and listen to what your partner says that they want or need or feel, I think you are more than qualified to be a Caregiver. 

 

If we base things off of stability in things like education, career, finances, living situations, etc, you are closing yourself out of a lot of wonderful options just because they don't meet standards that can be somewhat impossible in today's climate. Both of my Caregivers have been without a job for a few months. Both of them have struggled financially while we've been together. Both of them are still working on their education in some way or another. Both of them would like to improve their living situations. But so do most adults.

 

In my humble opinion, your passion, drive, and your thirst to learn and grow and achieve more and improve yourself matters much more. I agree that Caregivers need to take care of themselves, but I don't necessarily think you need to have your life together perfectly to do that. Because I mean, who does! If someone can't support themselves, a job isn't going to magically change that even if they have money --- it's a mindset, not a situational circumstance. 

 

I also want to add here that my Little is in her 30's, and I'm in my 20's! So remember that age doesn't have as much bearing (as long as you are legal, and not lying about your age!) as you think it does!

 

This is very very interesting. I never knew someone could have more than one caregiver, and I also didn't know it was possible to be a little and a caregiver... It is possible to be a caregiver and have more than one little?

[Guest QueenJellybean]

This is very very interesting. I never knew someone could have more than one caregiver, and I also didn't know it was possible to be a little and a caregiver... It is possible to be a caregiver and have more than one little?

 

Absolutely! There aren't any hard and fast rules when it comes to relationships like this, as long as everyone involved is aware and consenting. I suggest you check out my Resource on Polyamory for more information! I have two Caregivers, one long distance and one whom I live with, and I'm a Caregiver to my Little. But Beast, the Caregiver I live with, has three Littles including me! So absolutely!

[Guest Loki]

The dynamic is anything you and the others agree to! You can be a caregiver with multiple littles, a little with multiple caregivers, or a switch - someone who wants/needs both littles and caregivers. And it's not just limited to that you can be a pet, or have a pet. It's all up to the people in the dynamic. As long as everyone is happy and agree to it, the skies the limit!

 

<3

[Harley_Quinn]

Me and daddy are both 20. The only problem I ever see is major Dom Drop since he started working (it's also because I've had sub drop since I got pregnant so its not entirely his fault) but usually he takes pretty good care of me, he cooks for me, gets me drinks, takes showers with me against his will (he hates how hot I make the water lol) i think as long as your over 18 it's okay.

[babybunny-xx]

Under 23. After that, many young men are out of college or the military.

Wow this is a huge assumption. Not everyone follows this set "typical" timeline in their life and I'd hypothesise that people following an alternative lifestyle (like those on the very forum you're posting on!) are maybe also less likely to do so.

 

I wouldn't an age limit on this (other than the legal age of consent - I'm from the UK where this is 16 and find it difficult to agree with judging people between 16-18 though I can agree with 18 being a set age limit for adult content online and in clubs/events; both for very obvious legal reasons and morally for my own personal reasons).

 

I agree that a person should be able to handle such a responsibility but this varies between individuals. Some will never be able to, some will find it comes naturally at a younger age than most. In my opinion it wouldn't be a question of how old a person should be but how capable they should be - and even that is individual to each relationship.

[Whispering-oak]

Just a thought here ... I am 61, I have raised my four children to be responsible productive adults...and now i miss the dynamic and the being the protector and guiding of a little person and watching them achieve great things ... Being a DD is a part of who we are just as little's will always have that little as a part of their personality.. yes littles need to grow and learn to care for themselves but that doesn't mean they have to stop being little or a DD has to stop being a caregiver ... these are life skills that will affect them when they have families.... some of the DD/lg's will be together for a lifetime.. if they work at balancing their relationship between DD/lg and adult needs... and if a little needs a little boost during the day guess what... you can wear your little mermaid undies under your big girl clothes or your power ranger bvd's.. i would say all  or most of us here have recognized our caregiver or little personality,,, why then would we have to give it up because we stop going to school or reach a certain age... and live with that empty feeling...?

[Hurndauke]

I'd say at least 16, as long as your with someone your age. But I guess everyone has their own opinion.

Edited March 16, 2017 by Kreutzerfahren

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[Sparklefrosting]

Since many daddies and littles feel it's a part of their personality I don't feel like there's a correct age for it to be a part of who you are but you should be at least legal age to be in a ddlg relationship with another person. 

[SkunkPrincess]

I don't think there is an age to be a daddy. If you have a sexual relationship, I think 16+. But if its just Little and a caregiver, age doesn't really matter. Its more about maturity.

[Guest Wolfsbabylove]

I think they should be old enough to take care of themselves. have a job,car,apartment,etc. plus be emotionally mature.