Help!!

[queenie]

I have a boyfriend, but he's not my daddy. So I talked to him, and he said it was okay if I found a daddy for myself and I did! The only catch was that the relationship cant be romantic like it is with my boyfriend and I, it's just so I can get the attention I need. I told my daddy thaat, but last night he said he loved me.. I don't know how to respond? Do I tell my boyfriend??

[Guest]

Did you tell your daddy but front that it was meant purely to be for attention not romantic if so remind him of that. If he carries on then tell your boyfriend and see how it goes. You maybe losing your daddy but you don't want to hurt your relationship with your boyfriend

[MisterMomo]

Did he said it like a Daddy would Love his girl or in a Romantic "I love you"  kind of way ? ...  Cause as a Little, I hope my Caregiver would Love meh! .... even if it is in a Caregiver way and not a romantic way. 

 

I'm not going to dip the toe in "do you tell your BF or not" .. hehe ... 

Edited March 8, 2017 by MisterMomo

[SharkPrince]

if he has feelings for you past little/big, and you're in an already established relationship, then unfortunately I would say you need to end it. He's not going to be able to just turn off the feelings so even if you don't feel the same way, there'll be some level of connection there above what you promised your boyfriend.

[BabyGirl32015]

Alright, you seem to have gotten yourself in to a HUGE relationship pickle. All relationships are about communication, stalk my profile you'll find I talk about this a lot! DDLG, boyfriend and girlfriend, partner and partner, BDSM, they ALL are about trust and communication!
 
Did you talk to the person you are referring to as "Daddy" about your relationship and rules with your boyfriend? Have they ever talked to each other to lay down rules for sharing you? Have they ever met? Are they interested in meeting each other? Would you spend time with both of them at the same time?
 
There are LOTS of questions you need to ask and LOTS of time that you need to think. Maybe start a group chat, invite "Daddy" over, TALK THINGS OUT!
 
As for telling your boyfriend, I'm not going to sit here and tell you what to do... But yeah you really should if you don't want to look like a backstabbing, cheating girlfriend because you live a particular lifestyle that your current significant other isn't involved in.   
 
Hope this helps!
 
Kay

[Whispering-oak]

how you respond will require some serious thinking on your part... do you love the BF ... Do you love your Daddy.. if both then you have to tell both what is going on and what limits there are ... if you have to choose between one or the other they you have to decide which one will fill your needs and complete you as a person... its a hard choice that will require a lot of soul searching on your part.... but remember honesty is the best policy .. keeping secrets is just waiting for them to come back and bite you .....

good luck

[queenie]

thanks for the help! I ultimately decided to end it with Daddy because although I like rules, he was strict and had harsh punishments and was over all to sexual.