Nurturing punishments

[Drmagister]

My little has been difficult to punish until very recently. She just doesn't correlate negative actions receive negative consequences. So daddy did some research and some creative thinking. And came up with a couple teaching punishments that work really well. First, my little has said in the past that drinking urine won't happen, hard boundary. Fine. But she can fill a cup... I had her do so when she was being disrespectful to me. I asked her to smell it and describe the aroma. I asked her if she would ever willingly drink it or dump it over her head, of course she said no. I then posed the situation as, "if you won't, why do you do that to daddy? When you disrespect daddy, you're pissing all over him." That got through. An unusual but effective method of conveying the message. Fyi pee went into the toilet. Next, when my little was being deliberately defiant, etc., I had her look up some word definitions and write them out. Impertinent, insolent. I then re-described the situation and how she was acting, and had her write lines using those words. Her response was, "wow daddy, now I really understand why you're upset." And after, she was very appreciative of my teaching her the essence of the problems instead of simply punishing her actions... Who likes these ideas?

[Guest]

Very good ideas. Personally I would not do the pee thing but reading about it alone is a very good lesson . Thanks you for sharing.

[Hurndauke]

The whole "pee thing" is a bit gross, don't you think?

[MisterMomo]

I agree with Arya, I'm not sure for the pee thingy. I get to metaphor, but maybe it is not age appropriate? ...  If she was going to Kindergarden, not sure your little could go to kindergarden and tell her teacher "Daddy made me pee in a glass and wanted me to drink it... or Drop it on my Head!"   LoL...

 

However, you seem to have something there with the Metaphor to teach your little. Instead of just telling her not to do something and punishing, using a similar story or situation to help her get it and learn proper behavior (like a metaphor) is a great idea!

 

You could use metaphor by telling her stories you make for her, where the heros meet similar challenges. That would be perfect for a little and also a great learning experience like you seem to like. Maybe just keep it like a story great for a kid (that she could tell to her Little friends in kindergarden without problems) .

 

Have a  great day !

[Lil_pinkprincess]

I think that if it works,Great!!

You're a good daddy for thinking of consequences that suit your little.

Any advice on daddy's who aren't good at punishing or thinking of individual needs?

My daddy I think has the best intentions but punishing usually is disorganized and off the top of his head.

For example, my last punishment was given after a fight over me drinking,which the next day I was ignored . The thing is that wasn't told to me until late in the afternoon and when I asked for how long he said he didn't know,

That just made me what to act 24 and not little anymore.

Edited March 8, 2017 by Lil_pinkprincess

[fairytales]

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Edited December 9, 2017 by fairytales

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

careful, friends. you may think the pee thing is gross/yucky but i'm sure there are people

out there into it who don't think so. just like there are people out there who think

the whole ddlg thing is yucky/incesty/pedophilic but we don't think so. just food for thought.

 

maybe it's because i was a vet tech for so long and came into contact with animals

and had to clean, feed, operate, dissect animals that i just can't bring myself to find

something like urine gross when i've had to clean out blood from my nails after a

blood draw from a spazzy animal, lol. 

 

i wouldn't do it personally because i'm a bitch about my hair but bodily functions like

urinating doesn't really bother me, it's life and it's one of the least disgusting things

about it when you take into consideration how some humans act towards one another.

[AGentleman]

if you're both consenting to the pee thing go for it! i like the idea a lot better than the standart spanking/rubber band snapping!

[BabySwe]

 

careful, friends. you may think the pee thing is gross/yucky but i'm sure there are people

out there into it who don't think so. just like there are people out there who think

the whole ddlg thing is yucky/incesty/pedophilic but we don't think so. just food for thought.

I agree with this, everyone likes different things and it's kinda mean to say its gross and yucky.... Besides, it might be unorthodox, but I imagined she felt safe knowing it's a hard limit for her (as that's what hard limits are for), and it was just to teach her understanding, which seems to have worked. It might not be for everyone, but at least be respectful ^.^

Edited March 11, 2017 by LittleZen