Starting to think im never gonna find a little again

[Dahturtle]

To be honest i really dont think ill find another little again ive searched everywhere i possibly could i honestly dont think theres a little out there for me :/ i really dont know what to do should i keep searching or just give up?

[Himedere-Chan]

I say never give up! But maybe you should't spend so much time on searching, finding a lover is so stressful and sometimes you just need to focus on your hobby or hangout with friends so you don't suffer from burn out.

I hope you don't give up, but in the end it's all up to you.

[EllaDawn]

The best things often happen when you're not looking. I wasn't looking for a Daddy when I found mine. We met in an MMO of all places. I wasn't looking for a relationship - I was in one, albeit a coerced one that forced me to stifle my little side. And now we've been together over a decade.

[river]

Don't give up. Littles feel that way about caregivers too. We have to keep each other strong.

[Dahturtle]

I just really dont know what to do right now basically none of my friends are talking to me and now i can barely think about starting a babysitting buiness for littles :/

[pengudaddy]

Dude you are 19. You are not even an adult, let's be honest. I highly recommend focusing on your life goals rather than finding a little...

 

Im tired of these pampering, hug-posts. If you really want to focus on finding a little and sacrifice more important things, then go ahead. You wont be happy. You may think you are not happy now, but like i said. You are 19. Barely lived life, assuming you've been in school almost 95% of your life.

 

Ill give you better advice. Live your life, stop worrying about the mundane. Finding a little at your age is mundane.

[Dahturtle]

if you're tired of the so called pampering /hug posts then why are you reading them just ignore them its that simple really... :/ just saying

[Guest x77]

There are a lot of Littles out there who haven't even figured out that they're Little yet - or are even aware that ddlg is even a thing. Don't focus too hard on finding one, try not to appear desperate or spring this kind of thing up on anyone you might like too quickly. There's a lot of self discovery involved with becoming a Little/ Daddy and there's lots of trust to be won, it's not something that happens over night. Try showing your nurturing side, test the waters by using pet names and coddling to see if your partner is receptive to that kind of attention so it doesn't freak them out and you don't come on too strong. If this is what you want, don't give up, just relax and see what happens

 

Finding a little at your age is mundane.

+1

Edited March 7, 2017 by Puppet

[Guest Loki]

Sweetie, you're 19. It's normal to wonder about finding your other, but most littles don't realize it's ok to be a little. Also, many littles want a Daddy that is older than they are, and from what I've seen, most littles who aren't jumping on the bandwagon are in their mid 20s to early 30s.

 

So just breathe. Your little is out there, but you have to be patient and you have to realize your age might be hurting your chances. At 19 most people will see you as a kid - even if you are the most mature adult around. Sadly, ageism is a real thing.

 

Maybe slow down. Focus on becoming the best adult you can be.

 

If you truly want a little, then maybe the problem is your preferences. Do you discard a little based on age, race, location? We're a global community but we are still a minority within a minority. It's difficult finding a match in a vanilla setting, and it just gets harder the more you delve into kinks and fetishes and lifestyle dynamics.

 

Hope this helps <3

Edited March 7, 2017 by Pinkyellowblue

[BabySwe]

I believe that you can be a great daddy at age 19, or a lousy one at age 40. Age on its own doesn't make or break a good daddy. That said, maybe giving up already is a bit early? As many people here say, you are only 19. When I was 19 I just entered my first relationship, it's a young age. Statistics show that most women that find a partner they are happy with are 30, since people are slow at figuring out their wants and needs. It's great that you know what you want, but like Pinkyellowblue says, do you also disregard other people based on other things? I see so many people writing "I just want a daddy to love me" or "I'll never find a little". It's easy to think it will never happen to you, until one day it does. And you got so much time to find someone, time to focus on yourself, your school/career or just make your friends feel loved and cared for. I know you wrote that your friends wont talk to you, and I don't know why that is. Maybe you've just chosen poorly, maybe they aren't good friends, maybe you need to widen your horizons. But I don't doubt that you'll find someone eventually, as long as you give people a chance and put yourself out there Word of advice though, littles tend to be very needy, and daddies usually like that. But what makes a great daddy in my eyes is someone who's safe and dependable, the opposite of me as an insecure and needy little. I'm not saying you are or are not. I'm just saying that if you get desperate it might end up tripping you in the end

[Himedere-Chan]

if you're tired of the so called pampering /hug posts then why are you reading them just ignore them its that simple really... :/ just saying

Penguin gives very brutal, but honest answers. This is just how they feel about your situation, they did the same to me and I got upset at first. And to what everyone else is saying about your age, they could be right, however my partner is 3 years younger than me and I am 19 like you so.. Yeah, we were lucky to find each other. I agree with Ella since it's how I got to know my partner. Find a hobby you are passionate about like games or something and you will find people like you, and with some luck a little of your very own. ^w^

 

P.S. Zen couldn't be more correct too! Take the time to read her comment, very uplifting stuff there. -.^

Edited March 7, 2017 by Himedere-Chan

[Guest Isabelle]

I'm 30 and never had a relationship or found a daddy yet.

[tayiie]

When me and my ex daddy broke up I was devastated. It took a year to get over it. Then I started searching. Found a few daddies but none was really the one. Then from no where when I felt like giving up someone I least expected wanted us to give it a try. And I have to say I have fallen hard for this guy. So, stop searching for someone and start searching and learning about the lifestyle. Get to know people and don't think about weather you'll meet the one or not. :3

[kkpugs17]

I'm thinking i will never find a daddy!  

[EllaDawn]

I didn't check age before I responded. I was 31 before I found my Daddy. 31. I identified as a little for a good 7 or 8 years before that. There is time, and it takes many littles longer to realize they are littles - I was in my mid 20s. You're 19. Relax and give it time.