Littles that had children and are now teenagers / have grown up

[Todtuga38]

I've been in a Dd/lg dynamic for over a year now and I'm not sure what to think of the future. I want children and Daddy does too. We have read online of many littles that have had kids and their relationship dynamic didn't change and was ok, but we haven't been able to find anything about what happens when those kids grow up and become more aware of the Dd/lg dynamic going on between their parents. Dealing with teenagers is hard as it is, so what happens when the only way to continue your Dd/lg dynamic is when the teenagers are away from home? How can littles and Daddies deal with that w/o hurting each other? We're just scared of not knowing how to deal with it and either mess us up or mess our children up.

Any insight is highly appreciated! Thank you!

[MisterMomo]

Hi! 

 

I work with kids and parents, trying to help their dynamic and home life.  

 

LAtely I've attended lectures about the impact of parenting in children lifes. Latest studies have proven the impact of parenting is mostly limited. Some says it is even limited to 5% in predicting behaviors in life. 

 

If you want to feel usefull has parents you have to realise 5% is something important!  

 

However, it limits you responsabilities in "messing up your kid".

 

Whatever you can do as a parent, your kid is free to deal with it and adapt too. Make it what he or she wants to make it. 

There is also the genetic that can impact, the environment, the school, the friends, etc! ... 

 

I have no clue about if it is Fun to be living with a teen and be a Little. But I'd guesss it is not worst than other habbits people can have. If this dynamic makes you happy and a Loving family, it would be even better than another more Vanilla couple that argues all the time and not Loving at all. So many things involved here! .. 

 

Will a teen find a way to critic you in what you are? .. well.. that is something many teen does... However, if a teen wanna argue with his parents, he will find a way to do so, even with th more conventionnal and vanilla couple of the world ...  

 

I hope the best for you and your families!  

Edited March 7, 2017 by MisterMomo

[Kara]

It's hard to be a parent these days no matter what you do.... But if you do hide a part of what makes you from you, it will eventually effect everything around you, in other ways.  So really the choice is do you make your self happy and embrace who you are, or do you hide who you are and not truly be happy.  I mean with teenagers especially being you can be hard because they are so unsure of things themselves.  I wish you the best but bottom line you have to do what your inner voice says for you and your kids.    I have three children and the youngest just turned 19 in December.

Edited March 7, 2017 by Kara

[EllaDawn]

I've been in a DD/lg relationship with my now husband since my stepson was about 2 and before either of our daughters were born. They know now that I have a little side, which they love, and even that I'm involved with Little Scouts and the basics of what that it. My older daughter (almost 9) is actually using that as leverage for me to sign her up for girl scouts haha - if I get to do scouts, she does too. My stepson is about to be 13 now. I've always called my husband Daddy in front of them, etc. It doesn't seem to do any harm or damage. They like having a "fun" mom who likes a lot of the same things they do. I don't feel they need to know the intimate details of our dynamic, but we don't hide things.

[AZDaddydom]

My wife/princess have been married for almost 15 years. We have two girls 11 and almost 8 and a son at 8 months. I started looking into the ddlg thing about 2 years ago when we started looking into more sub/ dom stuff. She loves how I take control of situations and take care of her and so it made sense to me. She at first thought this was all weird but when I showed her all the things she already does that are little, i.e. coloring, pouts, gets really excited over simple things and other stuff and showed her that this is not weird when it's between us and we cultivate it into what works for us. She started to understand and see what I was talking about. She saw the connection and has embraced it more and do the last year we have been cultivating this new part of our marriage. The reason I said all that is because we were not into this dynamic when our girls were young. But like I said she has always had "little" tendencies come out and we have always been playful and loving in front of the girls, so the transition hasn't been too hard. She has worried a little that the girls will wonder but I show her that hasn't happened. She calls me daddy in front of them but they just thunk it's because they are in the room, she drinks from a princess cup sometimes but they think it's fun. They even understand she has her own coloring books and crayons and they have their own and they know she has a stuffy. But they don't know any intimate stuff. I think that as they get used to it they don't think anything of it. In fact they see how dad treats their mom and I hope they will desire a man that will treat them in a similar way. Not necessarily in the ddlg dynamic but if that is their cup of tea that's up to them but they see I treat my wife with respect and she is my world and it's important they see that. It will be interesting to see what happens as they get older and more aware but I imagine for the most part it will be normal to them but we may have to explain to them a little at some point, my younger daughter is wayyyyyy to observant for her own good lol