CrazyLittleBuggaBoo Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 I have about 20 people on my friends list, however most these people don't talk to me. I'm not looking for a Friend collection, to be a Friend collector or to be part of a Friend collection. I'd like to actually talk and be friends with people. Would it be rude to delete people when we don't talk anyway? I was thinking about messaging everyone telling them I'm cleaning up my friends list and if they'd like to stay to return my message. I know that having conversations is hard, they are hard to start and can be hard to carry on. I'm not very good at them myself, however I don't really care how bad or one sentenced the conversation is, at least it's a try. I know people tend to get touchy about being removed from friends lists...
sighing Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 Just remove them. No need to get so conflicted and worried about something like this 4
CrazyLittleBuggaBoo Posted March 6, 2017 Author Report Posted March 6, 2017 I guess your probably right lol
Guest GrumpyGeorge Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 It's not rude at all, if they aren't friends and make no efforts to be friends then they don't belong in a 'Friend' list 2
BabySwe Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 Do you make an effort to be friends with them in return though, and they are always the ones that stop answering? If you have no interest in talking to them it's perfectly fine to remove them, and being removed by someone you never talk to should be something people need to learn to handle, so technically you might be doing some a favor by offering them practice and a chance to grow ^.^ But also, like you said, sometimes reaching out and typing people is hard, and a lot of people struggle with that here. So if there's someone on there you feel you'd possibly want to talk to, don't be scared to give them another chance, if not, remove them and see it as a chance to grow for yourself by doing something scary 1
Himedere-Chan Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 I agree with sighing and George. I keep the people I talk to on my friends list. It's a friends list not a acquaintance list. In the end it is up to you. ^w^
Guest Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 I remove people if I don't talk to them for a while, or if while talking to them it was just not a very fun talk. I don't do it to be rude I just do the care to keep contact with people I don't enjoy talking to. 1
MisterMomo Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 Hi Buggaboo! I also realised that people stop to visit the forum or chat. I cleaned my friend list lately and deleted the ones I haven't talk to for a while (or seen). I did not sent a letter about it and dont feel bad. My guess is that hey wont notice anyway ... So... I dont think it is Rude. If you want to delete people, just do. If they want to PM you another time, they'll just have to add you again. Have a Great Week ! 2
tayiie Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 No I don't think it's rude. Most people have added me cause they want to see if we are a match in some way. Once I haven't heard from them in a while, I take them away. I don't feel the need to have friends that won't ever talk to me. Those I keep as friends are people I might regularly talk with about just normal things, life and such. So, no. It's not rude 1
Guest LicklePrincess Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 as many of the others said why bother stay "friends" with them if they don't communicate. also some people forget once people are on your contact list they can see your contact info such as kik if you placed it there, and if you are not chatty with someone do you really want them seeing that.
Frog Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 I think people mix up "friends" and "friends (on a list)." An online friend usually isn't the same as a friend. Although the two can mix, and online friend is usually more like a contact. Don't stress out. If you don't talk to them anymore, then you haven't had a falling out. You just didn't click. If they have anything important to say, nothing is stopping them from sending another friend request. So don't worry about it. 1
DaddysMonkey Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 Hello there ! I think there is a big difference in true friends , and people who you are acquainted with. If you rarely talk to someone , or the friendship begins to fade away and neither party is putting in effort to save it then delete away in my opinion. I've experienced where some people take it personally , for whatever reason they were deleted. If this is the case , maybe they weren't really great friends after all. I personally wouldn't feel obligated to send everyone a message , if someone was interested in keeping you as a friend they would maybe re friend you or ask you why they were removed from your friends list. Don't stress over it , is my opinion ^-^ Hope this helps <3 2
Aqu45 Posted March 6, 2017 Report Posted March 6, 2017 I wouldnt say its rude at all, especially if youve tried to actually be friends with them and they are putting any effort back into it
CrazyLittleBuggaBoo Posted March 7, 2017 Author Report Posted March 7, 2017 Thanks you guys Everyone was a big help. It does seem like something silly to stress over now :3 1
EllaDawn Posted March 7, 2017 Report Posted March 7, 2017 Your friends list is your own business. You should never worry about being rude or feeling guilty for making sure it is just people you want there. Period. 1
Guest Princessaj Posted March 10, 2017 Report Posted March 10, 2017 I just cleaned my list. My criteria was I deleted them if they had not logged on in January or more recently, they were doing something else more important. I have fond memories and I thank them for the good times. Doesn't mean that we won't "friend" again. Door is still open.
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