Open Relationships in DDLG

[Guest Pastel_Kitten]

So I've always had a bit of hard time staying in really committed and long term relationships. Though I've also never had a daddy or dated a daddy-like guy, so that may be part of the reason why it hasn't worked out for me yet. But I've always kind of been intrigued by the idea of being in an open relationship. I'm just curious if this would really work out with a ddlg relationship. I'd probably only want one daddy, because I feel like this is a title I'd only want to save for someone special. Does anyone have any experience with this?

[Guest]

I have two daddies myself and i am happy as can be. They can have other littles /girlfriends if they want to as well but neither have gotten any at this time. It's not super hard (for me at least ) and i can't imagine having it any other way. I love both of my daddies dearly. Having more than one partner does not make less real. It's really wonderful.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12926-polyamory-basics-by-belle/?p=70306

 

I would also give this a read as it may help explain things for yoh better

Edited March 5, 2017 by Guest

[Guest Pastel_Kitten]

I have two daddies myself and i am happy as can be. They can have other littles /girlfriends if they want to as well but neither have gotten any at this time. It's not super hard (for me at least ) and i can't imagine having it any other way. I love both of my daddies dearly. Having more than one partner does not make less real. It's really wonderful.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12926-polyamory-basics-by-belle/?p=70306

 

I would also give this a read as it may help explain things for yoh better

I'm glad to hear its worked out so well for you ^-^ and neither of your daddies mind it at all? I'm really new to ddlg so I'm still trying to figure it all out, I'll make sure to read that. 

[Guest]

I'm glad to hear its worked out so well for you ^-^ and neither of your daddies mind it at all? I'm really new to ddlg so I'm still trying to figure it all out, I'll make sure to read that.

 

I think there was a little bit of bumpiness at the start but now its fine. They are content as well as am I. My daddy Steve and I were new to poly so it was a little confusing at first but now we got the hang of it and it's all good

 

I have had more than a few daddies and littles voice they don't agree with Poly or open relationships in ddlg. But it works for me and my daddies and that's all that matters.

Edited March 5, 2017 by Guest

[babybunny-xx]

Me and my Daddy bear have an open relationship. We've been together for a year (our anniversary is later this month!) and have been open from the start. A few rules that we agree on for how this works for us:

* always let the other know who we are meeting with and what we plan to do, debrief after

* veto power - we can always say no to a particular person or a particular meeting

* we always use condoms for any sex with others

* no sleepovers with anyone else

* he is my only Daddy and I am his only baby girl, this way we always know that we are special and prioritised to one another

* we do not encourage people who are "cheating" - in a relationship with someone unaware

* we are committed to one another, nobody else

We have a lot of trust for one another and we are very open and honest every time we talk. Not just in this but we are very comfortable around one another and not judgemental.

 

Every open relationship will be different, there's no one "right" way to do it as long as everyone is happy and consenting. There definitely was a period of trial and error to get to this point as we got to know and understand one another more. There were conflicts and disagreements. Relationships are not all happy sunshine and rainbows, people are complex beings.

I don't find it difficult or get jealous when Daddy is with someone else alone, I am happy knowing he is having a good time and often they've been someone I'm friendly with which makes me even happier - the big growed up word for this is compersion.

 

Good luck, I hope you find something that makes you a super happy little! x

[Lostinvoid]

I'll speak on topic also but gotta say seeing someone use Daddy bear made me smile and have a tear but no ill will ( my first little ever called me that if u search my post u will understand ) as far as open relationship I am in one my girl is vanilla and is OK with fact I am a Daddy .. I just can't b her Daddy so we have an agreement she is who I live with it doesn't get in the way of our life other then that has worked fine