How to feel Dominate and Empowered when you're single?

[TheyCallMeNewb]

Let me start off with saying I have been apart of the world of DD/lg for going on three and a half to four years now all of that time being involved in a LDR with someone i knew for fourteen years up until November of last year when I found out the hard way she basically never had feelings for me to begin with. Since the new year I have started a "Brand New Year, Brand New Me" kind of plan in which i am not looking for a relationship and doing my best not to be tempted to be in one with anyone for a least five or six months along with also trying to become a better me since I am a strong believer in being in the right place mentally, emotionally and physically before starting a relationship with someone. Now comes the reason for this post. Now that it's going on three months since I've started my new years resolution I'm starting to notice something I never picked up on as much as before with that being I don't have a lot of control in my daily life nor am i respected by much of anyone I know. I work at a job where I'm being told constantly that I'm just another body and replaceable, My family is dead to me and complete strangers seem rude for no reason. Now don't get me wrong these things haven't caused me to feel depressed or take this as me whining or complaining i'm merely pointing out aspects of my life that have become more apparent and noticeable lately and i feel tie into the message i'm trying to get across which is that I basically I want to find a way to feel the respect, control, accomplishment and satisfaction that i felt when i was in a DD/lg relationship/Being a Caregiver without having to be in one since i don't want to break my plan nor do i feel I'm ready to take on ether of those roles again yet.

[Eraser70]

Over my 3 decades of DaddyDom life, especially in the pre-internet world, there have been significant lengths of time with no Little.

Self-discipline and self-mastery are key for maintaining the feeling of power and strength.

 

At the risk of sounding aphoristic, mastering the self must come before being master of another.

[Guest]

Interpretation is all in how you carry yourself. Personally, if my boss/higher up told me that. I'd either quit all together or chew him out and take the lay off. But back to what i was saying. Flex your emotional muscles, if that makes sense. Be loud, present yourself as a dominant personality. Stick to your guns, even if other people interpret you as wrong. While I'm not sure about how to get you ready to fulfill the roles you once took on, but it all starts with being in control of yourself. 

[Guest]

I couldn't agree more with Eraser70

Edited March 3, 2017 by Soldier_777

[BigCityLittleGirl]

You are awesome for realizing you need to use this new year to discover the real you. Unfortunately most jobs treat their employees that way. Just have a fuck you mentality (don't say it just think it haha) As eraser said, you must be the master of yourself before you can truly be the master of another! Perhaps set some goals for yourself or a list of tasks to complete. Once you accomplish them you should feel very good about yourself!

[TheyCallMeNewb]

First I'd like to say thank you to all of you who replied to my post I very much appreciate it. You all make a good point about being in control of my own life before I can feel in control in other ways and i'll admit I feel a bit embarrassed that i didn't really put thought into that until now since that just seems like common sense that i should have looked at myself before looking outward at the world. i also will admit i don't carry myself real well ether. As much as it annoys me at times that I'm looked at as just gear in the big production that is the company i work for 90 percent of the time i actually don't mind it and would even go so far as to say on some days i actually like it. I also believe goal setting wouldn't be a bad idea ether although i will say i do do that already naturally which helps my self esteem alot but i still think i should run with that more so i think I'll have to think outside of the box and set maybe some other unique or different kind of goals on top of what i already do so that will be a work in progress for awhile. Thanks again everyone.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

A good way to stay empowered is to develop a strong set of personal values and ethics, and stand by them. Conduct yourself in a moral manner, and stand by your convictions. Like, figure out what the most important things are to you, and develop and nurture those things. Be positive and forward thinking. Enjoy your successes, and your life. Love yourself, be proud of yourself.

 

If you are a hard worker, recognize and commend yourself for it. Set goals for yourself to work on and improve on any weaknesses. And reward yourself for your personal victories.

 

Having a positive outlook about yourself and your life will attract other positive energy, or people to you. And when youre able to accomplish these things, when you least expect it, because youre focusing on taking care of yourself, your own needs, when you ARE NOT looking... "The one" will find you.

 

Life is unpredictable and works in mysterious ways. Good luck ☺️

[Guest]

Your very welcome, I hope this gives you some perspective!