Confused

[Mattstattoedlittle8]

My Daddy told me last night that I'm "terrible" at being a little. I'm crushed I don't even know what it means exactly I didn't know there was a certain way... Has anyone else had this? Or had your daddy just say things to hurt you? Thanks all

[lilsnoopy]

....That's not normal. That's also not really healthy. (True) Daddy's are usually encouraging, sweet, and loving not mean and hurtful. 

 

I feel the need to ask, was this an isolated indecent? Or has he been hurtful or controlling in a negative way before? Please be careful as this would be a red flag for me. 

[alotalittle]

I agree with lilsnoopy. That is NOT a normal or healthy thing to say in a relationship and I also see this as a red flag. What led up to this comment? 

 

Were you in an argument? Sometimes when things are heated and emotional, we say things we don't mean.

 

Does he not enjoy the dynamic? Perhaps this is his, very terrible, way of trying to get you to stop wanting to incorporate DDlg into your lives anymore.

 

Have you criticized his way of being a daddy lately or said some other potentially hurtful comment to him? Sometimes when we get/feel hurt, we try to "get the other person back" for saying what they did. It's not healthy to do this, but I think everyone has been guilty of doing it at some point.

 

Does he say hurtful things to you often? If this is a pattern and he commonly treats you this way, then you need to find a way out of the relationship. It's not healthy to consistently hurt your partner and I would see it as a huge red flag that the relationship isn't good for either of you if that is what's happening.

[Princess-P]

You can't be terrible at being a little

..being a little is what you make of it.

 

Your old enough to make your own decisions and know what's healthy in a relationship. When your partner tells you your not good enough...why sit back and take that?

 

Yes when people argue they say things they might not mean. But they also feel bad and apologize for it. And often the things we say when were angry we do mean, just maybe not as harshly as it comes out.

 

As for your question, no partner should deliberately say something to hurt you. Its not normal. And there's no certain way to be little, that theory is just stupid.

[BigCityLittleGirl]

Ask him what he meant by that. Was he just in a bad mood or did he really mean it? If he wants something different than what you're willing to offer, screw him.

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

Well you didn't know because there is no certain way. Littles don't do things to be Little, Littles do things because they are Little. You can't fake it. Everyone is different. We are people, and if we are comparing Littles to children, well even children like all kinds of different things, just like the rest of us. Because everyone is different, and that's ok. That's what makes life fun, being different.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I don't believe there's a set way to be little, and if there is I am probably doing it wrong lol.

This isn't normal or healthy. My Daddy and I have had our fair share of arguments and we always apologize if we say something hurtful. I too wonder if this is isolated or a regular occurrence. No one, Daddy or not, should ever ever ever say hurtful things to their partner or tell them they aren't good enough.