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So I've been talking to a potential little for a while now and we're 'good' friends, we've talked about getting serious but literally straight after that conversation she told me that she lied about her age when we first started talking. Her age isn't the issue, it's the fact that she lied, and now i don't think i can trust her and it's making me questions other things. I don't even really know what my question here is or what i should do?

 

Has anyone gone through the same thing and got any advice?

Guest PastelRosePrincess
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Well its a personal choice, I would suggest the question you need to ask is one for yourself. "can you move past her lying?" People can say for or against but really it all comes down to how you feel and if you can accept it.


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It's a shame she lied however it was right at the start and maybe she didn't realise that it could become something more? Have you asked her why she lied? Why she felt the need to? There could be an explanation but even if there is don't feel like you have to accept it and forgive if you really can't. 

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I consider age a small issue and a very small thing to lie about, silly even.

 

However I think you should find out why she lied, and why she chose to tell the truth. To me, coming clean, rather than keeping it a secret is a good sign but I'd still have questions. Hopefully she was just embarrassed (maybe she's older and didn't fit the stereo type "little" or younger and felt she wouldn't be taken seriously). Once you find out why she lied and why she told the truth, you might find it easier to get over. Providing of course, you make it clear lying is not something you will forgive in the future.

 

I hope it works out, if you really like each other sometimes those small things in the beginning don't mean much after a while.

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Well to play devils advocate, when you're lonely, really want someone to talk to you might think in your head "oh well, a little white lie now so they will at least /talk/ to me and not pass me up entirely without at least giving me a chance".

 

It's fine to have anxiety issues about your weight, body, looks, but apparently not about your age it seems, oh well.

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Guest ASerpent
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How old is she and how old did she pretend to be?
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Ladies get a pass on telling their age.

 

It's a thing.

 

You can look it up.

 

LOL

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Guest Isabelle
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Depends on why she lied, if she was scared about how you would react it's a bit different in my opinion than lying because she wanted to. It can bring up thoughts of what else did she lie about, but you can move slowly and be open about it, this is a *small* lie, but regardless, its still a lie and can cause hurt feelings, so best to discuss it out and be sure she isn't lying on other things. I know personally when I'm little on the rare occasions I feel like lying its because I'm scared about what the person is thinking (I've never had a daddy) or how they will think about me, I don't ever lie to hurt anybody. I think that makes a difference, but in the end still a lie.

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First things first, if her real age isn't legal, then run like hell.

 

Now that's out of way...

 

If this is online then just excuse it. Often when people meet online they don't tell 100% truth because many have the attention span of rice. You talk, have a little fun, maybe get off, and then one or both ghost out. No big deal. Then maybe they make a connection and then one says, oops, by the way, I fudged something.

 

If it's in person, we could get into an entire discussion on lying and knowing better. No reason to do that. I feel she brought it up because you two talked about getting serious.

 

Combine what Cue said and what Meg said about possible embarrassment. She gets a pass. This may not be a battle you want to fight, or even a battle at all.

 

Here's my final $0.02, all optional: Tell her it bothered you, ask her why, and let it go.

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