I don't know if it's worth it anymore

[Guest Map]

Title say's it all. Relationships and this, just doesn't seem worth it anymore if I can't find anyone.

[Guest Littletefi24]

my mom always says 'everything comes at its time', maybe its not the time for it yet. 

[TheRatQueen]

Finding the right person is hard. And it can take longer than we'd prefer. If you're feeling like it's not worth it because the DDlg/CGl has a smaller selection pool, still keep an open mind. Like tefi24 said, it might not be the right time for you yet. Keep exploring your own needs and desires and growing as a person. It'll be worth it in the end.

[submissiveboyjimmy]

I feel this way all the time, it's really hard to wait!

[submissiveboyjimmy]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJ-aWRVm9uQ

[Guest Map]

I want food.

[Guest Loki]

Whenever I want to quit I hear the eternal wisdom of Jason Taggart - Never give up, never surrender. (He was really Tim Allen)

[Eraser70]

Relationships are a joy and a struggle.

It can take a while to find that perfect fit.

 

I'm 50+ and I still believe it's possible.

 

I never give in.

Never give up.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Love is like food. We, as human beings, need it to survive. Thats why everyone is always looking, if they dont have someone. Dont ever give up.

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

Yeah, its tough. I've been single for over 5 years now, but I think its better to wait for the right one than to make do with anyone. You'll just end up wishing for what could have been.

[Child Of Light]

Ahhh. Totally get it. I gave up on the lifestyle (I was more into desiring to be disciplined vs roleplay) and I kept failing time after again on sites like these... and than... one day..... well...... I met someone in-real-life and this lifestyle didn't seem so important to me anymore. I still had that small voice in the back of my mind wanting this... needing this.... and I opened up to my partner and he's been more than happy to put it in our relationship.  Sometimes you'll find love when you least expect it.. and if they truly love you: they'll try to fill your needs

Edited February 28, 2017 by Child Of Light

[Guest Plebian]

Learn to love yourself more! If you have a lot of love to give but no one to give it to, grant it to yourself instead!

 

It sounds dumb, but I'm not kidding! It's a win-win situation, as you'll be much more attractive to others if you love yourself a buttload.

 

Create plenty of reasons why you should love yourself and trust me, people will come flying!

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

The best things in life aren't easy they may hurt as you try to find them it may knock you down but all you have to do is get up dust yourself off and keep going learning from Everytime you fall because life is a learning experience good luck in your endeavors

[Nice_Daddy]

I know it is difficult and extremely frustrating .... but it is totally worth the time, effort, and pain.  The joy that comes with a good DD/lg relationship far outshines anything I have ever experienced from a vanilla one.  And you have to remember that you are looking for your match from a smaller pool, so it will take some time.  I finally had to come to terms with it myself several years ago when I was ready to give up.  I ended up reminding myself that I have a tendency to get caught up in the end result and that instead I should be focusing on each day and what it brings.  So although my long term goal is to find that one special little girl that will complete me, I will enjoy the journey along the way.

 

That may not help you but it did for me.  Keep your chin up, keep looking, and just enjoy the journey.

[Frog]

Wish I could offer some sort of help, but I'm in the same boat. Been single for about a decade, so I know what it's like to give up on relationships.

 

On the bright side, you can do things without consulting anyone else. 

[Guest Fros†beard]

I found my little just when I was about to give up.
So all I can really say is, gather your strength. Lay low for a while if you have to. But never give up.
Here's a quote I always found inspiring, from one of the best comics in the world.

Choronzon: "I am Anti-Life, the Beast of Judgement. I am the dark at the end of everything. The end of universes, gods, worlds... of everything. Sss. And what will you be then, Dreamlord?"
Morpheus: "I am hope."

- Neil Gaiman's The Sandman

[river]

Wish I had words of wisdom, but just want you to know you aren't alone in how you feel. Loneliness is overpowering at times. I cannot let myself into little space even right now, because the vulnerability as a little is worse when it affects adult me so much.

[ktownDaddy]

Good morning Map,

 

Greetings from BC Canada. I thought I would chime in with my two bits in hopes they may inspire.

 

Before I begin a big two thumbs up to Frostbeard - I do not know you but would gladly buy you a beer for that awesome and inspiring quote. My best friend lost his leg three days ago and I am going to read that to him this morning - cheers mate !

 

Now onto the topic at hand.

 

There is nothing more amazing than finding that Daddy and Little girl connection. It's the most amazing dynamic in the BDSM spectrum and worth all the looking, searching and the heart break. When you find it and hopefully you will, you will feel like you have taken your first breath and your life will change forever.

 

As Nice Daddy said yes it's a much smaller pool but you have so many tools at your disposal now the odds are in your favor. When I started looking I had no idea who I was, what a Daddy was and the internet didn't exist. That's limiting let me tell you.

 

If you look at this site and the acceptance of the dynamic you will see the amount of littles coming out of the closet is growing exponentially every day. Thus with each day your odds are increasingly more favorable.

 

If I can give you any immediate help in your search it would be to stop looking for the "Little" girl and find a girl and help her find her little. Many young women have no idea that are little and if you watch people and know what to look for you may find one right under your nose.

 

I am sitting at a busy coffee shop writing this post. It's close by the music and arts college and I have seen 2 young ladies walk in that are possibly little. Thus, I am sure the odds are equally as favorable in your neck of the woods.

 

Think as if you were a little, where would you go, what would you do. What do you like and then put the pieces together.

 

If you approach any little as a friend with your Daddy boots on even if they don't identify with who they are, they will indetify with who you are and what you represent.

 

Good luck my friend - I wish you well in your search.

 

Drew.

[fairytales]

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Edited December 9, 2017 by fairytales

[EllaDawn]

Do you live in a place where there are munches and get togethers? I've seen a lot of people have more success that way than others. And then even if you don't meet someone immediately, you will find other people that are in the same boat as you, that you can befriend, and who will understand.