Calling Daddy.... well, Daddy!

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hi guys!

 

So my Daddy and I are married and less than a year into our DDlg dynamic but nearly 5yrs into our relationship. I call him Daddy in the bedroom and over text but I'm super nervous to other times. He likes it, I like it, but I'm afraid someone else will hear.

 

See we have two children as well (7, 2.5). Do any of you call your Daddy by Daddy all the time? Was it hard when you started? Has anyone ever overhead and questioned you, and what did you say? Thanks for any advice!

 

I feel it's easier for him to call me baby girl or princess consistently, as those seem to be more socially acceptable.

[Sleepless]

If you get caught you can say you just are into the habit of calling him that in front of the kids. Haven't you ever heard your parents or someone else's parents call their partner 'mommy/daddy' in front of the children? It's morecommon than you'd think

[BigCityLittleGirl]

I think it's very common for couples with kids to call each other mommy and daddy bc that's how the kids refer to them, not by actual names. I was also scared that others would here me but it slipped and no one said anything noe I always call him daddy in front of anyone. Except my family of course haha

[Chicki]

I do by habit. Thankfully just his name around people we know tho. I'm sure people have heard in public but oh well. It's just a word, if they think it's weird - they'll get over it soon. Not like we're banging in public and saying it lmao.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Well I wouldn't mind using the excuse of calling him it in front of the kids, but it isn't strangers I'm worried about hearing, and my family is pretty close. They know I don't do it infront of the kids. My plan, I think is going to be use to calling him it at home in front of the kids and work up to in public slowly. I will still probably be cautious though... cuz, well, anxiety.

[Dumbledork'sPrincess]

I call my Daddy Daddy all the time. When people question it I say it's a jokey nickname because of our age gap

[EllaDawn]

My middle kiddo started trying to call Daddy by His first name, so then it became the perfect excuse to ALWAYS call Him Daddy.  If you're worried about your family, can you mention casually that you were worried that they'd start calling him by his first name, so since you usually say, for example "Go tell Daddy goodnight" instead of 'go tell "John" goodnight", it should be an easy transition that few people question.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

My middle kiddo started trying to call Daddy by His first name, so then it became the perfect excuse to ALWAYS call Him Daddy. If you're worried about your family, can you mention casually that you were worried that they'd start calling him by his first name, so since you usually say, for example "Go tell Daddy goodnight" instead of 'go tell "John" goodnight", it should be an easy transition that few people question.

Yes yes this is my excuse now :3 my daughter has started calling him by his first name so it works, and my family has heard it. Thanks everyone :3

[HeCallsMePrincess]

i've always referred to Him as Daddy to the kids. "Daddy said no" "go ask Daddy", so that's not unusual. do i straight out call him Daddy in front of the kids? not really, no. they're too old to get away with that without them questioning lol but i do in public when they arent around,  or really whenever the kids arent around. i started with doing it quietly, only when i was feeling very little and it kind of evolved to most of the time from there.

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there ! 

 

Having kids would make this situation easier for anyone I think. It is almost instinctual for the majority of people to accept when the mother of a family call the father of their kids "Daddy". The only reason I didn't grow up with this is because I had a step father and we were never pressured to call him "Dad or Daddy". Even being in the community of Dd/lg when I see a mom call a man Daddy I never assume it's Dd/lg even though it clearly could be , hehe ^-^ 

 

Not having any kids myself , it is a little more difficult to think of an excuse you could use. I am blessed though , to be at a point in my life where I can be extremely open. I don't include people n my life who care about those kinds of things , and all of the people in my life are extremely accepting and now about my lifestyle. Strangers on the other hand might see it as odd. I get uncomfortable when people say crude things about me whether they can hear me or not (I dress like a big kid so it's decently obvious) and when I dress a certain way people can't see my tattoos , so half the time I get terrible stares and remarks or people just assume I'm a teenager. The comments and stares might suck , and I used to dwell on it and stifle myself and my happiness for those strangers but I have learned to not care. More than likely you will never see that person again.  

 

People have never said anything directly to my face about being "Dd/lg" or whatever it is they assume I am , but I have heard remarks that are very obviously meant for Daddy and I to hear and had some awful glares. I used to get so upset and feel personally offended. The best thing I have figured out to do is just smile at people like that , smile big and hold your head high. I even once winked at an older woman after her calling my Daddy a couple choice names. It's small and subtle and doesn't affect (in my opinion) your maturity. Just remember how happy you are that you are you , and in the choices you make. 

 

Hope this helps ^-^

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

See if I was you I'd already be using having kids as a reason to call him Daddy. It's highly normal and maybe even a little "traditional" to do so. Even if we look back through media, countless stories and shows and movies where married couples with children refur to themselves as Mommy and Daddy, Ma and Pa, or Father and Mother. I mean you can read stories from the past, like Victorian times where people would do this. lol And added bonus if you do it all throwout your child/children's lives from birth or very young, it would never look out of place for the rest of your life. Because it's been the norm for your family.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I wish I had discovered DDlg earlier and realized it was something we already did. We thought we were Dom/sub strictly, and while that's still a huge part of our dynamic we are more DDlg. When we found it.... I felt very odd calling home Daddy at first. He liked the idea so I said I would try, in the bedroom only. Turned out, I really like it and it makes me feel especially little and safe. Hence why I'm trying to do it more... the kids don't seem phased so far.

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

Well I doubt it would phase the kids. You said your oldest is, 7? Hey, that's his name to them. And with a younger sibling around the age of learning how to talk, it's still a perfect time to start. Many people learn easier ways to do things after their first child, and now you have an other reason to get away with calling him Daddy whenever you feel like it.

Edited March 2, 2017 by CrazyLittleBuggaBoo