DDlg and Therapy

[river]

Wasn't sure which section this would be best in but I have a problem. I'm in psych therapy (I don't mind being honest, I was recently diagnosed both Bipolar Type 1 and Borderline Personality Disorder). Anyway, I slipped and told my therapist about being in the DD/lg. She made a face and asked what it was and I stumbled over my description. I'm not sure how to approach this again if she brings it up, any advice is helpful as long as it's not that it's none of her business. I need the therapy and to be able to talk about anything and this is part of who I am.

[Guest]

I would just be honest. It's something that makes you happy.

To me ddlg is everything I have ever wanted in a relationship. Someone who really cares for your health a d well being, someone you can let your guard down around and be your little self with. It's made me feel a lot more safe about many things and takes a lot of pressure off of me being able to be little.

Not sure if it's the same for you but I would just talk about all the positive things it's done for you and your over all well being (if it has)

 

Best wishes!

[Daddy's Meg]

I was in therapy for a couple years (still receive care from my Psychiatrist but no longer with a Psychologist in talk therapy). I went in with crippling social anxiety (ended up diagnosed quite different though). I didn't share being dd/lg in the beginning, but after awhile I was more comfortable and it was easy to talk about the dynamic between my Daddy and myself. I was never judged for it and many times it was brought up as a coping mechanism. (I'm gonna call it a crutch because often back then, I was hiding in some of the aspects of it). He (my therapist) used it often as something I could go to when problems arose, while still guiding me forward to other ways to get through situations. Coping mechanism, New ways of thinking etc.

 

I got a million times better. My social anxiety is basically gone (save a rare flare up if I'm already stressed out). My core diagnosis is managed mostly with meds and my life with Daddy is better than its ever been. I have a better experience in DD/lg now that I'm relishing in it, instead of hiding in some of it. It's been life changing for me.

 

I was just honest about it, how it made me feel. The positives of having someone there for me always, taking care of me at my worst and relishing in the joy of my best. The fact I was doing child related things never seemed an issue. He knew I wasn't hiding in the car because I was being little, I was hiding because I was terrified of people. We also talked about regression and how some people use it to cope anyway. I hope you have the same experience, because you're right, you should be able to tell her anything.

 

Hope this helps a little!

[Guest Fros†beard]

To me ddlg is everything I have ever wanted in a relationship.

This is it. As simple as it gets.

I have therapy once every two weeks or so and while it's never been brought up, I wouldn't mind telling my therapist about the dynamic.

Really, the more people that understand it's not incest play, the better. A professional should realize there is some really disturbing stuff you could be into. Ddlg, in its ideal state, hurts absolutely no one. Ignorant folks can and will get offended, but I'd personally try to educate them in a situation like this.

Edited February 25, 2017 by Frostbeard