Knowing when to enforce rules because little wants to be an adult sometimes

[blegoo]

My relationship with my little isn't a 24/7 DD/lg relationship. So sometimes I will try enforcing a rule and my little won't like it because she wants to be an adult about something instead of a little. For example, my little said she felt like drinking but we have a rule where she needs to ask permission when drinking. I told her she wasn't allowed to drink but she didn't really like it and told me it was an adult decision. So we need advice on being able to determine when I should enforce rules or not or a way of signaling to me whether or not she is in little space.

[MisterMomo]

Talk... find it together! ..

 

I am 24/7 with Mommy and it is not true that I am always open to be the Little. I tend to wear different clothes when I am more Little. Maybe there is something like this that you can use... so you know she is feeling to be little.

 

Otherwise Id say find a Word Code together that says she really say no or want to Stop ... cause when I ask and Mommy says no.. I usually not like it but that does not mean I reallly want her not to enforce the rule... even if I argue.. Somewhere a little can like to see you enforce it anyway... in Role play no does not always mean no.. it is fun to have another word for it.

 

She can put a different necklace when she is feeling like little or adult. A bow in her hair? A sign somewhere on the fridge or in home? (LoL) ...

 

Talk talk talk.. hehehe... find it together... I guesss people can give you ideas but in the end... youll find it together

[Antoinette]

See I'd find this hard as well. Me, personally, I'm submissive (bratty, but submissive) by nature so I follow rules regardless of my littlespace but I am aware that different littles are, well... Different!

Perhaps you guys can have set days/times for when the rules apply. Or are there any specific signals for you to tell if she's in littlespace or ''adultspace'' (that sounds funny), just try to read the signs and go with your gut. It really is hard to decipher but communicate with her that you're not sure when she's comfortable with the rules being enforced. 

 

I like Mr. Momo's suggestions, he came up with quite a few good ones there.

 

Best of luck to the both of you.

(p.s. I like your H3H3 profile picture)

[Daddy's Meg]

Silly thing for her to be upset about. IMO. How are you to know!

 

Tell her if she wants to be treated like and adult, she's gonna have to communicate like one. She needs to just tell you. "I'm feeling pretty big today" or something simple. Unless you want to use non-verbal things like Momo suggested of course. Those would work perfectly too! But I find that 90% of problems like this, is just plan ol' lack of communication. She's gotta say it if she wants it. 

 

Good luck!

[BigCityLittleGirl]

She's probably a bratty ass middle like me haha As others said, ask her to let you know when she isn't feeling too little and wants to play big girl. I don't have any rules in my relationship bc we both know I always do whatever I want in the end *evil grin*

[Himedere-Chan]

Honestly it sounds like the little is dodging rules.. I'm not a little/middle 24/7 but I still listen to all my partner's rules, as few as there may be. Because Daddies/Mommies are always right. Well always is a strong word, but you get what I mean.

[blegoo]

Talk... find it together! ..

 

I am 24/7 with Mommy and it is not true that I am always open to be the Little. I tend to wear different clothes when I am more Little. Maybe there is something like this that you can use... so you know she is feeling to be little.

 

Otherwise Id say find a Word Code together that says she really say no or want to Stop ... cause when I ask and Mommy says no.. I usually not like it but that does not mean I reallly want her not to enforce the rule... even if I argue.. Somewhere a little can like to see you enforce it anyway... in Role play no does not always mean no.. it is fun to have another word for it.

 

She can put a different necklace when she is feeling like little or adult. A bow in her hair? A sign somewhere on the fridge or in home? (LoL) ...

 

Talk talk talk.. hehehe... find it together... I guesss people can give you ideas but in the end... youll find it together

 

You've given lots of good ideas, thanks! Another one we thought of is she would only call me Daddy/Papa when she is feeling little.

 

 

See I'd find this hard as well. Me, personally, I'm submissive (bratty, but submissive) by nature so I follow rules regardless of my littlespace but I am aware that different littles are, well... Different!

 

Perhaps you guys can have set days/times for when the rules apply. Or are there any specific signals for you to tell if she's in littlespace or ''adultspace'' (that sounds funny), just try to read the signs and go with your gut. It really is hard to decipher but communicate with her that you're not sure when she's comfortable with the rules being enforced. 

 

I like Mr. Momo's suggestions, he came up with quite a few good ones there.

 

Best of luck to the both of you.

 

(p.s. I like your H3H3 profile picture)

 

Papa bless We can't have set times for her little space because she can't always control when she is feeling little.

 

 

Silly thing for her to be upset about. IMO. How are you to know!

 

Tell her if she wants to be treated like and adult, she's gonna have to communicate like one. She needs to just tell you. "I'm feeling pretty big today" or something simple. Unless you want to use non-verbal things like Momo suggested of course. Those would work perfectly too! But I find that 90% of problems like this, is just plan ol' lack of communication. She's gotta say it if she wants it. 

 

Good luck!

 

She knows how to act like an adult, and we would prefer non-verbal ways of communicating whether or not she is in littlespace. Except the idea where she calls me by the names Daddy/Papa when she is in littlespace.

 

 

She's probably a bratty ass middle like me haha As others said, ask her to let you know when she isn't feeling too little and wants to play big girl. I don't have any rules in my relationship bc we both know I always do whatever I want in the end *evil grin*

 

Lol, maybe sometimes she can seem like a middle but to me she is mostly a little around 6-8 it seems. And she really does quite a good job of following the rules we have set. 

 

 

 

Honestly it sounds like the little is dodging rules.. I'm not a little/middle 24/7 but I still listen to all my partner's rules, as few as there may be. Because Daddies/Mommies are always right. Well always is a strong word, but you get what I mean.

 

I understand that, but we agreed that since we aren't in a 24/7 DD/lg relationship, then the rules can sometimes be ignored if she wants to be an adult about something.

[Guest Isabelle]

Could be just the names she calls you and the voice she uses. For instance when I get a daddy I'd never call him daddy when I'm an adult, and when I'm little I'd never call him by his name. That could be a very quick thing for you to know how she's feeling, watch her behaviors, facial expressions, those should also clue you in.

[Magi]

I agree you need to set a system if she wants it. something in place so you no, because it can only cause problems not to communicate.