Question

[AZDaddydom]

So I have ever read many posts about how some littles want their bf or hubby to be their daddy and wanting to know how to help them be better daddies. Many that I read the bf or hubby didn't have any before understanding of what a daddy is on the ddlg dynamic. So it's almost like these littles are trying to teach these men how to be their daddy or see something in them and trying to pull it out. I feel that being a daddy is a natural thing that they already have but everyone is on different levels. As well I feel that sometimes they just never knew about ddlg and someone introducing them to it and a little bit of encouragement and understanding is all they needed. My question is any daddys experience the same thing or little for that matter? Have you as a daddy had to help your little find thier little side or littles did someone have to introduce you to this dynamic?

[BigCityLittleGirl]

I kinda always felt "secretly" very childish. I'm pretty serious and sarcastic in every day life but I always had a secret desire to be babied and act like one and get taken care of ect... With my ex I confessed it to him after being together 4 yes and living together for 2. He pretty much was a daddy so I figured he will go along with it. I told him I wanted to call him daddy from now on and he flipped out on me telling me to never say that and that I need therapy. With my new bf, we were friends for a decade and I told him right away once we started fooling around. He barely was phased I was expecting him t get mad or think I'm weird but he was like... Alright kewl... Haha

He kind of naturally fell into the role once I started calling him daddy. Always holds my hand outside, makes sure I eat right ect he even Google's how to be a good daddy all on his own.

 

I think everyday we both learn how to be more did/lg like. It's so real I call him it in front of his friends and they don't even care bc they already know he cares for me like a daddy so why not call him it

[AZDaddydom]

I kinda always felt "secretly" very childish. I'm pretty serious and sarcastic in every day life but I always had a secret desire to be babied and act like one and get taken care of ect... With my ex I confessed it to him after being together 4 yes and living together for 2. He pretty much was a daddy so I figured he will go along with it. I told him I wanted to call him daddy from now on and he flipped out on me telling me to never say that and that I need therapy. With my new bf, we were friends for a decade and I told him right away once we started fooling around. He barely was phased I was expecting him t get mad or think I'm weird but he was like... Alright kewl... Haha

He kind of naturally fell into the role once I started calling him daddy. Always holds my hand outside, makes sure I eat right ect he even Google's how to be a good daddy all on his own.

 

I think everyday we both learn how to be more did/lg like. It's so real I call him it in front of his friends and they don't even care bc they already know he cares for me like a daddy so why not call him it

That's awesome, I hope I can do the same for my wife. She already had little tendencies i.e. liked to color, loved to snuggle, be controled and told what to and pouts but never saw them as little tendencies. I have always liked the ddlg thing before I knew what it was and trying to show her the joy of having a daddy that loveshe to take care of her. Thanks for sharing.

[Frog]

I've always had that caregiver and daddy-ish behavior. In fact, I used to run a local group for artists, and even a few who didn't consider themselves artists would attend with friends. They'd come in, and I'd notice if they were stressed out. I'd suggest they color a picture from a friend or another in the group. Or for very close friends, I seem to always be the one they snuggle up to or use to sleep on when on long trips. And, yeah, I used to always carry a blanket or extra jacket to cover them up if they seemed cold. At times, I'd get assertive and get a stressed out friend to sit with me to calm them down. (Amazing what hot cocoa and cookies can do for adults.)

 

After I learned about DD/lg, I wondered if I helped some find their little side. I do know that they helped me realize I'm probably more suited to DD/lg and CG/l.

[TheRatQueen]

I was introduced by an ex. He never said that we had a DD/lg dynamic, but he took it upon himself to start calling me little one, approving tv and movies, setting rules, etc. He also never asked me to call him daddy. I saw some posts on tumblr about DD/lg and it clicked that I was in a relationship like that and that I was a little.

 

I introduced my Daddy (current and more than likely last lol) because I recognized the traits in him. He's starting to become more open as time goes on, but there's that comfort barrier. Culturally we all have very strict ideas of what adults should be like or act like and so those can be really, really hard to get over without help and usually time. For my Daddy, I think time is the biggest factor. It's all there and he knows about it, so it's not my job to force him.