CG thoughtfulness ?

[LittleKittenNicole]

Hey guys i kinda need some advice. My Daddy isnt that...um thoughtful ig. We've been together for a year and a half, and theres no debate about our love for eachother. But i don't see him ever doing something creative for me or our relationship. He would probably never plan something as in like a picnic or something without my help. He wouldnt know the first thing about how to do it. And as a little i really wish he'd surprise with like coloring pages he printed off the internet for me. Tbh i bet a thought like that will never cross his mind. And i dont want to tell him to do it or about it. Because that really defeats the purpose. These thoughts make me feel vain and bad. Any advice? ? Thank you, LittleKittenNicole.

[jellicle baby]

All I can really say is that you shouldn't feel vain. Each little is special and you deserve you feel that way. Maybe by doing something creative for your partner, you will inspire him to do the same.

[TheRatQueen]

My Daddy was the same way (tbh he still is, but it's gotten better with time). I left hints. Everywhere. Stuff like leaving webpages up when I knew he'd see it (wasn't out of the ordinary because I never close my browser on the laptop). Or passing by a place and saying, "That looks fun".

 

Ducky's suggestion is honestly the best place to start though. He might feel compelled afterward

[Daddy's Meg]

My Daddy didn't used to be really spontaneous or come up with a lot of things just for me. It's something that came over time.

 

Lead by example.

 

When I see items I know he'd like, I buy them and surprise him with them. If I see an article on an upcoming game (hes a big gamer) I'll read it and bring it up to him. I take pictures of things I think he'd find funny just to show him, etc. I've shown him how I like to be treated by doing the same. Now, he does it like it was second nature.

 

Communicate your Needs

 

I literally used to say to him "pick somewhere to take me this weekend" and he would. Sure it sucked I had to ask in the beginning but it became learned behavior. I used to tell him places I wanted to go and show him their webpages or tell him that I wish he'd do things for me (Like the color page you suggested). I let him know how important it makes me feel when he does nice stuff for me. Now, he surprises me with all kind of nice things. Day trips, picking me up early from work for a surprise trip somewhere, getting off work early to do something nice for me, etc. I also make sure he knows how much I appreciate it when he does stuff for me.

 

Give it time and put effort into it and I'm sure it can get better.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

you probably have to just say something. men arent always the most romantic, thoughtful, spontaneous creatures. be specific and tell him exactly what you want. give examples of what would make you feel special and loved. they're not mind readers lol 

[LittleKittenNicole]

Thanks everybody for your tips and kind words. I eventually told him about the color pages. He told me he'd be more than happy too, just that it had never crossed his mind in the past. I know its not his fault and I will never hold it against him. Im going to take yalls advice and start giving him little "Helpful Hints".

Thanks Again!

 

LittleKittenNicole <3