Is it bad that i don't like LDR's??

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

So I had a little that was my everything and we dated twice the first time she left was for someone that just randomly kissed her and she left me the next day (I should have learned then) the 2nd time she didn't talk to me for 2 days because it was Christmas and she was busy which I can kinda understand but not even a good morning or Merry Christmas not a peep then she spent 3 hours with me and went to her friends house for 3 days and didn't speak to me and she cheated on me with 6 different guys 2 each day

 

What I'm trying to get at is I know everyone is different but I now have major trust issues and it hurts me a bit because I see so many littles that I think are my type but I'm not up for all of that again so I would like someone close because I think I would second guess everything someone long distance would say

[IchigoHime]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not liking LDRs. There's nothing wrong with preferring them. Everyone is different like you said, and everyone wants something different in a relationship. If you don't want to get into an LDR - don't. It's better for both involved to avoid the hurt that can be prevented. Now if you want to find a little near you, I think you definitely should. It will be harder I think, but it can be done. 

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

Yeah it's definitely hard to find a little near me I would be fine with a bordering state

[Little Illy]

I'm just going to link my two cents here (from one of my first posts to the forum): https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12713-mandatory-ldr/?do=findComment&comment=69197

 

With all of that being said.... I have stumbled into an LDR (how the hell, I dunno) and still hate them. Probably now more than ever. Long story short - no there is nothing wrong in not liking them.

[Spooky]

Different strokes for different folks, man.

That being said, it may prove to be more difficult finding someone IRL. Which is not a bad thing at all. 

Best of luck!

[Guest Plebian]

First of all, no relationship is worth it if you get treated that badly. Have some self-respect (I mean it).

 

Aside from that, LDR's are all up to the person. I don't mind being in a LDR if it's with someone I have a genuine connection with. Logistics can always be fixed afterwards.

 

Besides, with this amount of shitty people in the world, it would be silly to keep your options limited to just a town or even a country :-)

[Princess-P]

I personally don't understand long distance relationships. I couldn't imagine not having someone physically near me. But that's just me. I crave my partner and the ability to touch them and do things with them away from a screen.

 

However it sounds like you just have major trust issues. And having a local partner won't make the trust problem go away. You won't be able to spend all day everyday with them. And if your going to doubt them constantly you shouldn't be with them. Yes trust is earned bit it doesn't sound like your ready to give someone that chance.

[alotalittle]

I'll start off by saying that there's absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to be in an LDR. It's YOUR life. You have every right to decide where healthy boundaries are for you. Even if your previous relationship hadn't gone the way it did, it still wouldn't be weird for you to not want to be in a LDR. Being in a LDR is difficult for many reasons and often doesn't pan out like how the participating parties want it to (one or both want to live together, but there's no way to make that happen because of life circumstances OR one person wants it to always be long distance and the other does not).

 

Saying that, my partner and I started off as a LDR. We met online in an advice forum and ended up falling hard for each other. He came out to see me after about six weeks of talking and visited me a coupe more times over the first 6 months of our relationship (we lived 821 miles apart). After having six months of being long distance, we planned for me to come spend the whole summer with him. After three months of living with him, I didn't want to leave and decided to move in with him permanently. Just because it starts off as long distance doesn't mean it has to stay that way. So if you truly feel like there's no one compatible in your area, maybe branch out far enough away to find someone compatible, but close enough that the possibility of living together eventually is real?

 

I hope you find someone good for you and I hope that you hold your relationships to a high enough standard that you don't get taken advantage of. I'm very sorry that you had to go through your previous experience. I know that our pasts influence how we think about our futures quite a bit. I wish you much luck in finding your person  

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

Princess-P I understand where you're coming from but I am ready for a new little. I do have trust issues but it's different. Like I will fully trust people untill they give me a really good reason not to do so. That specific story was from my first little that got me into ddlg. So it hurt the most I guess you could say. It took me awhile of thinking about it and where did I go wrong. She told me I wasn't a bad daddy she just wanted someone closer. I guess what I'm trying to do is make it more possible to hold my little when she cries, hug her when she's sad, kiss her when she needs it (all the time), and punish her when she breaks a rule.

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

Alotalittle that is a beautiful story.