Advice please!!! having issues with daddy

[honey_bear]

So ive been a ddlg relationship for about 1 1/2 years and am having some issues with my cg lately. First off he is pretty spread out with a job a real daughter and hobbies, he does a lot of stuff. He often ends up falling asleep after dinner on the couch between 9 and 11 and the only problem i have with this is that he likes to convince me we are going to do daddy baby things in the evenings we have together and ends up asleep 85% of the time. I dont have a problem with the fact that hes tired and cant take care of me as much i want i logically get that he cant stay up you know? but he acts so offended when i act doubtful when he says were gonna do something in the evening or he gets upset that i feel rejected or sad when he falls asleep on me. He gets me into little space and all needy and then gets upset that i cant just turn it off when he falls asleep and right back on when he wants. I'm having a hard time because i crave a lot of structure and rules set punishments, etc. but he dosent do any of that he just wants the affection from me when im little with out doing very many daddy things at all. how do i bring this up with out him getting really offended and mad? am i doing something wrong? any advice would help so much!

 

Thank you and love you all!!!!

       

[AGentleman]

it sounds like he gives you a lot of empty promises and that is definitely something that has to be adressed, talk to him honestly without getting mad or raising your voice and tell him how you feel

[LittleGirlEmilia]

GOD, this annoys me so much. My daddy was quite similar like this and it really grilled me to no end! He would put me in little mode then SNORE!! He'd promise little days but HAH, no. 

 

So what I did was take our relationship out of the dynamic. I'm still little by myself. He's still my boyfriend. But we've agreed to take a step back from it for now, at least until we move into our new place. I've found that some things can't be helped, especially if there's things going on in your daddy's life that prevent him from going into daddy mode, work, friends, family, bills, stress. 

 

You should communicate him and ask him if there is anything that is stressing him out. 

 

IF he is anything like my partner, he'll deny anything is wrong with him, which is kinda even more infuriating and you just kinda have to watch him crack then explode..

Men are weird, right?

 

ANYWAYS, communicate, discuss, try and resolve, if that doesn't work then maybe taking a step back from the dynamic for now might do you some good. 

I'm a lot happier being a little by myself as I don't have rely on him and put up with empty promises anymore... But we will get back into our DDLG lifestyle when his stress levels are down. 

[Himedere-Chan]

I'm not too sure this will help, but maybe you guys should find a close friend who is understanding about CG/L and have the discussion with that friend so they can provide a different point of view.

 

I hope everything works out for you.