Guest Posted February 14, 2017 Report Posted February 14, 2017 I'm not sure how else to put it, but to be blunt a friend of mine is suffering from severe depression. She recently lost a very close family member and isnt taking it very well. All 5-6 of her close friends, including me are trying to help any way we can. But she either pushes us away or says she's fine. The depression is boiling over into her schooling and personal life. I'm afraid she may drop out of university... Or worse. Was hoping someone, and or anyone had suggestions on what to say/do for my friend before she does something she'll regret because of this. Anything helps, -Me
Glitteryl Posted February 14, 2017 Report Posted February 14, 2017 I had depression and still have it. Mostly what I would say you should do is be there for her, listen her and don't say "think positive", " Be happy " or " Don't be like that". Try to show her that you are there for her and that she can talk to you if she needs it. And mostly I would tell her that she could always talk psychologist (that helped me lot when I had really bad depression.) I had same kind of problem that I pushed my friends away but still they stayed with me and they still do. Friend are what helped me most get trough my depression because I know I can talk to them. I can't say that those will help but that's what helped me. I hope your friend gets better because depression is really deep black hole that gets bigger and bigger.
Guest Posted February 14, 2017 Report Posted February 14, 2017 We've tried the positive reinforcement, and she already knows that were all here for her. I might try to get her to talk to a pshycologist. Thanks bunches!
Glitteryl Posted February 14, 2017 Report Posted February 14, 2017 Not a problem! I hope she will be okey.
alotalittle Posted February 14, 2017 Report Posted February 14, 2017 Grief is a much bigger monster than depression (and I'm saying this as someone who suffers from depression). Grief has a way of destroying you that is completely unique. It's not only that you feel sadness, emptiness, numbness, detachment, insomnia or excess need to sleep, and other symptoms that we associate with depression (and other mental illnesses). It's that you are faced with the reality of losing something every single day. You are faced with the reality that a person you love so deeply you will never see again. Grief is a bigger monster because it doesn't just live inside us, it lives everywhere and in everyone around us. There is no escaping the fact that you have lost something so valuable that it can never be replaced. It's not uncommon for grief to destroy someone's life. Some people can cope and handle it better than others. It sounds like your friend is completely submerged in grief. Your friends and you are doing the right things, but sometimes it's not in our personal power to fix someone's grief in the way we would like. I recommend you all gently suggesting that she get some professional help. Grief is very traumatic, and if she doesn't have solid coping mechanisms, it could take her down some bad pathways. The best thing for her would be to seek out help from a counselor, therapist, and/or doctor. And even with their help, it will take time. Your friend will never stop missing the person she lost, but hopefully, she can move forward with her life with some help. 1
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