I don't want him to be my daddy momentarily.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

To put it bluntly, he's just been a shit DD lately, both dominant and daddy, I don't know how to fix that, he isn't going to change anytime soon. I still want him to be my boyfriend, but I think me being little by myself is better right now.

 

How do I nicely say "I want you to step down from being 'daddy' for now until you get your act together"? I don't want to be that blunt to him.

[Guest ASerpent]

Would it be an option to ask him to change your relationship dynamic for now? Maybe you can tell him, that you would feel more comfortable in vanilla relationship at the moment but would want to go back to ddlg when certain things change.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

Hmm... I'll try to word it like that. Thank you :]

[LittleGirlEmilia]

Now he thinks I want to break up with him fml can't win.

[Guest ASerpent]

Tell him, you don't wanna break up at all, you just wanna change the relationship dynamic for a while. That you still love him, but need to explore your little side on your own for a while.

[Guest ASerpent]

I hope you 2 can figure something out.

[Guest Loki]

If he insists you want to break up with him and he is being selfish and horrible, he might be trying to get you to break up with him.

 

Tell him you love him, you do not want to break up, but ask him why he thinks you want to break up when you make it clear you do not.

 

Good luck.

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

All you can do is reassure him you don't want to break up, but stillbe honest about what you feel needs to change. Keeping communication open is key. Hope it all works out for you guys.

[Guest Appacheian]

No doubt you love him. So I'm going to say something that isn't going to be something to please all readers. Otherwise there's no point me having an option or answering this. This isn't working for you. You know what you need from a daddy and what you can give and it's not happening. From what you've said so far I don't get the feeling he really understands what a responsibility being a daddy is. And it is a responsibility when someone totally relies on another for guidance, love,care, mentoring, shelter, cuddles. I can only speak for my own relationship and how we've made it. But it seems to me you aren't getting what you need.

[Guest]

maybe hes going through something right now? 

maybe he needs YOU right now?

 

i dont know the whole situation, just trying to give a different perspective.

 

best of luck <3

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello Barbie !

 

I am sorry he isn't being the Dominant or the Daddy you wish he could be 

.

 

I don't think this choice you are making is wrong , and maybe he is being a little hasty acting the way he is. I do however , see why he could think you want to break up with him. He probably has shame for not being enough in your eyes , in either aspect. Probably embarrassed as well , that he is being asked to step down from a role like Daddy. I've gone through something similar lately , and as far as the male or Daddy side of this... It crushes a Daddy hearing the words "I don't want you to be my Daddy anymore." It doesn't matter if you want to keep him as your boyfriend , it probably really hurt him just the same. 

 

I think a serious talk should be had , and you need to explain what you really want and need , write them down together. You can still be little , he doesn't HAVE to be your Daddy because he is your boyfriend. If you are feeling you are not getting what you need , than self care is very appropriate. It also doesn't mean he can't get his shit together like you said , and try to improve himself. I hate the word change , you shouldn't change for people. Compromise , and improving is wonderful but if he has to CHANGE to be a Daddy then maybe he isn't the Daddy for you. You could always find a non-sexual Daddy if you really find the need and if he agrees to it. If he is a great boyfriend , I really hope things work out for you and you can always contact me if you need anything ^-^ 

 

Hope this helps.

[jellicle baby]

if you can't kindly be open and honest, then there is something wrong with your relationship in general. you should be able to discuss your concerns with him openly, and if that's awkward in your relationship than it's not healthy. personally I don't think any sexual relationship, let alone a kinky one, should begin without being at the stage of honesty and openness.

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

Being blunt about it is probably the best why to go. When your blunt people don't have to try so hard to figure out what you mean, because you just put all your cards out. Explain to him that you love him and want to be with him, explain the things you need from "Daddy". Explain what he's doing "wrong" in your eyes and how he's being "off track". Let him know you want him ether way, if he's your Daddy or "just" your boyfriend. While your talking about your needs and wants, don't forget to check on his. Are you giving him what he needs and wants out of the relationship? Was he a DD or Dom before you guys got together? Maybe he just doesn't have it in him, and you can't make someone something their not. Explain how wonderful it is that he tried, that you appreciate he tried. But really, the best thing you can do is to be open and honest, and not beat around the bush.