Ordering off of the kid's menu??

[Guest PattyCake]

Hello!

 

So I met a Daddy online, we chatted for a few weeks online, then met at a starbucks for the first time.  We clicked pretty well.  I've been over to his place a few times, we basically chat and cuddle, and I get some spanks

 

He is significantly older than me, so we agreed that this is just a friendship, not a relationship.  

 

Anyway, he is taking me out to lunch today, and he just informed me that when we go, I can only order from the kid's menu.  It sort of scares me in a way, because of a past experience i had.  But it also kind of excites me.

 

A few years ago I met a "Daddy" type, he made me order 3 desserts and eat them all in front of him while all he had was water.  He said it was because I needed to learn to listen to him.  It was humiliating.  

 

I can feel those bad feelings coming back when my Daddy now says I need to order from the kids menu.  

 

I told him how I felt and he said we can talk about it before we go to lunch.  I kind of want to try it, but I'm afraid of being humiliated.

 

Anyone have any thoughts on this?

 

pattycake

Edited February 11, 2017 by PattyCake

[mylittlesidewearsblack]

If he humiliates you, leave and ask for help. Keep your phone available at all times. Just be prepared to move if you have to. Don't forget that you are worthy of respect, little or not. Ultimately, the choice is yours. Everything could be way better than you think, but be prepared in case. Edited February 11, 2017 by mylittlesidewearsblack

[LittleGirlBigLove]

As a sub being humiliated in the bedroom is a way a dom can inflict power however it always needs to be discussed how comfortable both parties are with it and being humiliated outside the bedroom is a whole other conversation and deal. From my experience the majority of people, sub or not, don't like being humiliated in public because it can quickly go from domination to degrading when a dom takes it too far. So your feelings for your past experiences are justified.

 

However I would try not to worry so much about this lunch date because he is willing to talk it over beforehand and I feel that he would never force you to do anything if you weren't comfortable (however if this conversation turns into "I'm the daddy and you do what i tell you no exceptions" I suggest you drop him fast). Just remember that whatever it is in a sub/dom or ddlg relationship your feelings come first and you decide what you do and don't do.

 

From the sound of it, he is not trying to humiliate you by making you order from the kid's menu. I think he just wants you to feel little and seeing you munch on little food will put the two of you in a daddy and little space. I wouldn't worry too much about what other people think because lots of people who are adults order from the kid's menu and if you're really worried what they might think you can just say you have a sensitive stomach and you have to watch what food you eat as to not upset it.

 

Hope this helped and i hope lunch goes well!

[Barbie Lumina]

Okay so, two choices here, tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable OR order all the chicken nuggets, fish fingers, chips, cheeseburgers, pizzas AND ALL THE THINGS! Personally, I order from the kids menu all the time because they're smaller portions and I don't eat much ^^

[Guest Appacheian]

Your first daddy was incorrect. A daddy does not humiliate his little in public. If humiliation is part of the dynamic then it has to be mutually agreed. A daddy does not have the right to humiliate you. In restaurants etc you could order a kiddies menu under the cover of you aren't very hungry or really don't eat much etc.

[-LittleDisneyPrincess]

Okay so, two choices here, tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable OR order all the chicken nuggets, fish fingers, chips, cheeseburgers, pizzas AND ALL THE THINGS! Personally, I order from the kids menu all the time because they're smaller portions and I don't eat much ^^

I'm the same! even if i werent a little id order from the kids menu  - due to surgery i eat like nothing so even a kids menu is too much! but it means i can be all little without my parents even knowing ;')

[Harley_Quinn]

The one who made you eat three desserts sounds like a dummy

 

Daddy usually orders off the kids menu for me except at fast food like McDonald's or burger King cause I like the big people food there lol

 

I would order off the kids menu if the place let's you (some places have a rule) even if the person attempts to humiliate me. I wanna have what I wanna have lol I'm a little, I like small meals that consist of nuggets and Mac and cheese if anyone ever had anything to say I would probably say I'm sorry is it any of your concern what I eat?

[Guest Isabelle]

I'm confused if you are NOT in a relationship with him, why are you calling him Daddy and letting him tell you what to order? If he is not your Daddy, then he should not be acting as your Daddy. In your post it says you agreed to a friendship not a relationship? You can be a Daddy and a little and have a friendship, but if he starts being a Daddy TO you then that's a relationship dynamic.

 

Just looking for clarification as I don't want you to get into something you don't seem to want. A friend Daddy would perhaps say it has a kids menu, don't be afraid to order off that if you'd like. A daddy says you can only order off the kids menu.

[Princess-P]

Obviously if your uncomfortable with it don't do it. No one can make you do something you dont want to, not even if he was your Daddy. Which he's not. So order what you want and tell him it isn't his place.

 

Its fine if you've desided to be friends and role play a bit. There's nothing wrong with that but putting you in a potentially embarrassing position isnt ok. So tell him how you feel.

 

I worked in food service for many years and if your over 12 there's no ordering from the kids menu. Obviously not all places are the same but if that's a rule its usually strict. Kids menu items don't make any money. Or if they were to let you you might get a pissy reaction from the wait staff because you just brought down the bill total which means less tip in most cases. So your right to be apprehensive.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

if you dont want to, don't. if you do, then do it. if you say you will and change your mind, then you can change your mind. there isnt much of a question here, because you're an adult. you do what YOU want to do. your first Daddy made you do something you were uncomfortable with, but honestly YOU should have told him No. unfortunately, i find myself lately reminding a lot of littles that they are in fact adults and every rule, punishment, consequence, etc MUST BE agreed on and every safe word MUST BE honored or you are in fact not in a ddlg or bdsm relationship, you are being abused. period.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I'm confused if you are NOT in a relationship with him, why are you calling him Daddy and letting him tell you what to order? If he is not your Daddy, then he should not be acting as your Daddy. In your post it says you agreed to a friendship not a relationship? You can be a Daddy and a little and have a friendship, but if he starts being a Daddy TO you then that's a relationship dynamic.

 

Just looking for clarification as I don't want you to get into something you don't seem to want. A friend Daddy would perhaps say it has a kids menu, don't be afraid to order off that if you'd like. A daddy says you can only order off the kids menu.

Wanted to address this point first.

 

A friendship IS a relationship dynamic, just not a sexual one. They are a non-sexual Daddy/little. They're friends, he is her Daddy. This is what they've agreed to. There is nothing wrong with her calling him Daddy as friends.

 

Secondly, if it makes you uneasy, don't order off the kids menu. Any sensible person will respect your limits.

[Guest Isabelle]

I did not say a friendship is not a relationship dynamic, I meant a DD/LG relationship dynamic. From her original post it sounded to me as if there is no Daddy/little and it's a friendship. Her post didn't say he's my daddy and I'm his little. Non-sexual relationships don't always mean Daddy/Little, from her post it sounded like friends only, but they know of each other as a daddy and a little. If he is her Daddy in a non-sexual relationship that's different. That's why in my post I was asking for clarification of this relationship type, I got the impression 'friends only' meant no dd/lg relationship dynamic. I don't understand Daddy's Babygirl how if you've decided to just be friends with someone, you call him your Daddy and he calls you his little when you've agreed to be friends. Being a Daddy and a little is different than just being friends, sexual or not. I'm not saying D/L doesn't have a friendship as it does, but it confused me as she said we're friends only we're not having a relationship where as DD/LG is different than just a friendship relationship, non-sexual or not, and implies a different response for her post. Bottom line, I understood her post to be we're a not DD/LG, we are just friends. If he's acting towards her as a Daddy rather than as a friend then that's a DD/LG relationship dynamic not a friendship one.

Edited February 12, 2017 by Isabelle

[Daddy's Meg]

I did not say a friendship is not a relationship dynamic, I meant a DD/LG relationship dynamic. From her original post it sounded to me as if there is no Daddy/little and it's a friendship.

Honestly I read it the same way the first time. I guess it's otherwise though. Edited?

Edited February 12, 2017 by she's daddy's

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I did not say a friendship is not a relationship dynamic, I meant a DD/LG relationship dynamic. From her original post it sounded to me as if there is no Daddy/little and it's a friendship. Her post didn't say he's my daddy and I'm his little. Non-sexual relationships don't always mean Daddy/Little, from her post it sounded like friends only, but they know of each other as a daddy and a little. If he is her Daddy in a non-sexual relationship that's different. That's why in my post I was asking for clarification of this relationship type, I got the impression 'friends only' meant no dd/lg relationship dynamic. I don't understand Daddy's Babygirl how if you've decided to just be friends with someone, you call him your Daddy and he calls you his little when you've agreed to be friends. Being a Daddy and a little is different than just being friends, sexual or not. I'm not saying D/L doesn't have a friendship as it does, but it confused me as she said we're friends only we're not having a relationship where as DD/LG is different than just a friendship relationship, non-sexual or not, and implies a different response for her post. Bottom line, I understood her post to be we're a not DD/LG, we are just friends. If he's acting towards her as a Daddy rather than as a friend then that's a DD/LG relationship dynamic not a friendship one.

I reckon maybe it's an interpretation issue... someone else has read it like you did as well, but I read it differently.

 

I read it as they're "just friends" who he is also her Daddy and she is his little. It is quiet possible I'm mistaken.

[Guest PattyCake]

So an update!  We went to lunch at a sports bar...and they didn't have the kids menu's out on the tables, so he let me order off of the regular menu  We had a fun day yesterday!  Lunch, and because I was good we got ice cream, and then we went back to his place and watched movies while we cuddled and I got good girl spankies  

 

Thanks for all the advice!  I was just scared lol...but I have to admit, I didn't even eat half of my meal that I ordered, so the children's menu portion would have probably been better  

[Guest PattyCake]

Oh and to clarify, he and I are Daddy/little but we don't do anything sexual.  He spanks me and rubs my butt and we cuddle.  It works for both of us.  There is a big age difference and we both agreed that we would be happier to just stay friends.

 

It's different, but it works

[BigCityLittleGirl]

Girl I love ordering from the kids menu bc

1. Cheaper xD

2. Smaller portions

 

I don't find it humiliating and I promise you if it's the servers reaction that scares you, don't worry! Many people do this for reasons I stated. If you personal still dislike it don't do it! It's all up to you girl. glad you enjoyed your date with him. But remember spankies are sexual! So be careful as he might try to take it further;)

[jellicle baby]

you need to have a safeword or phrase, and set your hard limits, and if he intentionally does things you discussed and agreed you're not comfortable with during lunch, try to leave, or talk to someone at the restaurant and ask for help. a true daddy will not break your hard limits. 

[mylittlesidewearsblack]

i am glad that things went well, that makes me happy.