Self Given Titles.

[Guest Sae]

(Sophie if this is bad, remove it!)

 

If you are a Daddy or a Dom you should know better than to tell people you barely know to address you as a title in which you have given yourself.

Titles are earned, not demanded by users.  

Stop asking Littles on here to call you Daddy or Sir. It's really disrespectful on a lot of levels. The title you receive is a title someone should be calling you because you show it, you've earned it. Not because you've demanded people to use it. 

 

 

What is everyones opinion on Dom's who ask you to call them by there self given title?

Do you think this is disrespectful? 

Why or why not? 

 

 

[tamsinkitten]

Yes I think it is disrespectful.

 

 

The title you receive is a title someone should be calling you because you show it, you've earned it. Not because you've demanded people to use it.

 

I totally agree.

 

I think it's extremely annoying when "Doms" or "Daddys" ask such a thing. It makes me uncomfortable and I usually avoid talking with them cause it's generally a sign they don't understand what those titles actually mean. Littles or Subs owes them nothing.

[ashwee]

I could not agree more with what's already been said here, and could not have said it better.

[Mr Dawn]

(Sophie if this is bad, remove it!)

 

If you are a Daddy or a Dom you should know better than to tell people you barely know to address you as a title in which you have given yourself.

Titles are earned, not demanded by users.  

Stop asking Littles on here to call you Daddy or Sir. It's really disrespectful on a lot of levels. The title you receive is a title someone should be calling you because you show it, you've earned it. Not because you've demanded people to use it. 

 

 

What is everyones opinion on Dom's who ask you to call them by there self given title?

Do you think this is disrespectful? 

Why or why not? 

 

Agree,

I can add "Or Master, etc etc...."

A submissive is NOT YOUR submissive.

A little is NOT YOUR little

Stop being a douche , and stop boasting yourself as a great Daddy/Mommy,

You will maybe be a great Daddy/Mommy,

But for the moment, No one has the obligation to call you like that.

 

And  if a Dom/me boast too much of his/her experiences or skills in BDSM before you meet,it's often a red flag...

 

I have never asked a Submissive to call me Sir, master, daddy, whatever-tittle ,until I was in a relationship with her.

[ashwee]

I think this kind of sums it up...

 

"Just because I'm submissive/little doesn't mean I'm your submissive/little".

[GentleDaddyDom]

I received a message on Kik (my username had been posted here and no where else) saying

"Hey. Type 'Yes Daddy' when you read this".

 

There are so many reasons why this is wrong!!! I feel like posting his name so others can keep clear but I don't know if I should :/

 

I would suggest letting us know who it is, since that's really unfitting behaviour for someone who wants to call themselves a Daddy on this site. Or, if you're really uncomfortable, you could always talk to Sophie about it!

 

As for the topic at hand, I agree entirely. No matter how long I have been/will be a Daddy for? I will never expect someone to call me anything. I love having littles as friends, and any nickname or title or anything they give me is their choice. Anyone that thinks they can walk up to a little, sub, or anything else that they have never even met before, and demand that they be called Daddy, Sir, Master, or anything like that? No. You're not a Daddy. You're not a Dom. You're a creep.

[Kitten Cupcake]

Well to be honest "sir" can be used in other countries and public places and so on just like "mam". I can understand master and daddy and people self using them in  disrespectful way:asking etc some people are just used to being called daddy/master that it becomes them and they prefer the title (and don't make others call them that etc).

So I guess it can be seen in various ways.

[Guest Sae]

Well to be honest "sir" can be used in other countries and public places and so on just like "mam". I can understand master and daddy and people self using them in  disrespectful way:asking etc some people are just used to being called daddy/master that it becomes them and they prefer the title (and don't make others call them that etc).

So I guess it can be seen in various ways.

I was more meaning it as. "In your next reply call me Sir" type of thing. I know for some countries it might be different. But I was more meaning in the DDlg and BDSM sense. :3 

[MrBonesWildRide]

I was actually going to make a post about how important it is for the Daddys currently in this community to be policing each other from being predatory like that. It's not to say that we should white Knight every little that gets hit on, and the more predatory of this community will post mainly in private rather than expose themselves. But those arrogant enough to do so in a public setting need to be set straight.

[Dr Spankee]

I think Ashwee got it right.  I think it's a sign of an immature Daddy/Dom that demands such a thing.  I'd stay well away from such an individual.

[Sir Patrick]

Yes, it's completely disrespectful. It may be analogous to a non-DD/lg relationship where a guy might say to a girl (for example): "I'm now your boyfriend." That's insulting and entirely disrespectful, and demanding to be called "Daddy" or "Master" or something like that is equally wrong. It's absurd and those people should be called out or at least barred (somehow) from the community.

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

I received a message on Kik (my username had been posted here and no where else) saying

"Hey. Type 'Yes Daddy' when you read this".

 

There are so many reasons why this is wrong!!! I feel like posting his name so others can keep clear but I don't know if I should :/

 

This is what happened to me last night and why this post is currently up now. It was a message from someone named Calvin Langman wasn't it? 

[PeppermintBatty]

I usually call people whatever is convenient for me. Often I will bend and call someone mister or sir, but thats usially because its in their username.

 

Usually I would never bend to someone's direct authority unless I had a real interest in them. More the,"you haven't earned any favors from me," mentality

[Bull]

There is certain protocol in local scenes. The way I was taught, every Dominant is Sir or M'am unless told otherwise, and 'Master', as a community title, is earned through years of faithful service. It is a title that I, myself, aspire to earn some day.

 

But online there are so many pretenders. People assuming that those who identify as submissives are submissive to all, and demanding titles be used even when showing a complete lack of respect for everyone else.

 

I don't expect any submissive to address me as "Sir" unless we've negotiated it beforehand. Some people do it automatically, and while it makes me smile, I'm not offended otherwise. Why would I expect people who don't know me to permit me some respect they don't know I deserve?

 

The truth is, anybody can call themselves a “Master”, but Masters are only made through the trust and the confidence bestowed them.

[princess-mel]

I tend to call all people I talk to, unless I have a name for them, Sir or Ma'am. But if someone specifically tells me to call them something specific like that or give me a direct order (which in general is just plain rude if you're speaking to a sub or little who is not yours) I refuse to do it.

[princessandthesailor]

I'm pretty likely to verbally spit in the eye of anyone who tells me to call them Daddy/Sir/Master etc. It's rude to be that demanding of a stranger. I might call you Mister if your user is "Mr. Ducky"  and you don't have a note anywhere saying "You can call me Sam!" but I'm equally inclined to call you Ducky. Point is, in that scenario, it's my choice to make.

[Guest DominantBlogger]

For the same reason I would never expect my submissive to call anyone else by Daddy/Master/Sir/etc. I would never expect anyone to do the same to me.

[LolitaNikita]

I agree as well, and it honestly invokes an automatic shutdown and defensive behavior from me. Preditory or aggressive behaviors do that with me.

 

The other day I was invited over to a 'friend's' house to eat and play a game... unbeknownst to me, she and her boyfriend, (both of whom kind of have a mess of a relationship and have been struggling a lot, changing their dynamic every couple months), now all of a sudden have decided her boyfriend is her Daddy. When I came over, she made a few comments of, "Well, Daddy said to do it," pressuring me to listen to him telling her to clean up,  hinting I should join in, because he's a 'Daddy,' now and he SAID so. My response was, "He's not my Daddy. And if he did start telling me to do stuff because he's a 'Daddy,' I'd be out the door."

 

So, I guess it can happen even by proxy. :/

[hislilbabygirl]

Yikes lilkitty, that sounds so icky

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If someone self-identifies as a Daddy or Dom, the most I'll call them at first is Mr. They have neither earned my submission nor my respect at that point. Besides, I only have one Sir, and anyone who'd demand I'd call them names that are only his clearly doesn't know a single thing about me. Anyone who demands I call them an unearned title clearly doesn't respect me.

[BabyRaai]

Titles are to be earned, not given. It's the same with respect. I don't want anyone to call me "baby girl" or "little girl" if they're not in a relationship with me. It's a huge pet peeve of mine. I can't stand it. 

 

You're not my Daddy, you're not my Sir or my Master. Quit it.

[Elle]

It is beyond disrespectful, if fact, I made a small rant about this on Tumblr a few days ago. 

[DelilahDream]

I know a few Doms/Daddies who I respect and look up to. They're not my Dom, never have been, and never will be but I do call them "Sir" out of respect. I know them and their subs/littles and I know they're good men. So they've earned the title "Sir" even though I don't submit to them. Strangers though? Oh no. And MY Daddy is the only man aside from my father who will ever hear that title from me. Sir is one thing, asking me to call you Daddy is a whole other ball game. It's a good way to piss me off.