i lost my little

[pandababy]

due to a sudden and unexplained breakup with my daddy, i feel like i lost my little side. i have no interest in the things i loved before. it's been almost a month and that feeling hasn't changed. how do i get that side of me back? or is it gone forever? 

[lonelyprincess-chan]

I'm very sorry to hear that. However, understand that it's okay that you don't go into little space like you once did. It's okay if you don't go into little space as often. So don't be afraid or scared that it's gone as it will make it harder to go back into it. Maybe if you see no interest in it, you should try exploring more to see if you like any other cool things that could get you into little space. Maybe play with some other littles and have a playdate or something (: You certainly don't want to force it however. You very well could have grown out of it as well and it's okay because our tastes change! Just try to relax and do what you think would help you feel little again, and if it doesn't work out right away, it's okay! Some people also might need someone else to help them feel small, so keep that in mind. I wish you the best!

[Frog]

One possibility is that you're associating your little-ness with your ex-daddy. This is completely understandable, because you were in a DDlg relationship. It takes time to heal. Unfortunately there's not timeline for getting better. If you have outgrown it as lonelyprincess-chan mentioned, then that's fine, too. 

 

Just try to let it happen again in time and don't force it. There's a part of you that's still hurting and grieving. Maybe that part is too afraid to come out and play for right now. 

Edited February 8, 2017 by Frog

[pandababy]

That's been the hardest part for me. I don't go into little space, I'm always in little space and force myself to adult as necessary. With that part of me gone right now, I feel broken and empty...

[LittleGirlEmilia]

It's actually very common with all types of relationships, you associate things with your partner, I couldn't listen to a lot of music I liked because my vanilla ex introduced me to it, but I got over it. I still can't watch things like supernatural or sons of anarchy, but I lost interest in them shortly after splitting with him anyways.

 

You'll get it back, you're just thinking of your ex daddy when you wanna be little, so it doesn't help.

 

I hope you heal well.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

It's actually very common with all types of relationships, you associate things with your partner, I couldn't listen to a lot of music I liked because my vanilla ex introduced me to it, but I got over it. I still can't watch things like supernatural or sons of anarchy, but I lost interest in them shortly after splitting with him anyways.

 

You'll get it back, you're just thinking of your ex daddy when you wanna be little, so it doesn't help.

 

I hope you heal well.

[SharkPrince]

You're getting over the relationship and sometimes it takes an adult hat to grieve for a lost relationship. The little ness will come back into it but you can't force it. I find because alot of people label their little space and associate certain things to get into it they find it difficult to actually slip into little space. I find that it's a lot more fluid than that and I don't very often sit there like "right, I'm going to be little now" It'll just hapen and I feel like if you make that conscious decision to try and be little it'll be harder. Just watch a disney film or something and things'll happen naturally

[Liams_little_lizzy]

I lost my daddy and also am having a problem connecting with my little side again. I feel like i made the wrong choice (we broke up so i could take care of my sick father, being Liam's little gave me that release to not be an adult all the time. Its hard to adult.) I dont feel like me anymore. I learned in counseling we all have a little inside us and it needs to be nurtured. We just cry alot and regret even more. He would tell me things would be ok. I have no idea how to self soothe. I hate feeling this broken. Im sorry to bother you all with this, i dont have any where else to go.