First "real punishment"

[Guest Newtothis84]

[EbonyKittenPrincess]

Communication

 

I know it can be very intimidating to just ask for that, but that's what works better for getting what you want I had the same struggle with Daddy at first, but I just told him that I wanted him to "put me back in my place" when I'm being bratty and he perfectly understood though I get that it's hard to dare ask him ><

 

If you feel too uncomfortable asking him when you're in little space, do it when you're in big space, sit down with him and explain him though when I did the way he reacted immediatly put me in little space and that's how the discussion ended x3 so be prepared to tell him "the little way" just in case, or if you really can't write him and sit down with him while he reads, this way you can take time to choose your words and think about it, and won't be stuttering

 

Hope it helped ! You can write me in private if you want more info about how the discussion went or just someone to talk to

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hi there! If you've made it 5 years you already know the golden rule of relationships.... communication!

 

My Daddy and I are married going on 5 years, too! Sit down and tell your husband what you need. Explain you want the structure, discipline and rules. Explain you don't want to be bratty but you need his dominance.

 

I am a bratty little. I don't have a little age, but I'm probably more middle than little. I like to tease/prod/poke Daddy. I'm also a masochist... I never expirnented with the masochistic side of me until recently cuz.... well I also have a low pain tolerance so contradiction much?

 

I use to act out because I wanted spanked. I knew I did but I never told Daddy. He got so exhausted and finally became super un-Dominate. We've since talked, he's super Dominate and possessive which I love, and I try not to break rules. I also tell him when I want a spanking. And he does his best to give me what I want. I no longer crave punishments because I have no desire to disappoint Daddy.

[EbonyKittenPrincess]

[Daddy's Meg]

I agree with everyone else.

 

You get what you ask for. The squeaky wheel gets the grease, etc. Have a good sit down and talk about it.

 

You can simply say you like being put in your place. That you need some rules. Just be careful it's the dominance you want and not the punishment. Punishments shouldn't really be fun or their aren't actually punishments.

 

For example, spanking is both a reward and a punishment in my home.

 

There is a few ways he does spanking/flogging, most of it is all for rewards and fun. I can get it by being a bit bratty but not actually going too far. Like sticking my tongue out at him. He knows I'm just being playful. Or I can get it because I was so well behaved for the day.  I still feel the dominance from it either way. Following his wishes and making him happy or teasing. He's happy to be doing it, it's in his control to give out.

 

But the other spanking is somehow more painful and not fun and always leave me genuinely feeling bad for what I've done. I don't get any kind of kick out of it, because he's not happy he's had to do it. There's nothing fun about being bad and displeasing him. Crossing the line.

 

Just make sure you're getting what you really want. Good luck.

[Princess-P]

It sounds like your not looking for punishment. If you enjoy it it's not a punishment its a "funishment". You can ask for spankings by telling him that you enjoy them and want him to give you them for no reason other than because you like it. Tell him unexpected spankings make you happy.

 

Dominance isn't about how many spankings you get its all in how a person carries them self. My Daddy and I have been together 9 years and he almost never corrects my behavior, I don't have rules, and if he ever tried to "punish" me I'd probably snap back. However I get plenty spankings because he knows I love them, he's always sexually dominant, and I respect him and his advice because I respect him as a person and his knowledge and experience. So asking him to be more dominant has to come naturally and from both of you.

 

Communication is all you need. If you want an excuse for funishments then make a not so serious rule chart together. If you break a rule he can give you the corisponding "punishment". Its more of a role play to add to your dynamic but may fulfill some of your desires. It also let's him know if your acting a certain way then its because you want him to do something in response without having to break role and talk about it.