Daddy Space?

[AnotherNerdWithGlasses]

Sooo, Daddies can be an enigma to me~ I'm curious to know what daddies are like in their Daddy space? Do you talk about golf and ties? do you brag about your little? Do you see cute toys in a store and think "Oh, she would love that" or "She would look so cute playing with this"

Do any of the daddies/caregivers have any stories about their little that they want to brag about? And for the singles is there anything you look forward to when you have a little of your own?

[Guest ToSirWithLove]

Well my daddy space is probably me being in the garage working on my cars or playing video games.... I do look forward to seeing things my little may like or having her with me and she goes crazy over some princess disney stuff... 

[PeppermintBatty]

I did the daddy thing for six months while I was "finding myself."  During this time, I had amazing daddy moments, but I never really shifted into a dedicated "daddy space." It always felt like me doing my thing. Maybe it's because I'm a submissive at heart that I didn't really get into daddy space. I always just wanted to see the kiddos I was with smile. Maybe it was somewhat subservient, but I was always trying to treat them how I really wanted to be treated deep down. I wanted it to be an enriching experience.

 

It was because of that experience that I was able to figure out what I actually wanted from a daddy to begin with. I'm not sure if daddy space exists, but I had a lot of fun while it lasted.

[BitchySwitchy]

Hmm...Momma space...

 

I would describe it as an overflowing of love and affection for a little. Like, everything beautiful reminds you of them, and you really can't get them off your mind.

[Guest DominantBlogger]

For me I think it really just is a part of my daily life.  There is regular Daddy and then sexy-times Daddy.  But having kids full time I pretty much am always in regular Daddy mode and she is just another little I take care of...  Sexy times Daddy is a whole different thing, of course...

[thebigcheese]

My daddy space is usually at my desk on the computer playing video games or writing. I do try to have my little play what ever game I am playing at the time.

[DaddyandMunchkin]

I'm a 24/7 Daddy, so I think I'm just in that space always, unless I'm "triggered" out of it, and even then the only thing I really switch up is calling my little my wife when I'm in public. I find that some times are a bit special that put me into a more ...maybe emotional type of Daddy space, like deeper in it. When I go to the store and buy baby wipes and a new sippy or a new binky, or even just window shopping for what I could buy her, I get really into it even though I otherwise hate shopping. So there are probably degrees and levels of my "Daddy space" but I'm always in it. 

[CuddleMonster89]

When I have a little and am in my Daddy headspace, I do things like:

- daydream about my little and think what I've learned about her, such as her values, likes and dislikes, needs, wants, hopes, dreams, fears, etc.

- chat with my little and try to get a better understanding of her

- listen to my little and how she's feeling and try to relate and empathize with her

- check to see if my little's okay or if she needs anything from me

- hold my little accountable to her plans and promises

- monitor my little's progress toward her goals

- try to anticipate and prepare for potential obstacles my little may encounter

- consider what area of growth would be most beneficial for my little to make progress in next

- express my great admiration when my little has accomplished a challenging goal I've set for her

- check to see if my little has broken any rules, and if so, discipline accordingly

- contemplate what my little is currently struggling with and if a new rule in some area might be beneficial for her

- review the current set of rules and consider if they are all still helpful, or if we can safely get rid of any

- think about the potential I see in my little and imagine what she will be like once she has realized her full potential

- fantasize about hugging, kissing, and cuddling with my little

- fantasize about touching and caressing my little in "inappropriate" ways

[Guest Foffy]

This is an interesting thread. Got me thinking. I think the bear in my picture is pretty indicative of my "Daddy mode" or "Dom mode".

 

There are times when I am intensely passionate and generally protective over a certain person or a certain thought. This could be anything; if something is unjust or morally wrong or suspicious; if a person has been hurt in some way or needs to be taken care of; etc...it's a sort of parental type of reaction or instinct that takes over despite my not being a parent. Sometimes it is very intense and intrusive, my thoughts wash out everything that isn't "protect this thing or person." Think of it as the bear being protective over its child. That is one thing that I would consider "Daddy space" because normally I am not so intense, it's like a switch is flipped, and it generally only happens over a very specific person or idea that i am passionate about.

 

There is also the exact opposite, when I am caring for a specific person or my little. For example, reading her a bedtime story at night, there is that certain feeling of closeness and raw intimacy that makes you feel nothing other than "I care for this person immensely." Different from "love" in the context of a relationship. I think that is a very special kind of feeling and moment that nothing else in life has ever given me.

[Guest MrKuma]

For me i feel it is just intertwined/intergrated with just who I am. Naturally I have what one could call paternal instict or something along those lines.

[LizzTea]

I'm currently without a little but for me it most comes out when I'm around a little and their littleness brings out my "I need to be protective and also look at how adorable they are" mindset. Generally I'm a rather passive person but littles bring out a very paternal instinct in me.