Beautiful

[shadowrider]

  It seems like every time I turn around lately I'm hearing or seeing someone shaming themselves because they do not fit today's idealistic image of airbrushed perfection.

First of all, that image has more flaws below the surface than most of us have total. Yet we still listen to the hype and garbage that these companies try to tell us about what WE should look like or how WE should dress or even act. The fact that we let someone else decide what makes us feel good is total bullsh#@ in my eyes and I am tired of it.

  I say we because I too fall into the category of not being satisfied or happy with my current self. I however do not need other people that do not know me saying that I am not beautiful because I don't look like Magic Mike. I am working on myself day by day to get in better shape and better over all health. But the damage has already been done to my psyche that exercise and eating right cannot heal. I used to be ok with myself until social media came along. I mean I wasn't a ripped abs model type but I at least didn't hate myself. Now I don't like mirrors, or taking pictures, or going swimming. Because I know I will be judged not for who I am but for how I look in swim trunks, or by how much bigger I may be than the people in the pic next to me. These things slowly eat at you until you are no longer the person you were meant to be. It is a shame that we cannot look at one another and see the amazing beauty inside each other and openly say something about it. I have seen and felt more love here than any where else I have been online and I thank each of you for that.

  I know I am not the only one here that needs to hear a positive word of praise every now and then. Just someone saying "Hey you look good today" is all it takes to change a person's day and perhaps their life. So I am posting this to tell everyone here that reads this.

  I think you are beautiful. I think the person you are is amazing and you should let that light inside you shine as brightly as I know it can.

  If you want to change yourself for the sake of yourself, then do so. But to hell with hollywood and the superficial arse monkeys that have personal trainers and starve themselves to be a size 0. Their opinion of us does not matter. Strive daily to be the best you that you can possibly be and let the world take it's opinion and shove it.

 

  I live through music so I am going to post the lyrics to a song and a link so you can listen to it. I ask that anyone of you that has a song that is an inspiration to you and may touch someone else. Please post the lyrics so we can all see that we are all beautiful in our own way.

 Thank you for reading and sharing,

with love, honor and respect

Rob

 

 

 

ALESSIA CARA
"Scars To Your Beautiful"

She just wants to be beautiful
She goes unnoticed, she knows no limits,
She craves attention, she praises an image,
She prays to be sculpted by the sculptor
Oh she don't see the light that's shining
Deeper than the eyes can find it
Maybe we have made her blind
So she tries to cover up her pain, and cut her woes away
'Cause covergirls don't cry after their face is made

But there's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark
You should know you're beautiful just the way you are
And you don't have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful
Oh-oh, oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh
And you don't have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful

She has dreams to be an envy, so she's starving
You know, "Covergirls eat nothing."
She says, "Beauty is pain and there's beauty in everything."
"What's a little bit of hunger?"
"I could go a little while longer," she fades away
She don't see her perfect, she don't understand she's worth it
Or that beauty goes deeper than the surface
Ah oh, ah ah oh,
So to all the girls that's hurting
Let me be your mirror, help you see a little bit clearer
The light that shines within

There's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark
You should know you're beautiful just the way you are
And you don't have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful
Oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh
And you don't have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful

No better you than the you that you are
(no better you than the you that you are)
No better life than the life we're living
(no better life than the life we're living)
No better time for your shine, you're a star
(no better time for your shine, you're a star)
Oh, you're beautiful, oh, you're beautiful

There's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark
You should know you're beautiful just the way you are
And you don't have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful
Whoa-oh-oh-oh, whoa-oh-oh-oh, whoa-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh
And you don't have to change a thing
The world could change its heart
No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful

 

 

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you!

[shadowrider]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you!

We all need to hear it and if we can't tell each other here I know the outside world won't tell us.

And yes, you are beautiful.

[Guest BabyGirl_Liya]

Thankyou so much for this I just started crying reading this because I felt that way today.

I thank god for you and my friend James because others wouldn't come to do all of this like you did.

Keep doing what your doing because this could save someones life. 

It could have saved my life if my friend didnt help me through it.

Edited February 7, 2017 by BabyGirl_Liya

[shadowrider]

Thankyou so much for this I just started crying reading this because I felt that way today.

I thankyou god for you and my friend James because others would come to do all of this like you did.

Keep doing what your doing because this could save someones life. 

It could have saved my life if my friend didnt help me through it.

Liya, I hope I may call you that. You are so welcome, and thank you for letting me know it touched you.

Give James a hug and let him know he is special also.

You're beautiful Liya, don't forget that

[Guest BabyGirl_Liya]

I won't forget ever again. I will give him a hug, hopefully he will see this. Thankyou so much again!

[BabyKittenPaws]

Very thoughtful, thank you so much! everyone should hear this

[DaddysMonkey]

First of all SM , that is a beautiful song and I listen to it very often along with her other songs. She is a talented and heart felt artist. 

 

Secondly , I can't thank you enough for posting this. You share vulnerability and care for others , a lot of Daddies have this exterior , and act like they have no insecurities.. like they are invincible. Yes, Daddies are our super heroes but you guys have feelings as well and thank you for showing this side of you.

 

You , being a good friend of mine know specifically what I have been going through as of late so this really hit a note on my heart.  

 

A few people have read this and have given a response about how it has touched them , but for the people who haven't and aren't going to reply , I hope SM's words touch you and you think about this post during your hard times. 

 

As well as Daddies , I feel like this is something everybody should read at some point , you are gifted with your words SM and thank you again.

 

~ Monkey

[Frog]

I definitely have this problem. I'm very self-deprecating and negative about my looks. It's good to read a post where someone cares enough to post it. Thanks, somethingsmissing.

[shadowrider]

 

First of all SM , that is a beautiful song and I listen to it very often along with her other songs. She is a talented and heart felt artist. 

 

Secondly , I can't thank you enough for posting this. You share vulnerability and care for others , a lot of Daddies have this exterior , and act like they have no insecurities.. like they are invincible. Yes, Daddies are our super heroes but you guys have feelings as well and thank you for showing this side of you.

 

You , being a good friend of mine know specifically what I have been going through as of late so this really hit a note on my heart.  

 

A few people have read this and have given a response about how it has touched them , but for the people who haven't and aren't going to reply , I hope SM's words touch you and you think about this post during your hard times. 

 

As well as Daddies , I feel like this is something everybody should read at some point , you are gifted with your words SM and thank you again.

 

~ Monkey

 

  As always you are too kind my dear friend. You are one of the most beautiful and caring people I know and if this brought even a shimmer of light to you during your day then I am happy I shared.

 I do think a lot of daddies have that hard exterior that is used to make littles feel safe and protected. But at the same time we have to embrace our nurturing side so that we understand their feelings on a different level. We need to be able to feel as deeply as they do to understand them. That can be a challenge but learning and growing is what this is all about. 

 Do me a favor and remember that no matter what life throws at you, you got this. You are an amazing person and I am honored to count you among my friends.

[shadowrider]

I definitely have this problem. I'm very self-deprecating and negative about my looks. It's good to read a post where someone cares enough to post it. Thanks, somethingsmissing.

Hello frog,

 I hope you are well and this finds you in good spirits. I also want to thank you for putting yourself out there by responding, I know that is not easy.

We are all in this together and we should be trying to build each other up instead of standing by idle as the world tears each of us down. So take heart that you are not alone in your journey, you have friends here that care. Have a wonderful day and stay positive.

[Guest faerybunny]

Thank you for creating this. Truly.

[shadowrider]

Thank you for creating this. Truly.

faerybunny you are welcome.

[Ami29]

Amazing,my favorite post in this whole forum

[shadowrider]

Amazing,my favorite post in this whole forum

Thank you, that truly means a lot to me. I hope my words reminded you of how beautiful you are and brought a smile to your face.

[Ami29]

Thank you, that truly means a lot to me. I hope my words reminded you of how beautiful you are and brought a smile to your face.

 

 

They did,and made me smile from ear to ear..I soooo wanna printed and keep it on my mirror to see every morning..

Ok, that may sound a bit creepy and stalkrish..hehehe but I would have to say it is the most meaningful post I read since I joined..and believe me when I say I read a LOT .

Hugs

[UK Daddy101]

Well said sir, your words remind me of a famous speech and id like other to see it if you have the time, it highlights the powers at be that want us to feel and think a certain way to stay at home and consume more to feed their bank accounts.

 

 

Edited July 25, 2017 by UK Daddy101

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

I love this so much that I printed it out and taped it to the inside cover of my planner, so I can read it everyday.

[shadowrider]

I love this so much that I printed it out and taped it to the inside cover of my planner, so I can read it everyday.

I am glad you liked it and touched that you would print it out and keep it. Thank you for sharing that. 

[Guest]

I agree with this on so many levels. Unfortunately, I think we are too often judged on what we are not, or what we could be instead of who we are. So thank you for this beautiful post and reminding people that their worth is about so much more than the opinions of others

[Guest The Phantom]

They need to make a banner of this post and hang it up for all to see.

[ChrisG]

Thank you! Really beautiful thoughts, and I agree with everything you wrote. It's terrible that we criticize ourselves,when society is already doing that to us every day. I just found out about this community today, and very grateful to find out there are compassionate people here.

[shadowrider]

Leesh, Brokenporcelain, ChrisG

Thank you all for your kind words. 

 

 We are all too often judged by a standard that we did not set for ourselves. A standard that I honestly have no care to live up to. I hope each of us can look in the mirror and see the beauty we possess. Then I hope we can begin to look at others with those same eyes and help them see their beauty. 

[Guest Alainnb]

As bodyshaming is working both ways and I have actually been shamed for being so thin without a reason ( I eat A LOT, like...A LOT....sometimes even two warm dishes a day with several sweets in between and ofc breakfast and I don't gain any weight....) Tbh, I don't WANT to gain weight...I feel absolutely happy and satisfied when I look into the mirror myself......but then, there are people telling you that you probably don't eat more than a salad a day and that you need to gain weight and "look, I can even see your knee through your pants and you have this gap between the legs!" ( barely, actually...there are a lot of ppl that have a wider gap and I'm still having the "it's still healthy" weight) and so on....at the same time, the same person (""normal"" weighed) told a chubbier person she should love herself and it's beautiful...... can't we just all.....stop caring so much about another persons weight....? If it's still healthy but it just leans more towards one or the other side, what's wrong with it...? What's wrong with being thinner or chubbier than many others...? I really like my body but whenever someone else bodyshames me, I start to feel that people look at my legs when I walk even tho they probably don't.......

 

we are all beautiful in our own ways just as much as we are all special and wonderful and we should never forget that the only opinion you need to care about is yours <3 Don't let anyone plant this seed in your mind that you are too " small/big/fat/thin/dark/light-skinned like a zombie/weird or just plain ugly....beauty comes from within after all <3

 

Thank you for this post, really! I hope it made others smile and gain even a little bit of self-confidence <3

[ladybug°rain]

Sixx:A.M. Skin

 

Paint yourself a picture

Of what you wish you looked like

Maybe then they just might

Feel an ounce of your pain

 

Come into focus

Step out of the shadows

It's a losing battle

There's no need to be ashamed

 

Cause they don't even know you

All they see is scars

They don't see the angel

Living in your heart

 

Let them find the real you

Buried deep within

Let them know with all you've got

That you are not your skin

 

Ohhhh

Ohhhh

 

When they start to judge you

Show them your true colors

And do onto others

As you'd have done to you

 

Just rise above this

Kill them with your kindness

Ignorance is blindness

They're the ones that stand to lose

 

Cause they don't even know you

All they see is scars

They don't see the angel

Living in your heart

 

Let them find the real you

Buried deep within

Let them know with all you got

That you are not your skin

 

Oooooooohhhhhhhooooohhhhh

 

Well they don't even know you

All they see is scars

They don't see the angel

Living in your heart

 

So let them find the real you

Buried deep within

Let them know with all you've got

That you are not

That you are not your skin

 

Ohhhh

Ohhhh