Is my little coming on too strong?

[kornwolf24]

The little I met a week ago is already calling herself my little. She lives in another state and we have never met. She has never had a daddy, and seems comfortable calling me her daddy.

 

Now from my perspective, despite liking the attention, and god knows I need a girlfriend, she seems to have clung to me awful fast. She is my type, and I really do want to get to know her. Just wondering if this can be little behavior.

 

I have no problems talking to her, just not sure I want to right now though since I am not sure yet if I really want this, or I am just nervous about such a good thing.

[Spooky]

You questioning this is a good thing. Rushing into relationships is rarely a good thing. 

I would suggest bringing this up to her. In a kind way. 

Sometimes we fight good things because they seem too good to be true, more often than not, they really are too good to be true. 

 

Personally, I find a week to be waayyyy too soon. How much can you really know about each other? 

Keep your wits about you & keep an open and honest stream of communication with her going. You'll be alright. 

 

Edit: Note that terms like "little behaviour" & "coming on too strong" are very subjective and vary from person to person.  

[Guest]

If you are feeling something is a bit off I would bring it up to her. As spooky said be kind.

 

Some people take a long time to bond others get hooked really fast. (There is no real "this is how all littles act" cuz every little is different) You should just tell her it moving a little to fast for you. If it still feels weird follow your gut.

 

But if you have not officially agreed to being her daddy she really should not be calling you daddy. For me personally thats a no no and super disrespectful.

Edited February 3, 2017 by Arya

[Hurndauke]

It takes me a while to get to know someone, rushing into things often isn't a good thing, just as the others said.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

For me... 'Daddy' is a major honour and not to be taken lightly. Even as a single little, I wouldn't call anyone daddy in just a week! Personally, it's taken me 3 months to call my daddy, daddy, he would act like my daddy (natural instincts of being in a relationship with a little I guess?) but he was my partner first and I would act my little self as usual. I had to be 110% sure I wanted to fully submit to him.

 

This is me personally though, I think the name is earned, same as when he calls me baby girl/little one/his little.

 

Each to their own though but I think a week is far too early so maybe she's going through a hard time and just needs a daddy. When I was a single little I'd be like "a daddy would be handy right now -.-" when times were rough, so maybe she just needs someone and clung onto you ?

[Princess-P]

Its important to know what you want from a relationship. Are you hoping to be in person or online only? What would you expect from your partner? What can she expect from you? What kind of dynamic are you looking for? 24/7? Lifestyle? Roleplay? What does she expect?

 

Have the two of you had a conversation about any of this? Does she only talk to you while in "little space"/does she always seem to be in the role or has she talked to you like one adult to another? Are your conversations all flirt and no depth? Playful and never serious? How much do you truly know about each other? Or does she know a lot about you while she doesn't share much other than "typical little stuff". If you were to truly be in a relationship would you be a secret? Many people claim love for someone online while keeping their existance a secret from everyone else in their life because they are embarased or don't want to lose the possibility of meeting someone in real life.

 

I personally feel a week is far too soon and she sounds like she's just jumpingnon the bandwagon. She may have seen something on tumble or heard of CG/l somehow and the idea of a "Daddy" excited her so she's enjoying the roleplay but the fad may die out when the "relationship" has no true purpose.

 

She may also have discovered the lifestyle and feels it suits her perfectly but is over excited and rushing into something without thinking simply because you identify as a Daddy.

 

I'm not say I g its impossible for her to be the right one for you but I absolutely suggest you talk to her more in depth before she claims you as Daddy. Make sure you both want the same thing. And keep in mind that if she won't talk to you without slipping into the little role she's probably not taking it seriously.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

for me personally? that would be way too fast. as a sub particularly i would never take on a dom that soon after meeting the guy. but, that's just me personally. you should certainly bring this up to her if you think it's too soon. and to answer your question, there is no "typical" little behavior. 

[missym]

This is an interesting situation you find yourself in, considering you have never even met in my opinion I would consider a week to be far too little time for you to each other enough to be calling you daddy.  To me that would be ringing alarm bells.  However every one and every relationship is different, I would trust your gut feeling on this.

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

If it doesn't feel right for you I'd say definitely bring it up to her. Be honest, but also caring. You want to get to know her better, let her know that, but also it's just a bit soon.

[BruceDaLittle]

I went through a period of calling my cgs mommy shortly after meeting them but having finally having had a cg who treated me right  even if it was briefly. calling a cg mommy has meaning now. I agree with what everyone says if ur uncomfy tell her in a caring manner. there is no typical little behavior. honest with what u looking for.

[Guest Loki]

Hmmmm. I don't know. From my own experience I do attach to people quickly, but my adult self keeps me in check. I would personally never call someone my Daddy without actually knowing the person first. And a week - I mean, unless you had some serious communication and you actually met then I don't think this is real.

 

It might feel real to both of you. I'm hesitate to say falling in love with someone that fast is impossible, but my sister is going two years now with her boyfriend and they got together super-fast.

 

However, I would say that it is highly improbable.

 

If you want to pursue this keep in mind she may be catfishing, she might be super lonely and caught up in finding a Daddy, and she might, against all odds, be the one for you.

 

But no matter what, I'd say slow down and do honest, serious and in-depth discussions about what you want and need from a relationship.

[LittleGirlEmilia]

Pinkyellowblue brought up a good point, your adult self keeps you in check with things like this, my little side is clingy and a little whiny but my adult self knows when is enough.

 

Also back to what pinkyellowblue said, she might actually be cat fishing you and may be underage so be careful about that.. she might not actually have an adult self yet....

[Guest samtheman556]

I say proceed with caution. If she's new to the scene then she just doesn't understand the privilege of that title. However, if you notice she is getting to be clingy very quickly early on or makes too many serious moves early on I'd say it's best to very gently break it off. 

[Guest CharlieFPG]

Besides all the suggestions present here, please also mind the red flags. There is a great post on that regard in this same forum.

 

Link below.

 

Stay safe, be kind, but be clear on your feelings and intentions.

 

And success.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16410-red-flags-for-dominants/

[-LittleDisneyPrincess]

I suffer with a certain mental illness which means I can form attachments holla quickly.

& it get's intense, really quickly.

 

But there's quickly, and then there's this. Try talking to her about this in a gentle way.

[Beasourous]

If you think it is moving too fast for you, you should have a gentle talk with her and slow things down. Maybe she feels the attraction and is afraid that she will lose you so she want to put her "claim" on you. If you are seriously thinking of knowing her better and wanting her as your little, let her know that you both are chatting exclusively and what are your expectations.

 

I think that communication is very important as well as knowing a person well.