The perfect little?

[Guest GrumpyGeorge]

I do want to preface this by saying this isn't a mod/staff/official post. I am posting this as an individual and encourage people to read, post, discuss as they would any other post.

 

So, despite my Grumpy monikers I get asked for advice quite a bit, I love this, it's one of the aspects of being a CG I relish, advising and dealing with questions and curiosities.

 

I was recently asked by a little friend "In an attempt to be the perfect little, is there anything littles do, that bigs secretly don't particularly care for?"

 

I answered pretty straight forwardly "Each individual has likes and dislikes, for example; some like binkies, some don't. What annoys one Daddy another will adore."

 

But the question and the way it was posed made me think, 'the perfect little?' according to whom? Me? CGs in general?

 

I feel people sometimes tend to think there is an ideal, not just within the DD/lg & CG/l community but within everything.

 

There isn't an ideal, everything is subjective. An interesting case showing this is 'Norma' a statue made from the average proportions of 1000s of women. Statistically she was "perfect" symmetrical face, athletic build, full lips, blah blah blah. So there was a competition run to find a real life version of this 'perfection'. Of the 100,000's of women that applied the winner who came closest to matching her wasn't even close to half of Normas dimensions. (I encourage you to research Norm and Norma if you want to know more). The reason no one came close is because nothing is applicable to everyone. Any 'Ideal' or 'Average' or 'Perfect' is irrelevant as a single individual can never fit those standards for everyone.

 

Trying to stretch yourself to do this and that because others do or you think people will like it is silly.

 

Being a little, in my opinion, is part of who you are. There is no right or wrong when it comes down to who you are. You have to do what fits you.

 

DD/lg & CG/l relationships are individual the guidelines and lifestyle are what you make them.

 

Don't worry about trying to fit a supposed set of standards, be you. You will find someone so much better for you if you go into a relationship being yourself, with no unreal expectations or trying to be who you aren't you will have a partner that likes you as you and be much happier for it.

 

It's a cliché because it works. Just be yourself.

 

George

[Johnny Hammersticks]

I, personally, find beauty in the imperfections in people and in life. Its the little quirks, insecurities, and scars that make us all the unique individuals that we are. Its what gives life the vivid colors, rich textures, and its deep dimensions. Its the imperfections that make the world interesting, and what we should all embrace in ourselves and others.

 

I dont know if anyone experiences things the way i do, but i find, the deeper the sadness, the deeper the beauty.

[Kara]

This post gives hope for those of us who see our selves as less than perfect thank you.

[Daddy's Meg]

Being a little, in my opinion, is part of who you are. There is no right or wrong when it comes down to who you are. You have to do what fits you.

 

DD/lg & CG/l relationships are individual the guidelines and lifestyle are what you make them.

Yes times a million!!

Edited February 3, 2017 by she's daddy's

[Guest]

I agree 100% 

The only way to be "the perfect little" is to be perfectly yourself.   

Same goes for CGs 

[Hurndauke]

Well said. xP

[Guest GrumpyGeorge]

This post gives hope for those of us who see our selves as less than perfect thank you.

Thank you! That means a lot

[Guest GrumpyGeorge]

I agree 100% 

The only way to be "the perfect little" is to be perfectly yourself.   

Same goes for CGs

 

Of course! I feel like it applies to everyone

[Guest GrumpyGeorge]

Well said. xP

Thank you

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

i might get crap for this and that's totally okay but in my experience, personally

i realized a lot of the time the people who ask what a cg/little look for aren't as..

idk, i don't want to say well educated about cg/l because a lot of the dynamic is what

you make it? but something along those lines that's less insulting, i suppose. and 

have also been fairly young, easily impressionable by the stuff they see about littles/cgs

elsewhere. then again, not age plays into all of the scenarios but it was more of

a general observation. 

 

i don't think there's a perfect anything but i'm super about the idea that there's

someone out there that will accept you despite whatever flaws you may have.

that everyone has their own special preference and just because person a isn't

about you doesn't mean person f or z won't be. 

[Mikaitaku]

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" what one person finds beautiful can and often does differ from one person to the next. It is important to know that everyone will have their idea of what the "perfect" little is and odds are that eventually you will find someone who utterly adores you for for you. 

[Guest Appacheian]

Perfect..... is there anything in this world or any person who can stand up and say I am perfect. It's the imperfections that make us individual. Only strive to be the best for who you love. That's all any of us can do.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

Wonderful post. of course, this isnt an issue in ddlg cg/l exclusively. it might stem from general insecurities, society and media, etc. but i think everyone wants to be "It" for another person (or persons of course, depending on how you live). everyone wants to be perfect for someone else, not necessarily everyone. 

[Guest GrumpyGeorge]

Wonderful post. of course, this isnt an issue in ddlg cg/l exclusively. it might stem from general insecurities, society and media, etc. but i think everyone wants to be "It" for another person (or persons of course, depending on how you live). everyone wants to be perfect for someone else, not necessarily everyone.

That's an excellent point you raise, with people's perception of perfect being as subjective as it is you can definitely be perceived as perfect by an individual despite not fitting the description for people as a whole. Thanks for the input

[Guest daddydomatc]

This was a good read I appreciate this.