Is There Something Wrong With Me?

[DaddysLittleEevee]

I have a Daddy that I love with all of my heart. He's absolutely perfect for me and I already know for a fact that he's the one I love and want to be with for the rest of my life. We are getting married in June, and I am soooo happy! Until then, though, we are in a long distance relationship. He lives in England, and I live in the US. There's something seriously wrong, though.. I can't stop thinking about this other guy. My Daddy knows about him and that we've had feelings for each other. When Daddy and I were going through a phase where I didn't think it would work, this other guy and I talked about getting together.. Daddy knows that, too.. I feel like I'm going to get a lot of mean things said to me.. but I just don know what to do.. or what's right. I don't have friends to talk to, as I am just bad at making friends.. 

 

I don't know if I am in love with the other guy, but I certainly have some sort of feelings towards him, and I can't get them to go. My Daddy is so good to me and I just feel like such a bad Little.. I hate myself for this.. and even though I'm confused, Daddy still loves me and wants the best for me.He's so good to me. He says I deserve him, but I don't feel like I do when I miss someone else while I miss him..

 

Can I please not get hate? Though I may deserve it, I do harbour enough hatred towards myself for a legion. And I'm just having a bad day..

 

Anyway, thanks to anyone who can offer any help or.. anything of the sort..  

[Guest Ginger]

I don't think it's wrong, per se, but you do need to talk this out with the both of them. I think with your Daddy already knowing helps you have a good jump on things. This won't come as a complete and total shock to him. Does the other guy know you're in a relationship? Do you two still talk? If you're talking on a regular basis, but feel bad about it, I'd suggest cutting contact or maybe step away from both relationships and look at them from an outside perspective. Take a breather, give yourself some space from it all to kinda clear your head. Maybe you're poly? I mean, it's definitely not wrong to love two people! It's not my cup of tea, personally, but I know people who enjoy it and have thriving relationships as such.

 

Not too sure if this was much help but I do hope things get cleared up for you

[Guest Kittehmuffin]

No hate from me...what I would say is not to make any commitments or anything until you know for sure what you want or who you want.

Take some time to figure it all out. We can't help who we have feelings for and it might be good to ask yourself what this other person give so you that your Daddy doesn't already.

I really wish you all the best! Xx

[Guest Stevecarr998]

Sorry I Just wanted to check that you and your daddy have met face to face as with any long distance relationship the distance and the difference in time can be hard to overcome

 

Do you think you have feeling for this other guy as he is near to you and not thousands of miles away.Does the other guy know about your love for him and does he reciprocate this.

 

Do you plan on living in England or the USA as your feeling for the other guy may diminish once you are married to your daddy

 

The one thing you must do is decide what you and you daddy both want BEFORE you get married as this cannot go on afterwards

 

I have been married and had LDRs and they can be totally different so I think you and your daddy need to sit down together face to face not Skype if you can and seriously talk this through. Hopefully its just a temporary thing but better to do it now then five years from now

 

Take care and I hope it all works out for you

 

Steve xxx

[Little.Sophie]

I think it's a really good sign that you're talking about it. When you try to deny feelings it makes them stronger.
You could focus on the fact that you know your Daddy and how well you two work and you know your Daddy's flaws and how they don't bother you.
This other guy could have flaws he's not showing you that could be dreadful to live with. What if he doesn't want to be a Daddy, or would be a mean Daddy?
You already have a good Daddy.
You could also try talking to this other guy. Be like I really like you, it's not nice for you to lead me on like this I want these feelings to go away.
Or you could distance yourself and remind yourself how nice your current Daddy is and how much you love him.
Love is a choice you make every day and if you keep choosing your Daddy then eventually this other guy will fade and disappear from your mind.

[DaddysLittleEevee]

I don't think it's wrong, per se, but you do need to talk this out with the both of them. I think with your Daddy already knowing helps you have a good jump on things. This won't come as a complete and total shock to him. Does the other guy know you're in a relationship? Do you two still talk? If you're talking on a regular basis, but feel bad about it, I'd suggest cutting contact or maybe step away from both relationships and look at them from an outside perspective. Take a breather, give yourself some space from it all to kinda clear your head. Maybe you're poly? I mean, it's definitely not wrong to love two people! It's not my cup of tea, personally, but I know people who enjoy it and have thriving relationships as such.

 

Not too sure if this was much help but I do hope things get cleared up for you

 

 

I think I may be poly, but Daddy isn't. We've discussed it, and he just couldn't handle it emotionally. The other guy and I haven't talked since.. I wanna say November of last year? Also, yes. He does know I'm in a relationship. Daddy has spoken to him. 

[DaddysLittleEevee]

I think it's a really good sign that you're talking about it. When you try to deny feelings it makes them stronger.

You could focus on the fact that you know your Daddy and how well you two work and you know your Daddy's flaws and how they don't bother you.

This other guy could have flaws he's not showing you that could be dreadful to live with. What if he doesn't want to be a Daddy, or would be a mean Daddy?

You already have a good Daddy.

You could also try talking to this other guy. Be like I really like you, it's not nice for you to lead me on like this I want these feelings to go away.

Or you could distance yourself and remind yourself how nice your current Daddy is and how much you love him.

Love is a choice you make every day and if you keep choosing your Daddy then eventually this other guy will fade and disappear from your mind.

 

 

Thank you for the wonderful take. I will always choose my Daddy.. so I do hope you're right. I hope they do go away.. Daddy won't really let me talk to him, but maybe it's a good idea to. Maybe it'll help. I'm not sure..

[DaddysLittleEevee]

Sorry I Just wanted to check that you and your daddy have met face to face as with any long distance relationship the distance and the difference in time can be hard to overcome

 

Do you think you have feeling for this other guy as he is near to you and not thousands of miles away.Does the other guy know about your love for him and does he reciprocate this.

 

Do you plan on living in England or the USA as your feeling for the other guy may diminish once you are married to your daddy

 

The one thing you must do is decide what you and you daddy both want BEFORE you get married as this cannot go on afterwards

 

I have been married and had LDRs and they can be totally different so I think you and your daddy need to sit down together face to face not Skype if you can and seriously talk this through. Hopefully its just a temporary thing but better to do it now then five years from now

 

Take care and I hope it all works out for you

 

Steve xxx

 

To answer the first question; Yes we have met irl! 

 

The other guy is also far away tbh.. Not AS far but too far to visit often.

 

Daddy will be moving the the US as soon as he gets his visa, but for now we're planning on living in the UK after the wedding so he can continue working.

 

I am going to visit him in March. I will bring it up to him then. Hopefully things will change. I just want to rid these feelings I guess

[DaddyAlphaca]

No hates ~

 

But as for me, if my partner doubt about her feelings, either she loves me or another person, even she loves me more than she loves him, i prefer she broke me up and choose him. Why?

 

Being the second choice or first of the SECOND choice is not right for love (in my opinion), if she loves me, i have to be her only one and only

 

So maybe make your heart sure, if you miss another guy when you say you love someone, it will hurt him so bad.

[Prince_Towelie]

You need to sort this out before planning any kind of wedding, or wedding date.  It would not be right to plan anything when you are so unsure / confused.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hello there!

 

Before I met Daddy I had my first love... funny thing is... we never dated. At that time he was truly my best friend and I wanted him more than anything. My Daddy knows about him. My Daddy and I are married. When I told my Daddy about him I explained I didn't really want to see him much because it hurt and I didn't know why. He explained that love is a powerful thing and even once you're ready to be rid of it, it's hard to do. He explained he felt the same way about his first love. I do not talk to mine and he doesn't talk to his.

 

 

I was never unsure of my feelings for Daddy. I knew I loved him and wanted only him. Daddy was never unsure of my feelings. I guess what I am getting at is.... sometimes these things just take time, and I don't think you're a horrible person.